AIBU in thinking some of the comments on the baby names threads are just plain hurtful!!

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It was my fault really.. Couldn't help searching DS's name to see what people think.

I know people are entitled to their opinion but jeeez!

Is he never going to be a high court judge?

My son as a MN unapproved name too and I couldn't care less as its pathetic.

My name is also frowned upon though its a normal name. You can't win unless you name them "Benedict"

And, slightly more helpfully, it doesn't matter what they think as long as you love it and it suits him.

I haven't read the baby names thread but I assume people post on it for honest opinions?

Oh its worse than AIBU - fair enough comment on suggested names but its when they comment nastily on siblings names that I think its just a bit mean.

I was just wondering what people thought. I love his name it really suits him.

I was just a bit gobsmacked at some comments!

And no he won't be a judge

Maybe a singer, footballer or just a 'chav'

Arrh worra there's honest and then there's just mean!

Does he have a 'surname as first name' then, LST?! The Riley and Mackenzie type names seem to be getting it in the neck at the moment. However, I did read on another thread, may have been on chat, that OP's friend had called their dc Nemesis.....

I agree. Honest opinions are one thing but there's no need to be nasty.

I don't look at it anymore. It's a bit pointless in asking for opinions on names on there: no matter what you've named your child - someone will think it's awful and tell you so in no uncertain terms.

I am pg and went on asking for a middle name to go with the 1st name we had chosen and, wow, did i get a kicking! Apparently i am a pretentious prat, cruel parent, sentencing my poor dc to the most awful life of bullying. Also living in a middle class bubble (despite being quite working class) where i don't know reality. Totally bizarre. I ended up quite distressed (i'm blaming the hormones).

Just inverted snobbery from people who made presumptions based on the name and the chips on their shoulders.

Don't worry OP. You like it and it suits him. :)

You're right really, there's no need to be nasty about someone's name just because you don't like it....however difficult it might be not to tell someone the name they're proposing sounds like some sort of bacterial infection.

You can see why I don't open those threads, can't you?

Yes but if you're asking for advice, surely you would want someone to say 'no, I hate it because it reminds me of dogs' names' or whatever. That may make the parent think ' shit, I didn't think of that, now you mention it'

If you're totally sold on a name, don't ask for advice, just go ahead and name him whatever! I think the baby names board can be quite funny actually.

I wish I hadn't now!!

I saw the Nemesis one.. Heey! Each to their own and all that

lst my son and yours and gang out drinking cider and having a chav-fastic time together!

Wonder what his name is now!

I rarely read the baby names ones (only if they come up on most active - I have the topic hidden) but some of the suggested names are so awful it's impossible to think of anything nice to say about them.

Haha SP maybe practising their footballing skills on people's car bonnets

With my thread tho von i wasn't asking for advice tho, i never asked whether anyone liked my choice or whether it reminded them of a dogs name :) which mine does to a lot of people!). I asked what a nice middle name would be if your name was x. People decided to come along and just slate x and me for some presumed class war. I was shocked that anyone could get so upset about what symbolic meaning they have attached to a name. Like the frothing mad woman in the Father ted racism episode, ranting about the Greeks! it really took me back.

I agree. Sorry you feel upset about people's posts but just remember MN is only a small proportion of parents in the UK!
My DC's names are both 'unacceptable' according to the majority on here for completely different reasons.

DD's is common and DS's begins with 'K' and is an (accepted) spelling variation.
I tend to only post on the 'which of these do you prefer?' threads.
As far as I can see there's going to be a whole load of Benedict/Octavias moving up into school in the next few years if we only choose according to the MN-acceptability-factors!
It'd be very boring if that did happen!

I agree. I think name-bashing is a sport for some posters unable to process their aggression more suitably.

There's honest and there's rude. And in names there is a lot of rude.

I have never asked for advice on baby names on here because I don't want to know. If I did start a thread on names, it would be because I honestly want to know the honest opinion of as many people as possible- After all, it's the DC that will have to live with the name, not me. And I would want to know if a name was thought as chavvy or pretentious.

It's rude to comment on the name of an existing child.

But surely when it's a hypothetical name for an as yet unborn child and you're canvassing opinion online you've got to accept that people are going to be honest, some to a degree that can be described as extremely rude. Otherwise just discuss it with your nearest and dearest.

I got in trouble once for slating the name Humphrey. Felt a bit bad after, but seriously. . . . . . . Humphrey?

lst only after they have nicked the car first of corse!

My son will never have a career, I don't know how to spell his name and I'm stupid for thinking its unique

That's what I have been told and I couldn't care less tbh.

Rather him be unique then be the 10th Benedict in the school

When it is a proposed name that is being brought into question, I'm afraid that it's a case of if you don't want to know, don't bloody ask.

Someone one asked 'What can the girl's nickname Pie be short for?

PIE.

If that's not worthy of a bit of ribbing I don't know what is.