TO THINK MIXED RACE PEOPLE ARE TREATED DIFFERENTLY?

[MyBaby1day]

As a young woman who is half Asian, half English I think this is so. I also have an illness (and maybe good genes too ) that also makee me look a LOT younger than my age and when people see me quite a few (especially women) smile like cheshire cats.....maybe I'm just being too suspicious but somehow I don't always think it's genuine. Kind of like spot me (smiling)......"oh sweet half Asian girl"...I walk away....YUK!, how could her Mother! . Then you get people who as soon as they see a white woman in tow with a clearly looking half Asian person....lets just say the look on their face says it all!. Some people are cool with it but I just think when it happens it's oppressive and wrong!. I NEVER judge other people (who behave in a reasonably decent way) and think everyone else should be the same. Before anyone asks I am very happy about my racial heritage, tapping into both my Asian and English roots (the Asian side kind of dominates) but overall love it. I must also be fair and say I have also had prejudice of some Asian people also (but not half as much). I just thought I'de raise the issue!, it might help in the fight against racism. Your thoughts?.

Yes, which illness makes you 'look young'?

..coz I wanna catch it!!!

WorldCitizen - without knowing its easy to assume her youngest children have the same father and that just the eldest has a different dad. She is married to the father of the youngest and i think it's quite normal to have 2 different fathers for your Dc so I would say that the comments are definately from a race angle.

Even at school she was known by a horrible nickname as her boyfriend (and father to the eldest) was Asian - they had been together years (and ironically some of the biggest name callers and bullies have gone on to have mixed race relationships themselves)

She definately gets more comments about the elder child (Asian/white) I'm not sure why this is really. We live in a very mixed area so it's not as if people have never seen a mixed race child before.

She went on a date once and the topic of her child came up - having a child was fine. He asked her child's name, it would have been very obvious the child was mixed race - not fine. He left.

She faced this kind of thing every day. Like she is less of a person or has committed some sort of crime. The hugely unfunny joke that we heard over and over about her working her way around the world and what sort of baby would she be having next etc. I don't think she gets it as much now (her eldest is 9) whether that's because times have changed or because she's married or because she spends less time in new social situations I don't know.

Half chinese/scottish here. Haven't suffered any racism as an adult, although there were the odd comment from other children in the playground when i was at primary. However, i know my mum suffered a torrent of abuse, some from her own family, when she had me.

How old are you?

Dinosaurthanks for sharing. Really thanks.I don't even know what to say

you say you dont judge people but your interpreting everybodys behavior as racist so you are judging i,m sorry if you experience nasty remarks etc ecause of your heritage i hope there will soon be a time when ignorance does nt exist i for one work for a large mental health trust in the north west on my small ward alone staff wise my manager is african another collegue is turkish a third is spanish a woman i work with her ex husband is from palestine he is her elder daughters dad and her current partner has asian heritage my son goes to a catholic school with a fair amount of children with fillipino , polish and african heritage, iask my collegues about there backgrounds beleifs not because i,m racist but because it interests me and we often talk about our different beleifs

I think you sound paranoid and a bit of a chip on your shoulder TBH, you think people smiling at you is something sinister, of course there is horrible prejudice around but your post is strange ,

Read your post and my first thought was; oh shut up .

You sound totally paranoid.

Yes, the post is strange, especially when written in the middle of the night/early morning. Now OP probably went to bed sleeping of the hang-over

If you are that good looking, be grateful you don't live in Paris, as you would be regularly stopped by random men telling you that you were "charming" "superb" or "ravishing". This has (unsurprisingly) never happened to me but used to happen to one of my colleagues whenever she walked down the street. She was a bit of a bitch, so I felt that the "charming" epithet was stretching it a bit, but she was stunning, tall and slim, so I'll let her have the other two.

lol at the illness that makes you look younger than you are! is it delusion ? I'm kidding. I'm kidding. People smile at good looking humans, right from babyhood. It's instinctive. All races shown pictures of beautiful people of other races tended to agree on which faces were conventionally beautiful. Tiz all in the proportions. 1:1.6

I think that you are a loon.

HTH.

WorldCitizern - she is married now to a lovely man, who treats all her dc like his own and treats her well. She's done access courses and is well on her way to a good job, she has good friends and her children are lovely. She choose to rise above it and prove everyone wrong and I was very proud to be her maid of honour, proud of my godchildren and very proud of her

mrsSchadenfreude, my friend was told by the postman that she was a very desirable woman. bleurghghgh! It was a bit creepy with him knowing where she lived and monitoring her post, knowing her birthday etc. She is a single parent, and he used to say to her 'how can you live with your parents when you are such a desirable woman'.

Dinosaurs that is touching. Happy to hear this

OP, you say that "I NEVER judge other people (who behave in a reasonably decent way)". Um, don't you see the contradiction of that statement? Who are you to judge what is reasonable behaviour?

Some people are racist, some are not. The racist people will tend not to smile at mixed race people.

Smiling as If to not take ypu seriously. Pehaps to them you are a joke and unworthy. Makes tbem feel better. Feel pity for their small brain and that they have a lot of psychologoical problems.

rindercella
Some people are racist, some are not. The racist people will tend not to smile at mixed race people.

rasberry no need to blush!!!!!!! Smile at who you want

I smile at dogs, what does that make me?

Op, why do you assume people are against a white woman having a friend who is mixed race? One of my best friends is mixed race (Asian and white British) and I can honestly say I've never noticed any funny looks when we are out.

I have mixed race (white/black) dcs' age range 14-29...so have parented over 3 decades. It is not the smiles' or looks' people give to them that has ever bothered me...it is the words' and actions' used against them that has.

Incidently,dd was having a discussion with her peers' the other day when race was being discussed in her Sociology lesson. She was asking them what colour/ethnicity do they see when they look at her. her peers are a diverse ethnic mix (we live in London). She said some said mixed race,and some said black. Not one said white. She said it is like the white part of her was invisible.

Not relevent to the debate..but just thought I would mention it as it was a bit of an eye opener for her.

I smile at dogs to - and babies - and old ladies -concludes am probably bit of a loon

I would describe it as smirking not smiling.