Does anyone else think this is weird behaviour?

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DSS2 has made loads of friends with the other children in the street, but there's one particular boy (about 7?) whose behaviour seems really strange and possibly ASD. These are what DP & I have seen/experienced since the start of this week.

1. Monday -We were getting really to go out, so DSS2 had come in and was getting changed. Boy comes to the back door, asks DP if DSS2 is coming back out, and is told no. Boy then spots DSS2's water pistols on the kitchen counter and says "Can I play with DSS2's water pistols?".

1. Again on Monday - We'd come back and I decided to pop to the corner shop for a treat. On my way back, I was halfway through the lolly I'd bought & Boy spots me. "What have you got?" "A lolly." "Can I have some?" "No!"

1. Tuesday - DP is taking DSS2 to his mother's for contact night after school. Boy is in a different school and is walking up the hill with his DM and siblings (including one in buggy) while DP & DSS2 are walking downhill on the other side. Boy spots DSS2 , shouts his name to get his attention and immediately runs off the pavement to get to DSS2 without checking the traffic (it's a fairly busy road) while his DM tries to grab him to pull him back while still holding the buggy.

1. Tuesday again - I'm home alone & BFing DD (who was being really shouty as we'd not long got in ourselves and she was really hot) while DP is doing shopping in town after dropping off DSS2. All of a sudden, there's a loud knocking at the back door. I assume it's one of DSS2's friends (got a clear view from the sofa without lifitng my head up really high which means DD unlatches) so I ignore it as I'm dealing with DD and we're constantly telling them that DSS2 is never home on a Tuesday evening. Then there's this almighty bang - either the door was kicked or headbutted to make that noise. I lift myself up and see Boy at the door how is continuing to knock. I scream at the door that DSS2 isn't home, but Boy continues to for another couple of minutes before getting bored and leaving.

Is this normal behaviour?

Lol @ horribly euphemistic

I must be projecting 'cause I live in a small close where I know all the children and their parents pretty well and I'd share a lolly with any of them.

He may well have forgotten, yes. Our neighbour's daughter is 7.5 and always forgets stuff like that. She wants to play with our DCs whenever she's at home and rarely knows what day of the week it is or whether they're able to play that day etc.

Raspberry, it does a bit, doesn't it?

OP even from your second post, I still think he's just poorly behaved and hasn't learnt manners/boundaries yet.

Actually I'm getting rather cats-bum-mouthed at you basically saying that ASD-type behaviour is "weird" and "not normal".

Educate yourself.

And furthermore, what is it to you whether he's ASD or not? Why do you care? Are you going to march round to his house with a diagnosis?

He just sounds a bit cheeky and impulsive IMO, like a lot of young kids are. Some kids aren't at all shy of asking for things. Others are.

I'm coming at this thread as the parent of a child with ASD and I'm trying my best to not get wound up by some of the comments on it.

Children are eternal optimists. He won't have forgotten his friend was out, but will have hoped he'd be there anyway.

Your neighbour is just a bit forward. I can't walk from the house to the car without some neighbouring child wanting to know why. They are just naturallly nore gregarious than my lot.

Sounds completely normal to me, and why do you want to know whether he has ASD?

Because what difference would that make anyway?

Big Fat HMM face.

Jesus CakeBump the OP is only asking a question, it is allowed you know

My friends DD acts like this and TBH I wonder if its normal behaviour, as most 7 yo's I know don't behave like this.

It is SUPER-annoying and DS (same age) doesn't like playing with her anymore, she gets on better with my 3 YO.

Sounds normal for a 7yo to me! My ds1's friend is 9 and once rang up twice in the space of half an hour asking if ds was at home and was he allowed to come over after already being told he wasn't in. Some kids don't like to take no for an answer and many at that age have little concept still of time or days.

I would never scream at someone else's child, door in the way or not! That's just rude!

My 7 year old would definitely do the first 3

I screamed at the door from the sofa - there's about 20ft between where my head was and the door.

Worra - After 2 years, I'm only just getting my head around sharing food stuffs with my DSSs (it's not a case of I don't know where they've been, it's because I DO know where they've been ), but I still wouldn't let them lick something I've been licking, and I wouldn't ask in return. Sharing with anyone else is a complete no-no for me.

ObiWan - There's one girl in the street (5) who always asks "What are you doing? Where are you going? Why are doing that/going out?" She reminds me of the curtain twitcher where I used to live...

CakeBump - I have no experience of ASD. If he is ASD and this is what he's like, I'd be able to understand it, but he's at least a year older than DSS2 and his behaviour is more like how DSS2 was like 2 years ago.

You wrote a very similar post to this on the 3rd August OP.

I wonder whether you are having some problems relating to little children and maybe you should speak to someone about this dislike you have.

Crikey - I have two sons of 9 and 5 and I have never encountered this sort of behaviour from them or any of their friends.

It does not sound normal to me - the child has no boundaries, is rude, persistent, headbutts the door when there is no answer and asks to play with another child's toys when he is not there.

How is any of this normal??

Or have I just got particularly nice children with nice friends?

and this child sounds like he is either struggling with some kind of problem in his behaviour, or possibly is being neglected.

I knew a little boy who was overly persistent once - he was very lonely, his parents ignored him most of the time and didn't want him around. He used to shout through our letter box etc. This was unusual and he had no friends

I was young then myself
there is no way I would allow my sons to behave like this.

Actually, yes, I'm inclined to go with what EdMcDunnough has said.

Doesn't sound typically like an autistic set of behaviours though from my limited experience.

EdMcDunnough

You don't think that a 7 year old boy seeing a really fun looking water pistol and asking to have a go is normal?

...or asking for a lick of a lolly?

No, I don't - ds might have whispered to me could he have a go, but he would not have asked the other parent if I wasn't around.

Likewise he would not have asked anyone other than me or his brother for a lick of their lolly - especially not someone's mum!!

I think OP senses that the other child has strange social boundaries.

Doesn't matter really what it is, OP is uncomfortable with it & I think OP deserves helpful advice for dealing with it. My suggestion is gentle but firm messages defining where boundaries are, I can see why she was stuck with shouting on one occasion, but that's an approach to avoid when possible.