to want to drop a foreign friend?

[livingintheeast]

Firstly let me get one thing straight - I am not a rascist and I have a foreign mother (a genuine one not one of those that people sometimes invent just to prove how PC they are). It is a real bugbear of mine that my foreign friend will constantly talk to her lo in their mother tongue. They are both perfectly capable of speaking english - the mother talks to me/my lo in english and the lo talks to me/my lo in english. Personally I find it blooming rude and so irriatating that I'm not sure I want to be around them much at all. Even my lo has resorted to asking me (in her 2.5 year old way) what they are saying - and I don't have a clue! I know my friend wants her lo (also 2.5) to know her mother tongue but surely on a playdate, with english people etc it's just common courtesy to speak in english. AIBU?

i was presuming, perhaps wrongly, that the children in question speak another language with both parents, not just one. And just trying to illustrate that there is no right or wrong way because it's not that black and white, there are lots of variables in location and family circumstance which affect choices made

Spoons Ah, I see. Yes, most of the children are speaking non-English at home with both parents.
You're right about it being so variable. It's more an issue of manners I think rather than anything to do with language and OPOL and what have you.