I live in a council flat - do not judge me!

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DS2 had a friend round for tea yesterday (I brought them from school). When his mum picked him up she seemed rather perturbed that we live in a 3rd floor council flat in a shitty area of town. She was very red faced and flustered (maybe from the walk up the stairs which I have to do with a toddler and shopping at least 3 times a day?) and rather short with me saying 'How on earth did you end up living here'.

Now my DS has been attending his school for 5 years (now in Yr6) in a fairly affluent area as we used to live in this affluent area ourselves! We have never had this lad round before but DS has always played with him and I have always said 'hi' to his mum.

It took a lot of courage to invite a school friend of the DCs round as I am already very upset about living here so this has just made me feel 10 times worse.

This morning the mum completely blanked me and DS said his friend has said he can't come to his house.

AIBU to think that she must think I am scum now or something? The flat is very clean btw and DSs friend was quite happy.

She sounds like a complete bitch to be honest. Where you live shouldn't make a blind bit of difference and its HER who has the problem, not you.

We have never had this lad round before when we lived near the school in the lovely house we used to own before I got ill and everything went tits up!

What an oddball!!

Why should where you live bother her?

Most people don't act like this - don't be put off having people round.

Don't take it personally. Anyone who will restrict their child's friendship based on where that chid lives is an arse. There's no cure for being an arse.

She's the one who should be ashamed for being so rude about where you live. People's lives change and its when you are at your lowest that you find out who your friends are.

what a horrible woman, so sorry op
please don't believe that everyone thinks this way although sometimes it can feel like it, I know (as minority single parent in affluent village)

You've had a lucky escape OP.

YANBU. She probably does think your scum but it says a lot more about her and her insecurities than it does about you.

Unbelievable - what a bigot.

God - I wish I did'nt feel so bloody ashamed and had the guts to go up to her this morning and ask her what her problem was.

That's terrible, what a shameful response from the mother Make sure it doesn't put you off inviting other children, I'm sure most people aren't that stuck up and unpleasant.

Uh huh

You should ask her what her problem is. What a shame for her child too.

Hold your head high. And don't let her put you off having your DC's friends over.

I know it should'nt have but it has put me off any more invitations in a big way.

Proudnscary Uh huh?

She sounds horrible. Don't be ashamed. She should be ashamed.

I hope there are some nicer mums at the school.

Don't feel ashamed. It's her problem not yours.

Seriously, most people really aren't like this.

it's out there, sadly
discrimination based on perceived weath alive and kicking
Don't feel shame op, shame means they've won, you have nothing to be ashamed of (unlike the ghastly mum)

Well, THAT was rude of her.

What a bitch. Don't be upset.

Horrible woman.

"There is no cure for being an arse." is very, very true. What a total and utter idiot that woman is and what a shame for her son if her attitude rubs off on him.

TBH I don't really care what the mum thinks of me. I am more concerned about the impact on my DS and my other DCs of how other people percieve us.

At least you have manners. And probably a very nice home too.

What judgey bitchbag.