Because i dont bloody well think i am!

[mosschops30]

Was away for work sun- tues, dh looked after dcs but did nothing else, food on worktoos, no washing done etc.
So yesterday i tidy up as best i can (working full time) trying to catch up on washing.
Dh and ds1 on xbox as usal.
Same tonight, finished dinner, ds2 wants to go to bed and dh and ds1 sit down for an xbox game. So i am left with all the ckearing up, washing worktops, loading dishwasher etc.
Then i spyed ds1 jumper just thrown on kitchen floor and i asked him to come and pick it up, no repky so i said i woukd count to 3, then dh pipes up 'whoa hold on we're in the middle of a game.
At which point i really lost it, went into living room and attempted to turn tv off but dh blocked me (not pushing me just putting his arm up). Ds1 is laughing through all this which i think is pretty disgusting.
I told dh he should not be encouraging this behaviour of throwing your stuff on the floor and then laughing at your own mother.
Dh said i was 'psychotic' and 'totally out of order' and took ds1 up to our room where they have been since.

So am i out of order? I am friggin livid!

We are really looking forward to a girls night out!
I said fgs why can't you just get over yourself and stop dragging it out. He replied 'because I don't like you'!

Fine by me matey I don't like you either

I know you didn't want to hear 'leave the bastard' type comments, but he just said that he doesn't like you. This is a bit more than him being a lazy git and taking you for granted. That is proper spiteful.

At the very least, you need to completely renegotiate how your household functions on a practical level and have some serious conversations about how you both view the future and whether the other person is part of that vision.

Have a good night moss and imagine how good it would be if you weren't coming back to this useless tosser at the end of it...

I like your style mosschops. DH thinks he's ruining your treat but instead you go and have a nice girls night out with your DD. I bet DH will be sitting at home feeling all sorry for himself.

As long as he's not financially bullying you as well, that's all I was concerned about. Unfotunately any of his debt is yours as well cos you're married...

Have a great girlie night out, I can't believe he is still sulking sounds like he completely knows he's in the wrong tbh!

Please just talk to him properly
You need to adjust all the goalposts
Of course he is being unreasonable
But you need to sit down and discuss what needs to be done

Would you consider getting some household help with cleaning / ironing? It does sound like dh has his good points & this is becoming a huge issue. U both need to take a step back and consider where you are going with this. I do think he has a point to an extent after all he was playing with one of the kids!

Well you couldn't make it up what happened to me last night?
Who wants a laugh?
(Although I'm not laughing about it yet)

Oh dear, you ok?

What happened mosschops?

Oh dear. I'm new to this thread but suspect this won't be funny...

Soooo...? What did he do?

Where is Anyfucker ?

Moss, I really feel for you, it sounds as if you're starting to realise how much of a twat he is being/has been and that's a difficult thing.

So I had a nice meal with dd, small glass of wine and went to see show which was hilarious. At half time I said to dd that I have stomach pain but thought it was just bloating after dinner.
Went back to watch the show, felt a bit sick, told dd I was going to toilet, got up, walked towards the doors was dizzy, couldn't see, fell thru the doors collapsed, vomited everywhere and then proceeded to lose all my bodily functions

They wrapped me in a sheet, took me to the toilets, removed all my clothes, it was awful

Dd rang Dh, who turned up to the stage door like a night in shining armour with spare clothes, baby wipes and dressing gown.
He proceeded to pass me tissues throughout the night whilst I threw up.

So there it is, my most mortifying night ever with some killer bug that is still attacking me

Oh God, poor, poor you

(Are you still mad at him?)

Well I'm sorry you're ill but now he's a 'knight in shining armour'?

You poor thing! What a nightmare.

You know what I mean though, of course he's still a nob and I am still not doing his washing or ironing.
But I really needed him last night and he was there which is also what marriage is about

Mosschops0 (sorry number three on keyboard is on strike!), I understand that you mean about him being there when you needed him to be. So yes, in that respect he was a knight in shining armour. Hopefully you can do absolutely nothing today other than get better and then sort out the other stuff when you are up to it.

Hope you are better soon. Don't worry about being mortified at what happened - it could have happened to anyone.

Well it's good he is there for you and I hope you feel better soon

However, stress and upset dont help wars off illnesses

He has cleaned the bathroom, and has taken boys out so I am hoping to get some sleep now

he was there which is also what marriage is about

Well, yes. But I have a number of friends who would also have 'rescued' me in that situation. To NOT have come and picked you up would have been an incredibly shitty (sorry ) thing to do, doesn't mean he's a knight in shining armour because he did what normal human decency required.

Hesterton, your description of sulking is such an eye opener. Thank you for that! It all makes sense - I used to sulk a lot as a child, too. Makes me wonder if I still do it now??