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To be annoyed that taxi ranks don't let families in first.

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LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 11:39

More like a rant really, sorry if it was covered before.

When we came back from holiday with the Eurostar, we went to the taxi rank. I had DC3 on the sling on my front (4 months), a backpack on my back and the babybag on the side, while holding the hands of DC1 and 2 (aged 2 and 4). DH had 2 large suitcases, a backpack and bag. I told DH we will go to the front immediately because priority is given to families and seriously with all our baggage you could tell we were not taking the piss.

When we got there, there were the paralympic guides helping people get into the taxis, when she turned to us and asked : 'Oh sorry, who came first'. There were these Carrie Bradshaw-like fashionistas to go in front of us. I told the guide that we just came in, but usually families with babies usually go first. She told me she never heard of that, and that unless we were disabled or something..........
Then one of the fashionistas took a look at all our baggage and said it's fine we can go, at which her friend said : 'Oh no, are you sure?'. Eventually we were let in, but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become?

In France, there are signs all over main taxi ranks, that you let the pregnant, disabled, families with babies and tots, etc. go in before. We even naturally get called to the front by the usher as we arrive.
I realised that people in london are less keen, one day we did that, and some guy rushed to the taxi to go in front of us, and the taxi driver turned him away and told him : 'don't you see those people need more help?'.

Even before I was pregnant and had kids, I always left the lift, seats etc. to the mums and elders, so all this behaviour surprises me.

OP posts:
LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 14:45

Ok, going on the school run now. Will come back to this later. Am having so much fun! No, I am not a troll!

OP posts:
ledkr · 10/09/2012 14:46

I am a fashionista with 5 dc and bad bunions. What place do I take in the queue pray tell?

Kayano · 10/09/2012 14:46

If you're having fun then that is clearly a troll characteristic.

Wink just saying you non-troll you

Ephiny · 10/09/2012 14:47

Some 'UK women' don't appreciate being told to go to the back of the queue because we're not fertile enough. We barren childfree types might be all empty and cold on the inside (seriously, this again? Hmm), but we have feelings too.

How is it a gender issue anyway? I thought this was about prioritising parents, not women?

lisad123 · 10/09/2012 14:47

I was quite shocked that at Disneyland Paris pregnant woman get a pass which means they don't have to queue! Confused

BartiiMus · 10/09/2012 14:47

Dooin if you can rush anywhere then you are not pushing to the front of the queue

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:48

OMG, nobody mentioned bunions before.

ophelia275 · 10/09/2012 14:50

I never realised having children gave me priority to all sorts of things. Next time I am in Sainsbury's I'm going to push all the little old ladies out the way and demand that my shopping gets done first because "I have kids and I'm entitled!"

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:50

Ah, but men aren't really parents, Ephiny. Ask any Parisian woman.

iseenodust · 10/09/2012 14:50

Having travelled out of my village, I can safely say while the French mothers may get to feel smug (but I've never seen it), their little darlings certainly have grown a sense of entitlement by the time they get to any ski lift queue.

VivaLeBeaver · 10/09/2012 14:51

Op, was your dh cringing in embarrassment or does he share your selfish traits?

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 14:51

if you were at the taxi rank alone with kids and bags I'ld HELP you with your bags/buggy if I was close to you when you got to the top of the que and was getting into the taxi

but I still wouldn't see why you would need to get to the top of the que before anyone else? explain?

crashdollGOLD · 10/09/2012 14:52

lisad123 I was a bit suprised too. I assume you have to be fairly far along though...?

lisad123 · 10/09/2012 14:52

That might explain why no one queued at Disneyland and thought it was ok to push my DDs out the way!

VivaLeBeaver · 10/09/2012 14:52

Alls fair in ski lift queues it seems. The fastest skier wins. Though anyone who skis over my skis gets an elbow in the guts. A friend of mine was in the position on been 7th on a six man chair and got shoved off and knocked out by the chair!

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 10/09/2012 14:53

OP sounds like Miranda's mother played by Patricia Hodge, determinedly bellowing "SUCH FUN SUCH FUN!"

lisad123 · 10/09/2012 14:53

There were some very small bumped ladies in the exit queue Confused

bobbledunk · 10/09/2012 14:53

Why should people with non visible medical conditions have to explain themselves to you or any other obnoxious dimwit that tries to take their place in the queue? Other peoples personal details are none of your business.

I wouldn't have let you rudely steal the taxi I'd been waiting so patiently for, I have a life too, other people have important things going on you know (you obviously don't, that's your lack of experience showing, not other peoples). The world doesn't revolve around you. There is no reason why someone like yourself should go first.

I would probably offer my place to a frail elderly person, an obviously disabled person or if I knew someone was ill or in pain (if I'd been talking to them while queuing) because I'm lovely and kind but not to some entitled narcissist who thinks that popping out a few kids suddenly makes them centre of the universe.

yabvvvvvvvvvu, unbelievably rude and deluded. Get over yourself.

procrastinor · 10/09/2012 14:54

Oh my. Wow. Why did you come back to slum it here in dreary England? I tell you what, if you'd tried that entitled push to the front I would have sent you packing to the back of the queue. But if you'd stood in the queue like a normal person I'd have offered to let you go first. Because my dear I have manners. But not for a jumped up French wannabe who thinks that merely by popping babies out she is entitled to more than other mere mortals.

And no I certainly don't want an automatic right to go to the front of a queue ecause I'm deemed too feeble to manage my child without "help". If I was offered I'd be grateful but don't treat me like I couldn't possibly manage.

Jeez.

Trazzletoes · 10/09/2012 14:59

This thread is outstanding! I only made it to page 9, but has anyone said that OP is NOT BU? Bloody ridiculous.

GoldenBabooshka · 10/09/2012 14:59

"But why is this such an issue with UK women?"

I think you are the one with the issue here, perhaps it would never occur to the majority of "UK women" that people whould assume that we cannot cope.

On another note, what are you feelings on P&C spaces?

Lolwhut · 10/09/2012 15:02

Trazzletoes. Hmm good point

OP. YAB VERY VERY VERY U

WilsonFrickett · 10/09/2012 15:02

OOoh BUNIONS! I have a bunion! It bloody hurts too.

So a bunion, a baby, a cat (to induce my allergy) in a pointless carrier - how many points now?

To return to seriousity for a second - OP I am very widely travelled ta awfully and have never seen this priority queuing of which you speak.

charade · 10/09/2012 15:03

I'm in favour of the points system. I have 3 under eights, one with asthma and one with a food allergy and I have a cat. I think that there is a fortune to be made hiring them out to fashionistas at a quid a go. I might even rent out a few suitcases full of bricks to people who don't want to queue. I wonder if there is a market for forged maternity notes.

perfectstorm · 10/09/2012 15:03

I don't understand at all why having kids should mean your time is more valuable than anyone else's? And I think teaching your kids to wait their turn is a valuable life lesson, too. I've let people with young kids go first as a kind gesture before, but it's been just that: a gesture. The entitlement mentality would annoy me, tbh, and I'd be most unlikely to allow people assuming they could push in front of me to go first.

I've always waited my turn with my toddler. Would never occur to me to do anything else, and I wouldn't want or approve of the change you suggest.

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