To feel really very hurt by my SIL.

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My brother and his wife have just had their first baby (yay!), a beautiful little girl. I wanted to get them something special, or what I thought was special, so I started making a basket up for them a few months ago, adding to it when I could afford to.

I put in bodysuits, babygrows, a music box, teething ring, a couple of little dresses, little soft toys, practical stuff like nappies, wipes, muslins etc. I also made some wee trinkets for DN for when she is older (I make silver jewellery). I decorated the basket with ribbons and balloons and took it round on Saturday and DB and SIL seemed very happy with it. DB rang me when I got home to say thanks again.

Today at work, DB rang and asked me to drop by on my way home from work and pick something up that I'd left there. So he opens the door and we're chatting in the hall. SIL was in the living room and clearly didn't hear me come in as I hear her say 'Yeah, Diddy was here on Saturday. Yes a basket of crap then laughs. DB was mortified and started to walk into the living room but I stopped him, said it didn't matter and left. She's just had a baby and I didn't want them fighting.

However, now I feel really hurt. I put so much thought into the basket and I know that perhaps it wasn't a fancy present but I thought she, in particular, would appreciate it. And most of all, I thought she was my friend. Am I being a twattish sensitive idiot?

What a wonderful gift, I'd have been chuffed to pieces with it.

Wish I could think of something constructive to say about you sil, but I can't , she sounds as though there's a darker side to her character.

I loved presents like that, and often make them for baby shower gifts.

Is there any chance the word "crap" wasn't meant as the stuff is crap? That she meant it as in a basketful of stuff? She may have baby brain right now?

I don't think you are an "idiot" at all.

I don't want to make even more of a twat of myself.< Your SIL is the one who should be dying of mortification!

Crap is a negative word meaning rubbish, junk that kind of thing

Howling at the 3 ft high Dora the explorer doll :o:o:o

Your sister in law definitely needs one if then!

of them

Oh but you have years of revenge ahead of you...

A nice tin drum, some Chinese crap that shrieks randomly in the night, that you can't turn off (we had a "Telotubby" - its eyes used to flash red and it used to shriek "Tell me what you want, what you really, really want" in the tones of a Chinese eunuch), a Barbie poodle that screams "grown ups are coming!" at every possible opportunity, the aforementioned glitter, moonsand, plasticine (gets into the carpet and is a bitch to get out), non-washable paint, Polly Pocket (a bitch if you tread on it in the night, ditto Lego)...oooh, the possibilities are endless!

I would have absolutely loved a gift like that.

Like the one you made! Not any of the things I've suggested!

Oh and who can forget.
Multiple toys that sing HELLO PUPPY CALLING .....,

What an utter cow.

you did a lovely thing and any normal person would have been thrilled. A thoughtful gift of useful things. You took time to create something personal.

And she was sneery and dismissive.

That says all we need to know about you, and all we need to know about her.

don't feel like a twat. Hold your head high. Wouldn't you rather be a kind hearted person who likes to think about other people than someone who sneers and laughs at people behind their back?

And a baby can throw up and shit into a 99p babygro as well as they can into a gucci one. (I have no idea if gucci do them, it's just the first expensive guff name that came to mind )

she should feel ashamed of herself, but sadly, the sort of person who can sneer like that will probably not.

But don't you go feeling bad! This is of her making. At least you know now what she is like. You can protect yourself once you know what someone is like.

I'd have given anything for someone to have cared enough about me or either of my children for them to give me a basket of crap like the one you gave your SIL.

I can believe what a rude, ungrateful bitch she sounds. I wonder what she was expecting?

I also wonder if your brother told her you overheard hear?

Don't know about about Gucci, but look at these

I perused the harrods site when pregnant with DS, but ended up buying some for 1.50 in asda

I hope he did.

If I heard my husband saying something like that, I would think less of him from that day on.

namechange - HOW MUCH? Talk about more money than sense.

£170 for a vest!

I don't even get why. It's white. It's not even like you'd look at it and not be able to resist!

I got a similar present from DH's aunt when my DS was born and I was absolutely delighted with it, it was by far the best present we got because it contained so many useful things that we hadn't necessarily thought to buy, like nappy cream. Your SIL is a cow.

It was such a lovely present.

I am howling at the inappropriate toys and second the haunted musical toys and tickle me elmo.

It sounds like a really thoughtful gift, I would have been thrilled with something like that not that my sil would ever do that, she doesn't 'do' babies and invariably dd gets nothing from them

Can I add a vtech (I think) Winnie the pooh talking phone to the list. Seriously the most depressing toy we owned, pooh sounded like he was about to end it all!

Toot toot toy garage with lots of irritating cars, it's the most annoying and loud toy ever....do it. When the batteries run low ( lasts months ) it's even worse, you won't regret it!

Your gift sounded lovely.

I would have loved that present when I had any of my babies. She is a mean grabby bitch and you are wonderful and thoughtful. I hope your DB does tell her you heard and I hope she does apologise.

aww,that sounds like a lovely gift!! I would have been really impressed with that!! what a nasty sil ..... I'm not surprised your upset!!

Can you hire yourself out as a SIL? You sound the nicest SIL MN has ever had!

The basket of thoughtful and handmade presents is delightful, so personal. But your best quality is not causing a scene between two new parents when one of them was a thoughtless twat. The way you thought of your brother brings tears to my eyes.

You will be such a fab Aunt too

Has she not phoned to apologise/say it was a misunderstanding yet?

what a BITCH!!!!

agree witk kekouan

find a moment, and call her on it

honestly! upset for you

thats something very hard to forgive IMO

Your brother sounds lovely. You are lovely. Your SIL is a total bitch and does not deserve your thoughtful present. She is clearly one of those idiots who has jumped on the "designer" wagon and has snotty chats with her equally idiotic friends in order to feel superior to everyone else. As it's impossible to please these people you shouldn't put any thought into future presents for her. If you give her anything at Christmas (I wouldn't) make it something that requires no thought - Boots gift voucher perhaps? What a total cow she is.

My in laws got us a basket of gifts and we loved it. They were waiting with it when DD and i got back from hospital with a lovely dinner. I was very touched. I even kept the big basket and use it as DD's toy box.

kendodd is right get them a VTech walking frame thing. I feel violent towards 'HELLO PUPPY CALLING'. Shut the fucking fuck up my head says while I have to say 'oh DD, you want to play puppy says' in a mumsy sort of voice.