to be annoyed about a special needs kid repeatedly hitting my daughter?

[thebeesnees79]

Ok so the little one has special needs and its only fair that he goes into a main stream pre school. however my daughter keeps coming out upset because the same little boy is hitting her almost daily, She has just turned 3 at the end of July. do I A) Ignore it as he is special needs and can't help it or do I B)Make a point of telling staff because they have a duty to my daughter as well and its unfair that she is getting hit.
more of a what would you do than aibu?

OP, option B like you would any other child.

Uppercut did you mean to sound like such an arsehole?

My son has SN and hits out when he's had too much sensory overload. Trying to get him into an ASD base is extremely difficult due to the cost to the LA so they are trying to keep him in MS as long as possible. If he was continually hitting another child I'd want the parent to let the teacher know so they can deal with it appropriately.

His ASD isn't an excuse for his behaviour, but an explanation.

i do hate it when people go on about such small details on threads like this. YANBU to report it.

Uppercut why do you assume he is a budding little psychopath? I agree he needs to be stopped. You are possibly right that a mainstream nursery isn't the place for him, but why psychopath?

It might nit just be your child that's getting hurt op!

redbindy I am asking for advice so I don't put my foot in it and cause poor relations with the pre school!

As far as I am aware a new member of staff started to basically one to one the little boy. Its a pre school so all children are age 2-4. My daughter is 3 & so is the little boy in question. I can't see her provoking him on purpose (but then you never know do you? oh to be a fly on the wall) my daughter is one of those kids who will sit and play on her own happily for an hour.
I am not for one minute saying my daughter is a perfect angel I just wanted advise on the most sympathetic way to handle it because of the circumstances. thanks to everyone who can see that's what my intentions were.

Uppercut

My anger was directed towards the nursery. Not the 3 year old child.

Yanbu. If the violent child can't learn that his behaviour is unacceptable AND the caregivers/teachers are unable to protect other children then the hitter should be removed from the care setting. You should definitely speak to the staff about it as it is 100% not on that your child is being hurt everyday by this child. Good luck sorting it out.

Just out of interest Property, where do you think the child should go once he's removed from the care setting? Genuine question.

To a care setting more appropriately suited with a greater level of care and supervision. Nothing to do with 'special needs', simply to do with not allowing one child to violently and repeatedly assault other children.

The thing is, they don't exist.

The child has sn, not is sn.
If he has 1-1 then his key worker is not doing their job.

Budding little psychopath!?
Jesus.
I mean, just....what?
Most kids go through periods of hitting/biting etc whether sn or nt.
What a vile poster.
Op....talk to the pre school manager.

Where do excluded children go then? I understood that exclusion centres etc exist for those who by virtue of their behaviour are asked to leave mainstream schooling. Also, are there no schools at all catering for special/additional needs anymore ?

you seriously want to send the child to an exclusion centre? at 3?

And you have to ask if there are any special schools?

I know a girl had to leave my Dc's school as his needs were too 'great' to be met by a standard school. The headmistress informed us that the lad would be continuing his education elsewhere.

My dc has SN, an was targeted by the other children, incidents were blown out of proportion and sometimes completely fabricated. Often my dc was blamed for hitting other dc when other walked into my dc, I witnessed this on more than 4 occasions and sometimes my dc was blamed for hitting incidents when my dc wasn't actually there, purely for the presumed fact that the other children remembered my DCs name.

I'm not saying this is the case for you OP. but either way this child's 1:1 is not doing their job properly. I'd like to think that if your dd was being continuously targeted by this boy then incident forms are being filled out.

An exclusion centre at 3?
Are you serious?
It's hilarious, really.....
Parents with kids with no sn/sen all seem to think there is so much provision and help available...do me a favour?
Go and check out the sn section of MN...gO and read what parents are having to go through to get their kids the help from the very people paid by the state to help them....it's a real eye opener.

No not an exclusion centre at 3 but they do exist at primary school level and might be appropriate if a child is exhibiting repeated violence.