"There's nothing to eat in this house!" - DS17 complains

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Apparently there is "nothing to eat" and I am "vindicktive" because I won't give DS(17) money for a kebab and I'm "leaving him with no T and in a foul mood". (The swearing and nasty verbal abuse he's given me are evidence of that ).

We have in our cupboards/freezer, right now: pasta (spaghetti, fusilli and macaroni), rice, bread, flour, cereal (tho no milk cos he drank it all), pizza bases, eggs, cheese, tins of beans and tomatoes, veg sausages, veg burgers, onions, courgettes, mushrooms, toms, apples, pears, tinned tuna and sardines... Not to mention the nuts, lentils, chickpeas, etc... And more...

Oh, and I did make tea - a veg/tofu stir-fry with rice - and saved him some although he wasn't home, which he has now eaten...

But he "wants to eat something that doesn't look like it comes out of a rabbit's arse" (i.e. veggie food=rabbit droppings)

He wanted a kebab, bacon, crisps, biscuits, a ready meal... Something junky, basically.

I didn't want to buy him a kebab partly because we have plenty of food in, partly because I think junk food is a waste of money, but largely because he was being rude.

I think he's being unreasonable, probably because he's hungry... But am I also BU not to buy him a kebab? And more generally, AIBU -

• to expect him to make himself something out of what we have in the cupboards?
• not to keep a constant supply of snacks/junk food in the house?
• to expect him to be polite when he asks me for money, even if he's hungry?

Peace and love people.

Haha, loving this but TBH OP does seem to be a tad controlling.

Go on then old why controlling?

Also liking the castigation of OP for not being veggie enough re the fish. Comedy gold apart from the DS who's childhood is sadly caught up in all this. Why does no-one think of the childre, wails and looks beseeching towards heaven.....

math tbh you don't sound like you have a clue what your talking about

math, you have accused me of 'creating an abuser', of 'begrudging my child food', of 'being controlling', of 'being defensive', of 'being obstinate', of 'drip feeding' because I don't want to tell you more, and of being 'sanctimonious' because I told you that you were being insulting.

Even worse, you have talked about my son using words that are highly emotionally-charged and offensive: as being 'violently abusive' and 'unleashed' (like a wild animal) 'on an unsuspecting public', as having a 'personality issue', and being 'a little jerk'.

You don't know him. You don't know me. You have few facts and you are making outrageous assumptions.

No-one else - literally no-one - has drawn these conclusions or felt so free to attack me and my son. Other people have been able to disagree or argue civilly. Only you have felt the need to harass me.

I have no idea why this post has caught your attention and held it so firmly. Perhaps you are confusing my situation with something that has happened to you? Perhaps you just feel like being nasty. But I'll say it again: Your posts are offensive. Now just stop.

It really is comedy gold, OldMumsy.

Am always impressed at the ability of some people to read between lines.

I'm not reading between the lines, those are direct quotations from your posts.

Pot kettle much math

Give it a bloody rest eh math?

The OP said that if she gave her 17 year-old son an extra twenty a week, he'd probably spend it on drink, skunk, or junk food. I love how this has been turned (by the same couple of posters who are otherwise willing to excuse his rudeness as 'hungry teenage boy') into a drugs problem from which the OP is "hiding her head in the sand".

At 17, spending disposable income on drink, cannabis, and junk food is a pretty widespread practice. Even by teens not in need of third-party intervention. Doesn't mean it's good behaviour (which I think the OP was well aware of) but the leap from her statement to the accusations (yes, that's what they were) of incompetent parenting are laughable.

I do not know a single teen who would spend extra money on skunk.

I think far too many people are far too complacent about underage drinking and pot use. Skunk is more potent than pot, which will leave you with a high, fits of laughter and the munchies, brain impairment and less cash than you would have otherwise. Skunk has horrible side effects for some, including personality change and aggressive behaviour. Withdrawal can leave someone feeling as bad as or worse than tobacco withdrawal leaves you (irritable, feeling sick, etc)

math you don't know what teenagers spend their money on and skunk is not something the majority of them go home and tell their mums about.

If you don't know this I'd say it's you who has your head buried in the sand.

I said I do not know any who spend their money on skunk, not that no teens spend their money on skunk, and I think I would know if those teens that I know were using it. It has a distinctive smell (hence the name) and you can tell if someone has been using it or around someone who uses it. You don't have to tell mum -- if mum has a nose then mum will figure it out.

Don't be ridiculous the smell doesn't linger on them all day especially if their only smoking small amounts

It's actually called skunk because of the pungent smell it gives off whilst growing

DD1 (19) just read your OP, snorted and said 'wanker'.

Succinct, but true.

Maybe I just have a better sense of smell than some.

It will linger on your clothes and hair just the same as cigarette smoke will. Your breath will give you away even if you go to the trouble of changing clothes. And washing your hands to get the smell of the joint off the fingers won't work either. Resin that gets on clothes is really difficult to wash out. Resin smells too..

Skunk smoke has a very distinct skunk smell that lingers. You can smell it in a building or in an enclosed space where it has been smoked. You can smell it on people who sit beside you on the train or bus.

You would probably notice a teen with a skunk habit was perpetually short of money too.