To think its a bit control freakery to dictate guests wear a certain colour to a wedding?

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SIL recently announced her engagement, fantastic news.

Recently found out there is a 'black and white' theme.

Now I know it's her day, blah blah, but seriously, we get told what colours to wear? Agh, means 4 new outfits for us all to buy.

AIBU to think its a bit diva-ish?

I might buy school trousers in black for boys though, would that be obvious?

Oh god people are mad.

I wouldn't go dressed up as a bloody chess piece.

I would probably go anyway and sit there with a face on wishing I was dressed like Screaming Lord Sutch.

You are right, it could end up looking like a wake!

We had goths at our wedding. They all turned up in co-ordinated outfits without us having to do anything. Result.

do you have a black jacket or cardi id wear that over whatever dress you have and a black bag but do wear BRIGHT PINK

Bridezilla. Ugly theme for a wedding, anyhow.

YANBU. I think that's the point at which it officially stops being about the marriage ceremony and becomes all about the event.

I mean, I'd follow the dress code but I'd feel more like an extra than a guest, iykwim. At least with a wacktacular 'come in fancy dress!!!!!!!' invite, you get to express some individuality.

can you go as a mime artist, with half white face/half black face?

Snorting at penguin onesie

+1

Least I know I'm not being a complete cow for thinking it is a little ott!

I like your DH's white suit idea - v. John Travolta circa 1970-something!

Yanbu btw - I would be quite narked to get invited to anything where the host expected to dictate what I was wearing, and would go out of my way to circumvent it somehow, but I am a contrary old cow!

I think wedding 'themes' are a bit tacky. Surely the theme is 'Wahey We're Getting Married'

It's all a bit Martine McCutcheon.

Oh, I don't know, I think YAB a little U, I recently did a Nike "fun" run race thing and we all were given yellow tshirts to wear. It was pretty cool really. Why dont you look on eBay, or op shops you might be surprised at what you find- especially if you have weeks to keep an eye out.

Idicrazythings, I would be totally happy for sil to dictate if she was paying for it! I think there's a world of difference between being given a free t shirt to wear on a charity race and telling guests they have to wear a certain colour for a wedding, isn't there?

awwwww now - my sister was/is the least divaish / bridezilla type you could every meet

she had a B+W dress and asked us to wear B+W - everyone looked lovely and it was nice - reg do, small reception - nothing fancy

everyone looked great

Why doesn't she just let everyone wear what they like and get black & white photos?

Thanks all for posting. I know it's more of an annoyance than a biggie. I'll have to venture into S&B and see if one of the experts can find me a cheap stunning, black and white dress for a fussy cow!!

It's extremely bridezilla-ish. But in your position I would probably roll my eyes and go along with it.

Debenhams have got some nice black & white dresses, some of which are in petite sizes, if that's any help.

What time of year is the wedding? She's going to risk it looking like a wake with the odd John Travolta figure looking out of place.

I suppose so OP, but looking at the overall effect of the yellow tshirts (which weren't really that free considering the massively overpriced entrance fee to the event) it looked quite good (even though they were yellow).

Maybe she thinks most people either would buy an outfit anyway, (or part of it); or already have something black or white in their wardrobe or does it have to be "black and white"- that would be more tricky. Hope you find something nice, at a good price . At least she didn't pick yellow!!!

I reckon about 70% of guests wore black to our wedding, with huge black hats too....watching the video, our congregation do look funeral-esq. Stylish but not inkeeping with my vintage peach lace theme (and no, I do not work for Laura Ashley before you open your smart mouth! )

I think it's ok to say the theme is "blah blah blah" and it would be great if you can inkeep with that but you don't have to...obviously better worded than that!

Yes it is control freakery. Guests are guests, not extras in a production.
As it happens, I do have 'dressy' clothes in black and white, but if I didn't have then I wouldn't feel obliged to go out and buy a new outfit in order to fit in with her colour scheme.
Not everyone can afford to buy new clothes for a specific wedding, especially if it's for the whole family and it is rude and inconsiderate for the B and G to place that obligation on their guests. IMO.

Oh please please please please please please please go in the penguin onesie...

..please?

Yanbu and not everyone has something suitable in black and white that they could wear to a wedding. It's a bit bridezillaish to expect all the guests to conform to a colour scheme. Not everyone buys something new to wear to a wedding.

this is not the behaviour of a grown up. End of.