Does anyone else think this is weird behaviour?

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DSS2 has made loads of friends with the other children in the street, but there's one particular boy (about 7?) whose behaviour seems really strange and possibly ASD. These are what DP & I have seen/experienced since the start of this week.

1. Monday -We were getting really to go out, so DSS2 had come in and was getting changed. Boy comes to the back door, asks DP if DSS2 is coming back out, and is told no. Boy then spots DSS2's water pistols on the kitchen counter and says "Can I play with DSS2's water pistols?".

1. Again on Monday - We'd come back and I decided to pop to the corner shop for a treat. On my way back, I was halfway through the lolly I'd bought & Boy spots me. "What have you got?" "A lolly." "Can I have some?" "No!"

1. Tuesday - DP is taking DSS2 to his mother's for contact night after school. Boy is in a different school and is walking up the hill with his DM and siblings (including one in buggy) while DP & DSS2 are walking downhill on the other side. Boy spots DSS2 , shouts his name to get his attention and immediately runs off the pavement to get to DSS2 without checking the traffic (it's a fairly busy road) while his DM tries to grab him to pull him back while still holding the buggy.

1. Tuesday again - I'm home alone & BFing DD (who was being really shouty as we'd not long got in ourselves and she was really hot) while DP is doing shopping in town after dropping off DSS2. All of a sudden, there's a loud knocking at the back door. I assume it's one of DSS2's friends (got a clear view from the sofa without lifitng my head up really high which means DD unlatches) so I ignore it as I'm dealing with DD and we're constantly telling them that DSS2 is never home on a Tuesday evening. Then there's this almighty bang - either the door was kicked or headbutted to make that noise. I lift myself up and see Boy at the door how is continuing to knock. I scream at the door that DSS2 isn't home, but Boy continues to for another couple of minutes before getting bored and leaving.

Is this normal behaviour?

Education on what.........

How to accept that it's ok and have broad shoulders when ppl use the term not normal or weird or pooh he has a label. Education into not jumping to conclusions about a child when realistically they have no clue what ASD is?

Or educating those that deem to know everything because there sisters, brothers,uncles cousin had autism and so that gives them the right exactly how it works day in and day put for a child with ASD.

For a start this op is willing to as you put it "label" an over excited child and as for the rest try telling dark skinned ppl it's ok have broad shoulders while we use a derogatory term because we can spout out any politically incorrect shite.

probably just a little so and so .

Clipped why labelled / diagnosed? Were they diagnosed according to the correct procedures ( here ) or not?

it IS that simple really. A diagnosis of ADHD doesn't assume aetiology just a persistent set of behaviours and deficits being present

It sounds as if this boy has not mastered social boundaries yet: not all 7-yos have.

But am I the only one who finds the OPs behaviour rather strange? Not answering the door because everybody ought to know that her ds is not available? Screaming at the child through the door rather than opening it and speaking politely to him? That is not considered normal behaviour from adults around here.

How could she know what he wanted without speaking to him? Supposing he needed help, supposing there was an emergency?

Hi peachy I'm not ignoring you but I've lost the will to explain at the moment. I'm sick to death of some people on here constantly goading and starting bun fights

perhaps clipped you need to say who you mean rather than randomly throwing out accusations?

If u mean me then I am neither goading or asking for a bin fight. I personally hate AIBU for this reason and rarely venture forth. In my posts I have tried to show that it is normal for a 7 yr old to do these various concerns the op has.

All to easy ASD or ADHD is bantered about as naughty child or that there are too many dx with it etc etc. I have a child with these difficulties but still I don't go around guessing another child issues and it is worse if u have no knowledge of it.

Also my last post I guess was to try nd show you that parents.......hear this political shite every day and go home to their kids who haave enough of a hard job fitting in without being called such names.

Also if no one batted an eyelid in the world about it then racism in whatever form would be more rife than it is already. In whatever form racist or disablist.

So no there is no bunfight I have enough fights of my own thanks

Not at all coff33, we rarely start goading, bun-throwing or fights. That tends to come from those who do not yet have experience of disability in their lives. However we have been known to finish fights.

'At the end of the day it's about education and there's way to do this in a kindly manner.'

Some do not wish to educate, but are more concerned with correcting misapprehensions and errors that cause their children a great deal of harm in the world. It is very hard to educate those that don't want their prejudices challenging in any way, and sometimes it appears to be a wasted effort. Over and over again.
Sometimes the fluffiness and the dulcet tones wear thin after a decade or two.

Clipped - still trying to figure out the cryptic meaning behind the whole "labelled / diagnosed" thing you put about your niece. What was that all about?

Yabu sounds like the boy who lives next door to me. He is 7 and HAMMERS on my door despite being told not to about a million times. My ds is 11 but seems pretty normal behaviour for a 7 year old to me!