To think its a bit control freakery to dictate guests wear a certain colour to a wedding?

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SIL recently announced her engagement, fantastic news.

Recently found out there is a 'black and white' theme.

Now I know it's her day, blah blah, but seriously, we get told what colours to wear? Agh, means 4 new outfits for us all to buy.

AIBU to think its a bit diva-ish?

Wear the teal. You are a guest, not a fucking prop.

If it's good enough for Elton...

I vote for wearing wedding dress.

Somewhere must do a zebra onesie as well

OP Bend down and kiss the ground and thank God that you are not a bridesmaid! Can you imagine the OTT demands on them?
I think it is completely mad and rude to tell people the colour they have to wear. What comes next? Acceptable hair colours? BMI upper limits?
Your wedding guests are there because they care about you and want to wish you well for your marriage. They are not a cast of extras in your own show. SiL might as well cancel the real, normal looking poeple that she knows and hire some professional wedding guest crowds.

Outfit the whole family in black and white onesies :

• zebra
• penguin
• Dalmatian
• skunk

Make sure you stand front and centre for the group photos

But the weird thing is, the two colours you're usually told NOT to wear to a wedding are white (don't upstage the bride) or black (don't look like you're making a point about the doooooOOOOooomed marriage).

YANBU

To ask is okay, but if they really are dictating I wouldn't be very happy. Anyone who wants to insist on a particular item should organise said item for everyone and pay for it.

Every woman should have a little black dress. YABU. Not really, go as a newspaper.

I love the penguin onesie idea! That would be so funny!! for me

I remember someone posting on here that they had all been asked to wear gold. Now, that is a really tricky one.

I don't get what the big deal is. They are throwing (and presumedly paying for) a very expensive party which attendance is completely voluntary. I think they should be able to set whatever stupid conditions they want. If they want to insist that all left handed men over the age of 42 stand on one leg at the stroke of noon they should be able to. Of course I would also assume that if they put that on the invite there would be plenty of people who shook their heads and refused to come.

We threw a birthday party for a five year old that requested that all attendees wear red (the birthday boy's favourite colour at the time). Many parents and siblings also wore red and everyone had a great time. One even dyed her hair to match!

If you're quick you can probably pick up some left over Halloween outfits on the cheap ..... plenty of black and white scope there I'd have thought: witches, vampires, mummies, ghosts ......

..... failing that you can always fall back on those el cheapo fancy dress staples of bin bags, bed sheets and loo roll. All black and white. Job done !

I think I might have a diplomatic migraine that day.

It's very controlling, black and whit just aren't wedding colours (and will horrifying any older relations, or perhaps part of it is a brutal way to prune th list).

The only time I've agreed with a colour request was when someone was marrying across cultural boundaries and asked guests (who might not otherwise have known it was deemed unlucky) not to wear red either. Leaving them the rest of the palette.

But I'd really, really like to have a penguin onesie!

I went to a black and white themed wedding, wasnt the normal outfit I would wear for a wedding but certainly didn't bother me.

I was invited to a 30th with a B&W theme, too. The birthday girl wore red. All very twee.

I did not go!

I went to a Black and White themed wedding, and it was only the wedding party who dressed in B&W. Except for the Mother of the Groom who wore powder blue

Are you sure its the dress code for everyone or is she just saying "we are having a black.and white theme" with regards decor; bridesmaids; flowers?

Unless the dress code was stated on the invite then Id wear the teal

I once went to a wedding where DP was a good friend of the groom. We had become reasonably friendly with the bride, but didn't really know her.

If there was a colour theme, no-one told us about it, but I can believe that the bride would have been a total bridezilla - her sister had a vairy nice wedding the year before, so obviously that needed to be outdone.

I'm not a girly girl and I hate shopping so I wore the only nice dress that I already had and had only worn once or twice before.

So we turn up and all the women are wearing colours from a very narrow pallette and mine was the complete opposite! I stick out like a sore thumb in the wedding photos , but I didn't give a stuff, not really caring about these things.

I don't think the bride really ever liked me and that probably sealed the deal, but she left him less than two years later, and IMHO he's better off without her.

What colour is teal? can't be arsed to google is it silver?

I think that's acceptable in a black and white wedding. It's neutral. Get black shoes and white flower? Make the rest of the family conform and you won't be in Trouble.

Teal is like.dark turquoise.

There is no reason why everywoman should have a little black dress- I don't because I look dreadful in black.

I agree that it's a bit bridezilla-ish but I know someone who did this (not close, we weren't invited!) and the photos looked amazing! Once I had seen them I understood why she wanted it. You do need to have a good set of balls to say it to all your guests though!

I think although you can be a bit pissed off secretly, you would be totally unreasonable to wear a different colour dress, hat, pashmina etc. It is your SiL after all...

I agree with the poster who said that mandatory colour theme weddings are for brides who think it's all about The Big Day and them at the centre of it. Ie people who have rather forgotten what a wedding is really about. So the pictures might look lovely - but are they hoping for some nice wall art, or for invited guests to have a nice day joining them in celebrating an important step in their lives?

Lots of ideas for black and white outfits here

I would be annoyed at first but at least it's not too difficult to wear white or black.
If you haven't already use it as an excuse to get yourself your perfect lbd. I have a couple and have surprised myself how often I have worn them.
Now is ideal as most shops will have them in pre Christmas do's. I'm 5'2 and can get away with coast regular length so try there. Debenhams do good petite range.

sheep what size are you?

I bought a white dress with black trip for a wedding last year. It has a sort of chiffon over blouse as well.

It's a bit mother of the bride.

I like the B&W pics idea

I bet she thinks she'll get everyone in very chic B&W dresses, like the racing in My Fair Lady. What she'll get is lots of people in white summer dresses and suddenly remember why it's not a good plan to wear white to a wedding, as she disappears in her own pictures.