Does anyone else think this is weird behaviour?

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DSS2 has made loads of friends with the other children in the street, but there's one particular boy (about 7?) whose behaviour seems really strange and possibly ASD. These are what DP & I have seen/experienced since the start of this week.

1. Monday -We were getting really to go out, so DSS2 had come in and was getting changed. Boy comes to the back door, asks DP if DSS2 is coming back out, and is told no. Boy then spots DSS2's water pistols on the kitchen counter and says "Can I play with DSS2's water pistols?".

1. Again on Monday - We'd come back and I decided to pop to the corner shop for a treat. On my way back, I was halfway through the lolly I'd bought & Boy spots me. "What have you got?" "A lolly." "Can I have some?" "No!"

1. Tuesday - DP is taking DSS2 to his mother's for contact night after school. Boy is in a different school and is walking up the hill with his DM and siblings (including one in buggy) while DP & DSS2 are walking downhill on the other side. Boy spots DSS2 , shouts his name to get his attention and immediately runs off the pavement to get to DSS2 without checking the traffic (it's a fairly busy road) while his DM tries to grab him to pull him back while still holding the buggy.

1. Tuesday again - I'm home alone & BFing DD (who was being really shouty as we'd not long got in ourselves and she was really hot) while DP is doing shopping in town after dropping off DSS2. All of a sudden, there's a loud knocking at the back door. I assume it's one of DSS2's friends (got a clear view from the sofa without lifitng my head up really high which means DD unlatches) so I ignore it as I'm dealing with DD and we're constantly telling them that DSS2 is never home on a Tuesday evening. Then there's this almighty bang - either the door was kicked or headbutted to make that noise. I lift myself up and see Boy at the door how is continuing to knock. I scream at the door that DSS2 isn't home, but Boy continues to for another couple of minutes before getting bored and leaving.

Is this normal behaviour?

Seems perfectly normal for a seven year old boy to me,what do you think is strange as nothing you have listed would seem strange to me.

I don't think it is strange either, just sounds like typical child behaviour to me!

sounds normal to me, and tbh you sound a bit rude. Why didn't you just answer the door instead of screaming at it? I get that you were stressed and feeding the baby but really.

Not strange or 'possibly ASD'

Just a bit annoying.

I'm also interested to know what in particular you think is strange about these incidents? #s 1 & 2 just seem to be so incidental as to be not worth mentioning.

The only 'peculiar' thing to me is the possibility that he kicked or head-butted your door, but that doesn't seem particularly out of character for a child lacking a few social graces once he gets a bit frustrated...

There must be more to it for you to be moved enough to post?

well screaming at children on your doorstep is genrally frowned apon.

but the child sounds fairly normal

There's nothing weird about it at all

It's poor behaviour for a 7yr old but I have no idea where the ASD comes into it?

I don't think it's weird, no. Agree with vivi that 1 and 2 in particular sound utterly normal for a 7 year-old.

The door head-butting/kicking is a bit more unusual but not necessarily indicative of SN.

Impulsive & pushy. Not nice but not especially weird, either.

And why wouldn't you let him try your lolly?!

Perhaps the OP means ADHD?

Though even then I don't think his behaviour warrants that way of thinking.

Perfectly normal -I think maybe you need to lower your expectations of 7 year olds behavior tbh!

The way you have described it, just seems annoying childrens behaviour rather than anything out of the ordinary. He wants to play with your son, but seems like he hasn't yet grasped manners (the knocking and wanting stuff) or safety (running into road), which is in the realms of normal behaviour for a 7 year old...

Perfectly normal -I think maybe you need to lower your expectations of 7 year olds behavior tbh!

And why wouldn't you let him try your lolly?!

Oh do behave!

Like she's going to want a random 7yr old licking her lolly?

Apologies for double post!

Perfectly normal behaviour, but why do you think its "weird"? Do you have much experience of an average 7 year old boy?

Even regarding the last one you sound rude really - just because you know its Tuesday doesnt mean that a child will necessarliy think this.

He's not random! He lives in her street and plays with her son. :)

That doesn't mean she's going want his tongue all over her lolly!

Yes he does sound rather bold/annoyingly forthright but not ADHD.

This boy seems to have no social skills at all. DSS2 is 6 and doesn't ask random people if he can have some of their ice cream that they're already halfway through. Also, when he was knocking on the backdoor for DSS2 on Tuesday, he'd seen DSS2 less than 30mins earlier and was told then that DSS2 wasn't going to be out to play because he wasn't going to be there. Surely he couldn't have forgotten in that short a time?