Too feel devastated for the wife of the teacher who has run off to France with his 15 year old pupil?

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What on earth went through his head when he decided to do this?! The poor woman has taken all her social networks down out of humiliation I presume. link

Crazy.

It's the 15 year old I feel sorry for, she is a CHILD. My friend did something similar at the same age with a teacher, it made it into the National press just as this has and she NEVER escaped it. She moved abroad in her thirties in the end because no one ever forgot.

I think we have to feel sorry for the girl, her parents as well as this teacher's wife. They are all victims in this, especially the 15 year old whose trust has been completely abused.

Very sad for his and the child he's taken with him, hopefully the police are very close to tracking him down

Devastated is a bit strong, on behalf of a complete stranger. I'm sure she is though. Awful for all concerned really.

I don't think these situations ever end well for anyone involved.
I had a close friend at secondary school, she was extremely bright and the only student in the whole year group to be an Oxbridge candidate.
She had additional tuition with one of the teachers to prepare her for the exam. He proceeded to start an affair with her. Then he broke it off.
She didn't even sit her A-levels in the end and couldn't hold down a job.

I'm not sure how many of her problems would have existed without the affair, but it certainly made things a whole lot worse.

Being very generous to the man involved, sometimes 15 - 16 year olds can appear much more mature than they actually are. But she is 15 - it's illegal to have a full relationship with her. How could he not understand that it wasn't right?

I feel sorrier for his victim and her parents.

I hope the teen return home safe unharmed
and it end of his teaching career
his wife hasn't done anything wrong, and Hooe her oaks/family support her

I am surprised at the let's hope he sees some sense and comes to his senses

He knew exactly what he was doing he groomed her, he did not suddenly lose sense of himself. I hope he not only loses his job but is charged with having sex with an underage girl and everything else they can charge him with i am sorry his family have to pay the price for his actions too

he's supposed to be responsible qualified professional
he's abused his power,status and influenced her enough to extent they ran away
he deserves a custodial sentence and to go on register.children need protected from predatory adults

It's just a mess all round.

What is a 30 year old man thinking of running away with a school.

On second thoughts that's pretty obvious.

Scumbag.

I totally agree

If this were a male pupil I doubt we would be hearing silly man what was he thinking of remarks

doesnt matter how mature she appeared - as her teacher he KNEW she was 15 - I couldn;t imagine, at 30, having a relationship with a 15 year old client - I once had a client become a bit over attached so I withdrew and had a colleague take over - I don;t know what possesses an adult to go 'oh well I'll just run off with you'

I feel for her and his wife

How does op know she has closed her social networks?

Happened at our school too, a music teacher had a "relationship" with a 14 year old, when it all came out he was sacked and jailed but she was devestated.

Last we heard of her she kept getting pissed, fell off a wall and was wheelchair bound :(

hes a predatory male.twice her age
she's not expected to be mature enough to deflect such attention
he however is expected to know don't get involved with students

YABU to feel devastated for anything that doesn't directly concern you, IMO.

he will go on register and maybe custodial sentence
and the 15yo will need support to recover
as will her family

I'm hoping that he's guaranteed a prison sentence?

He's a piece of crap. His wife has nothing to be ashamed of.

I don't think he's a silly man.

If he's had sex with her he's a pedophile. And even if he hasn't he's totally betrayed everyone.

Having a relationship with a student you are teaching is never right IMO, and this girl is under age to boot. Even if they are in love with each other and go on to marry and have a permanent relationship, it has begun in an unacceptable way.
Yes, I feel sorry for the wife and children, but the girl is a child too, and he abused the relationship they had.
I'd feel exactly the same if it were a 15 year old boy and a teacher

Oh how horrible for everyone concerned. Domino says he seemed like such a good guy - why on earth did the idiot do this? Hope the runaway is found safe and well very soon.

no nice guys dont have relationships15 yo girls or run off with them
maybe a laugh in staffroom to other adults,that's different mileu
but now exposed as the predatory and manipulative man he is

He might of groomed her from a young age considering he was her teacher.We don't how long its been going on for.How horrible for her,her family and his wife