AIBU not to go to SIL's Las Vegas wedding and go to Florida instead?

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DH and I have been saving to go to Florida with DC for two years, we were planning on going next year.

SIL has decided to get married in Las Vegas next year.
We have been invited however the itinerary is not child friendly. Our 4 DC could attend the ceremony and meal but the rest of the five day celebration is just for adults.
My parents have offred to look after DC so we could go however DD 13 is already very upset that she is missing the wedding and DH and I decided that we wouldn't want to go without her and upset her further.

It has now been suggested by PIL that if we can go to Florida then we can go to Las Vegas, and "people" will be greatly offended if we miss her wedding for a holiday.

DH doesn't want to upset his family, but we really want to have our holiday.

Right, just let me clarify!

We are not going to the wedding, DH won't go if DD isn't able to go AND be included in stuff.

We are going to go on a cheaper holiday next year somewhere with waterparks so DC will be happy, we are holding off house renovation to pay for it.

In 2014 we will to to Florida, youngest DC will be 3 and 2 so probably slightly more manageable.

I am disappointed about postponing Florida but glad we will be getting a holiday next year we really need one.

DH admitted he is hurt more than he has let on that SIL has so easily excuded us from her plans. He doesn't want it to become a 'thing' though, and thinks he will end up saying something he regrets if we rock the boat by going to Florida.

Well it's good that you're still getting a holiday, and I do think it will be much better when the youngest are older.

I'm still not sure why there's such a big emphasis on your DD going though?! I've probably missed that somewhere. Brain not functioning today!

The DD was supposed to be a bridesmaid. No telling what else a 13-year-old was supposed to do for the rest of the 4 days of gambling and piss-ups.

DD and SIL are very close, only 13 years between them. She was devastated at not being able to be at the actual ceremony. She will be honorary bridesmaid at the party here.

I see, thanks :)

Sorry if you thought I was being rude. I just thought I'd missed something about DD (which I did!)

Oh no, didn't think that!

Phew!

I think I would just text/email saying 'been saving for 2 years just to take the kids to Florida and we really can't let them down and bugger off to Las Vegas leaving kids behind'

At the end of the day your SIL chose a venue that was child free and abroad - so it's her decision to have some thing people might not be able to attend. She has to accept that not everyone will be there.

Not only are they getting married abroad, having a ridiculously extended celebration, but they also expect family to somehow be able to arrange several days' childcare in a strange country...HELLO EARTH,PLANET BRIDEZILLA CALLING