AIBU in thinking some of the comments on the baby names threads are just plain hurtful!!

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It was my fault really.. Couldn't help searching DS's name to see what people think.

I know people are entitled to their opinion but jeeez!

Moomin - your boys are gorgeous, the pics on your profile are sooo cute. I like your names.

My sister is a teacher and her 'naughty boys' names' list (lighthearted obvs) doesn't include Connor!

You shouldn't care what others think of your chosen name. You love it, theres a reason you chose it, blow what others think. You can see what my ds's name is - I love it, none of my family were keen, even dh needed a LOT of presuading. Even after he was born, my mum asked me if I was SURE thats what I wanted his name to be. Yep! Nowadays, everyone agrees he was born to be an Ali :)

I've just felt the need to go and check and am hugely relieved to find the DC's names to be mostly MN approved. Thank fuck for that.

squoosh I think you managed to pick the very name that spuddy got slated for! I remember that thread, it was vile.

I am on baby names all the time, even though I don't want any more children because I am totally obsessed by names, always have been. I will say if I don't like a name but I don't think I am rude, certainly not about names people have actually decided on rather than are seeking opinions on.

the nemissis thread was hilarious though [grin

I cant stand the down right snobbery of some people about names , well kyle isnt going to be a high court judge is he , oh do sod off, some names you like some you don't but people dont pretend your little archie is a better name that somebodies little alfie.

Oh no! Did I???

I just picked that name randomly as an example of a 'MN name' but a name I've never heard a 'real life' person consider.

Sorry Spuddy if I've slated your name, I had no idea that 'Perspehone' was the name in question.

Most people want an honest opinion which is why they're asking. Lying and pretending that the name they're thinking of is magnificent isn't helpful. If they don't want other peoples opinions, they won't ask.

squoosh remove foot from mouth immediately!

Persephone even

When people ask for the opinions of a name that has not yet been used I think folk have a right to say what they think. Because people will have different opinions on a name. There are some quite ordinary names I do not like. Some names I like others won't like. And really in a way it is helpful to have a really honest comment because friends won't always tell you exactly what they think. So it's best to hear the worst on Mumsnet!

A child called Nemesis would have to have a a cape and an evil cackle at the very least. I'd be pissed off if my Nemesis had a gentle chuckle and fair isle jumper.

Ha! That's okay Squoosh. For the purposes of research i appear to have proved the opposite is true. It is clearly not a 'MN name' from the drubbing it got. The 1st post was a biscuit and it just went downhill from there ;)

A name that has not yet been used maybe. But not a name of a child! I was asked my sons name so mentioned it. Then was told I had spelt it wrong and some other shit.

I also mentioned my name and then 2 comments later someone mentioned my name and said it was common.

Oh God OP - his name's not Ferris is it? I was fairly straightforward in my opinion of that one.

Scrambled - some people (lazy feckers) don't read the whole thread in Babynames, so they may not have noticed what you wrote.

It's one of the weirder parts of Mn, I think. There are two main kinds of rude responses.

(i) the OP's suggested name/names are common, chavvy and will prevent the child from becoming a high-court judge.

(ii)the OP's suggested name/names are pretentious, try-hard and will get said child a kicking in the playground.

But I agree with whoever said up the thread that it seems to be largely populated by a particular kind of Middle Englander, who doesn't get that people come from different places, and even speak different languages, and might expect the world at large to manage to get their heads/tongues around a 'foreign' name.

I'm always taken aback to find that certain Irish boys' names are often damned as 'chavvy' on Mn - in Ireland those names are classic, ageless names, the equivalent of Edward or Michael.

I try to be much kinder with my opinions since the Humphrey incident. It's just too easy to be bit blunt on an internet forum.

There was also someone who'd named their son Bear, that caused a lengthy, ummm, 'conversation'.

The 'Persephone' thread seems positively tame to me. Perhaps I missed something.

Some people do post about bizarre names, and mental spellings that don't make the sounds they are trying to say, and weird made up shit, and all kinds.
Don't ask for opinions if you don't want them, nobody is forcing you to ask the whole of MN to name your child for you!

I think if you are going to read the baby names board then you have to tell yourself, at the outset, that not everyone is going to like your choice. If we all had the same taste, then there would only be about 4 names in existence sometimes it feels that way, with some names being very fashionable.

It's useful to find out whether the name you've set your heart on has negative connotations for the majority or if the pg hormones are getting out of hand and making hideous questionable choices seem quite reasonable. beyond that, you just have to accept that it's peoples opinions and they are no more 'right' than you.

I chose names for my dc that I loved. Some people dislike my choices, but so what? You'll never get 100% approval, so no point in trying for it.

(Massively late reply! Been teaching LST pup recall)

SP he's a Liam. Just a normal little boys name.. Or so I thought.. Who new he's going to turn into a little get!

I do agree with what squoosh said.

It's unfortunate that people reading may have a child with the same name as the one proposed by the OP, but the OP is asking for opinions. If the OP were sure about it they wouldn't be asking,

I don't think I'm ever rude, but, having a very unusual name myself, I do try to be honest about what that is like. I find talking about names very interesting.

My DD has a nickname on the birth cert.

Tbh, I think Baby Name threads generally ask for an opinion and if someone dislikes a name then why shouldnt they share their opinion?

I.do get a little frustrated at the "Someone called Kai will never be a lawyer" because if Kai has enough energy and drive to see themselves through lawschool, I imagine they'd also be the type of person who wouldnt let their name stand in their way.

I also get frustrated by people wanting names outside of the top ten: the number one name last year was given to less tha 1% of all girls born, so really, not common at all.

It's different having an opinion though an being insulting..

Someone up thread said 'that name reminds me of a dog' fair enough.. But 'chavtastic' blah blah is just nasty