to think it's bizarre that it seems acceptable to slag off posh people

[fartattack]

simply because they are posh. And to show not compassion for the well off with issues unrelated to wealth simply because they are well off.

I overheard someone today call a well spoken guy a "posh twat" in such a nasty way simply because he was well spoken.

I also see posters on here become dismissive and rude to posters the minute they find out their children are at private school or are high earners.

AIBU to think it's wrong that this reverse snobbery is almost acceptable within society?

MY daughter was called posh at school as well and the cooler girls would really take the piss it isn't fair just because she knows how to say please thank you and excuse me and she isn't as loud as they were

"being brought up properly costs nothing and is conducive to a nicer environment to live in."

But if you imply to someone that they haven't been "brought up properly" you're criticising them for something which wasn't their decision. So it comes across as snobbery and prejudice.

Agreeing with fartattack. (Even though her name is GRIM)

I can't even say fart in RL was a bit of a push to type it and I agree with ermm the Op too,

I got it once or twice at school, because we lived in a large house. To pay for that we went months without seeing my dad, or mum traipsed us to the far corners of the earth in between. I did once say that he was in prison for being a bank robber though.

inabeautifulplace, so what you're saying is that you DON'T think that you should teach your children morals and values and should just leave them to it?

That's what you infer by turning your nose up at the prospect of 'being brought up properly'

TudorJess, I know plenty of people who have had less than interested parents who have still managed to grow up with a decent moral compass.

If people choose not to adhere to a moral code and behave like a reasonable human being then it's not snobbery to think less of them for it.

I don't think it's prejudiced to recognise when somebody is behaving like an absolute arse and think less of them for it.

I didn't even live in a big house though I lived in a council house and we live in a 2 bed ex council flat I don't understand it not that slagging people off in big houses is right either.

Op here

I have changed my name to be more, well polite

orangeandgoldmrsdevere

I am specifically talking about a thread on AIBU, second page now, about school shoes.

LMFAO @ the name change. tips hat

Can you link to the other thread fartfeatures?

sure hang on........

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1563888-to-feel-annoyed-that-all-girls-school-shoes

I don't actually see much of what you describe on Mumsnet.

I can't help it but I feel a knee-jerk reaction of slight dislike towards the very wealthy. I associate all that with over-consumption, obsessive ambition, tax avoidance, superficial values, super competitiveness and that kind of thing. The super rich have skewed house prices in London, for instance. And the second homes thing. And all that. I certainly can't bring myself to admire anyone for being wealthy.

Mintyy, so, in theory, if you had a very rich friend who was absolutely lovely and kind and stuck by you through everything.... you would slightly dislike them for being a bit wealthy?

Mintyy

But some of the wealthy that you have a knee jerk reaction to dislike actually pay massive amounts of tax that keeps lots of kids in school and lots of hospital bills paid. Why lump all wealthy people together and have a slight dislike for them.

No, not my friends, obvs.

usual

I am hoping you are joking, right? Your comment is text book.

Eurgh that other thread is not naice.

How can SCHOOL shoes turn into a bloody warzone?

usualsuspect. Have you ever met anyone who wouldn't let your kids play together because of the kind of house you live in?

If that was the case then yes, you should dislike them, but not because they're better off. You should dislike them because they are complete arseholes.

To be fair Mrscumberbatch it did seem to me just to be one or two, as always

The massively wealthy can pay all that tax and still be massively wealthy. Are you saying the rest of us should be grateful? Wayne Rooney is an example of someone who is massively wealthy - well he is mostly paid by the people who come to watch him play. The massively wealthy don't get wealthy in a bubble, their money doesn't come out of thin air. It mostly comes from the much and sometimes very much less well off.

I think there's far more prejudice towards the working classes. I know of quite a few people who won't let their children go and play in the homes of council estate kinds because they "don't want them on the estate". It's utterly pathetic.