to be annoyed about a special needs kid repeatedly hitting my daughter?

[thebeesnees79]

Ok so the little one has special needs and its only fair that he goes into a main stream pre school. however my daughter keeps coming out upset because the same little boy is hitting her almost daily, She has just turned 3 at the end of July. do I A) Ignore it as he is special needs and can't help it or do I B)Make a point of telling staff because they have a duty to my daughter as well and its unfair that she is getting hit.
more of a what would you do than aibu?

BTW I'm really sorry to the parents of kids with SN on this thread for my own repeated saying they are SN. My non-NT family member is now in his 40s and nobody ever refers to SN at all in reference to him, so my use is framed from the way it was spoken of in the 1980s. I don't mean to be a wanker by it. It's just (dated) force of habit. Will make a concerted effort, sorry.

And I agree that extra needs is a better descriptor. More accurate, for a start. And could be rolled up with GAT which would maybe possibly remove a very, very small part of the stigma.

It's depressing, because in the 80s racism and sexism were acceptable in ways they never would be now. Yet prejudice on disability grounds hasn't moved at all, that I can see.

I really hate the term PC. It's got nothing to do with politics, it's got everything to do with being thoughtful

I'm less concerned with terminology than attitude, but language DOES reflect attitude. Not always of the individual, but of our society.

Your child should have the protection of not being hit regardless of wether it's due to SN or not.

the school have a role in protecting your child from injury and also protecting the other child from thinking that this is acceptable behaviour. The school have a role to work out what is triggering this behaviour and how it can be avoided or prevented.

This is not this other child's fault this is a school failing to uphold proper care.

I got deleted for calling upper cut......a name beginning with T.

fancypuffin did not for saying "uppercut did you mean to sound like such an arsehole" so here goes:

uppercut did you mean to sound like such a twat?

I dont call it being PC.
I call it being a decent human being with some sense of empathy and compassion.
Perhaps I am a bit odd though?
(no perhaps about it, I hear you all cry! )

Dunno Bad, you've always seemed pretty sensible to me!

:)
Cheers star.
I have my moments though....I walked into the closed conservatory soot twice this week...I have a lovely red mark on my forehead to prove it :)
Hurts a bit, mind.....

Door! Conservatory door!
Oh fgs!
I am off to watch wartime farm with ds1......

Soot?

if any child is hitting another and basically making the childs life miserable REPORT to nursey

regardless of any childs circumstances whether that,health,home-life or whatever no way would i have my child put up with that regardless of other reasons that may impact on their behaviour towards others

Report it.

My time at primary school was a misery thanks to a boy with ADHD. The school allowed him to bully me, saying I should be tolerant.

I was 6, and was repeatedly being punched, my food spat in, chewy in hair... And was expected to be tolerant. Anyway I digress...

Speak to the school. The lad might even want her attention!

Situation unacceptable for both DCs.

OP's child should not be hit.

The hitter needs adults to help him learn not to hit.

Zzzzz - no they didn't. He did, they just allowed it to happen.

Sorry but don't try and act like you know the situation better than I do.

He has ADHD, he isn't thick. I think what you're saying is a bit patronising towards ADHD sufferers.

As I said it was all the way through primary, 6 was when it started.

My mum spoke to his mum. It never stopped.

He should have had a better support system from the school, but it was him not them that made my life a misery. Passing the buck doesn't wash with me. He doesn't become blameless.

I've since seen him actually.

Turned round an said 'if I'd known you'd turn out this fit I wouldn't have bullied you HA'

Once a nob, always a nob.

He had ADHD, it doesn't mean that he doesn't know right from wrong.
And exactly, it doesn't matter if he had special needs. The sh

You brought blame into it actually 'you've been angry at the wrong people for some time'

My ds (3) has a similar situation at nursery, where there is a young boy with special needs who hits. The nursery staff are fantastic at dealing with the occurrences and the little boy has a support worker however at times he still manages to get a whack in here and there. My ds would get upset but as I didn't want to alienate the parent or child I told my son that they were love taps, the harder he hit the more he loved him. They both play together now on occasion and my son either wears a pan on his head or puts his hand on top and slowly but surely the little boy is learning.
YANBU to be be annoyed but I would advise you to speak to the staff to voice your concerns.

Shit posted too soon.

The school shouldn't have ignored it was going on, just because he had ADHD.

And where did I say I thought telling me to be tolerant was going to work? I'm sure from my post it's clear I didn't think that right. Ie I was 'expected' at six to be tolerant.

Do you remember being six?