AIBU not to go to SIL's Las Vegas wedding and go to Florida instead?

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DH and I have been saving to go to Florida with DC for two years, we were planning on going next year.

SIL has decided to get married in Las Vegas next year.
We have been invited however the itinerary is not child friendly. Our 4 DC could attend the ceremony and meal but the rest of the five day celebration is just for adults.
My parents have offred to look after DC so we could go however DD 13 is already very upset that she is missing the wedding and DH and I decided that we wouldn't want to go without her and upset her further.

It has now been suggested by PIL that if we can go to Florida then we can go to Las Vegas, and "people" will be greatly offended if we miss her wedding for a holiday.

DH doesn't want to upset his family, but we really want to have our holiday.

YANBU to put your (already booked?) family holiday first.

What is your SIL expecting your children to do for the remainder of the five day jolly in LV if they're not part of the ongoing celebrations? Have your PILs given that any consideration either?

If it's easy and cheap to do, I'd look into flying over to LV from Florida for the ceremony and reception but I wouldn't bow to pressure to cancel my long-awaited family holiday or mess it all up with a prolonged trip to LV.

Tell your DH not to feel bad, his sister has made plans that exclude you.

Go to Florida! People are free to have their wedding where and how they want but if their plans are too expensive or un child friendly then they have to expect that some wont be able to make it and accept that fact graciously.

Agree with other posters, go to Florida, if you could fly in for the ceremony then great if not don't break your back to get there.

My DB and his wife married there (Vegas), invited us all (I was a single parent with no other childcare options), I was also asked to be Maid of Honour. My mum paid for us all to go myself and my young DS and my other bro and his young family, which was so great of her. To make the most of such a long trip for one day she also booked us tickets for SeaWorld and Disneyland before hand for a few days in CA.

Apparently this was not acceptable to SIL to be, as soon as we told her what we were going to do she dumped me as MOH and blanked us for the whole time we were there for the wedding. Even flew in a day early at her demand but they all buggered off to a show and left us standing in reception. Which was nice of her.

Do what you want, fuck the PIL passive aggressive bullshit.

Bridezilla much? TBH she has shown herself to be a complete loon since then so my DB is welcome to her.

Book the holiday.

I would give a limb to be able to take my family to Florida.

You have saved for years. Go. Enjoy. And let me holiday vicariously through you.

Please don't let this spoil your hard worked for holiday.

Your children are only children once, you only get one stab at building memories with them and they will be grown up all too quickly.

How much would you regret giving up Florida for las Vegas? Especially when you celebrate with the happy couple afterwards and it's something for you all to enjoy post holidays/wedding.

You've saved for 2 years, go to Florida!

It would be at least a 4.5 hour flight, plus transfer times to airports. Also the cost of all that.
It would mean missing a chunk of your long awaited Florida holiday.

go to florida, if she wants to get married abroad she can either pay for the people she wants there to go or accept not everyone will be there.

Also, 4 more days of events???? I've got to overseas weddings and the 'things we had to attend' was just the wedding day! She's taking the piss if she thinks you'll use all your family holiday budget to go on a holiday where your DCs will just be dumped with a childminder for the whole time, or that you'll use your family holiday budget for a holiday just for you and DH and not take your DCs on holiday. I assume if it's taken 2 years to save for this holiday you would take another 2 years before you could do florida as a family, not acceptable.

Go to Florida instead and relay your apologies to your SIL.

Internal flights within the US can be expensive. You would also have to use Southwest (Ryanair's business model is this airline, you have thus been warned) and they will charge you for the second and any subsequent suitcases put in the hold. You won't likely receive any discounted fares for the children either.

Go to Florida. If it were important to her to have everyone there, then she would have chosen to get married at home, at a time when everyone was available.
She's absolutely entitled to get married wherever, and however she wants to, but she just can't expect everyone else to make big financial and time commitments to be there.

Also LV at Easter time can be damn hot (think daytime temp in the upper 80s). Weather is much more pleasant in Orlando at Easter time, infact to my mind it is one of the best times of year to visit that city.

Go to Florida.

SIL was fine when we initially told her we weren't going and she has made DD bridesmaid for the party here.

I think PIL were fine with thinking we couldn't afford the wedding but not happy to find out it's our choice not to go. MIL was upset for days when BIL's wedding arrangements meant SIL had to miss part of the day.

Have heard mixed opinions about LV being ok for DC. In anycase it wouldn't be our choice of destination.

Thanks all for feedback, just glad we haven't told DC about florida so if DH does decide not to rock the boat they won't be disappointed.

PILs are being unreasonable. You can't afford the wedding. Not without 'finding the money' by cancelling the holiday you planned. So you can't afford the wedding.

I think it would be a bit odd though for your DH to be in the same country (albeit a big country) as the one where his sister is getting married and not attend. I would look into him taking an internal flight and taking 24 hours out of your family holiday to go to the main ceremony and reception part.

Oh, please, internal flights from one end of the country to the next for six people during the Easter holidays are not cheap, and if you've had to save for 2 years to Florida you won't have a spare $500 or so to blow on her jolly (and I highly doubt 6 of you can fly return to LV for $500 with tax anyhow). Not to mention lodging. Someone will chime up with, 'Lodging's not expensive in Henderson' or something like that, but there's next to no public transport there, you'd have to take a taxi or rent a car.

She chose to get married abroad. Tough if people don't bend over backwards to go.

Your family comes first. PIL's can go get knotted.

As as for sending him on his own, look at the prices for even one. It's not cheap and it's far. People are forgetting how geographically large the US is.

I've been to LV many times as I used to live in Denver and it was a fun long-weekend for me and my female friends. It's not cheap. There's stuff to do for kids but it's $$$.

PILs need to keep out of it

It's not choosing to be in Florida rather than in LV. Its having a holiday planned and saved for then having to give that up to please them. And what are you supposed to do with the dc while you are in LV?

And who the hell has a 5 day wedding celebration??

That's what I said to DH MmeLindor it's not the same thing two weeks of my DC dream holiday or five days of SIL's dream wedding.

Go to Florida yanbu they are. Besides, I got stuck in Vegas for 4 days with DH on our honeymoon ( outgoing flights cancelled), it's a flea pit, hated it. You had your holiday planned, they are doing this of their own choice.....don't worry about it and don't be pressured.

Could you show your DH this thread?