AIBU in thinking some of the comments on the baby names threads are just plain hurtful!!

[LST]

It was my fault really.. Couldn't help searching DS's name to see what people think.

I know people are entitled to their opinion but jeeez!

LST liam? What's wrong with that?

I have a close friend called Liam who I have known since i was 3. He know owns a house, lives with his girlfriend of many years and their baby, drives a brand new car and has worked hard for years.

But obviously he's an exception!

My sons name isn't as normal as Liam soiI wont mention it now

Even if it's iggle piggle spelt however you want it spelt it doesn't warrant insulting comments.

If it helps LST, I think that Liam is a perfectly nice name.

The ones I tend to be judgy about are the ones with made up spellings, which I think reflect more on the parents than the child, who after all, didn't actually choose their own name.

Liam's a lovely name. They just have bad taste, pay no attention to them.

One of my friends has twins called Neo and Trinity and nearly everyone chokes and stutters when they hear it.

SPS and LST - that's exactly what I meant in my post. The name Liam in Ireland is a classic, ordinary name, possibly on the now slightly old-fashioned side (in that most Liams are probably upwards of forty or fifty, though no doubt it will come back around), but really, the equivalent of Edward or Michael or Peter.

It blows my mind to see how negatively it's viewed by some people in the UK, along with Conor, Colm and various others I can't now think of!

My brothers name is Liam OP, He's not a little git :)

He's just very unsubtle at times lol but it's funny.

Oh dear was it withacherry maybe i'm too thin skinned or hormonal then! Anyway, none of it was as bad as what my parents have said about it.

Also the thing i find perturbing is that all the people i like hate it and all the people i think are twats love it...a bit like when you realise everyone in a group is normal, so the weirdo must be you. ;)

Anyway,I don't agree with people saying that children won't get a good career because they have a certain name,and the 'chav' comments are getting old,but other than that I think honesty is generally the best policy.It's the child,not the parent who has to live with the name,so I think honest opinions are important.
If I hate a name I'll say so,but if I love it I can be equally effusive. Opinions like 'It's not to my taste' are bland and not much help imho,and if that's all you want to hear then it's best not to post on the baby name forum.

People can take it too far sometimes,but at the same time I think people are rather 'wet' about people saying things other than what they want to hear, at times,and often it's not the OP.
I've posted on threads before where the OP has asked 'What do you think of Enema?' and I've said 'It's awful' only to have someone who isn't the OP scream
'How dare you say Enema is awful!That's my name/my dd's name.What gives you the right to say that,you bitch! It's the most beautiful name in the universe and you are a cow if you say otherwise.

As for so called MN names I don't think that they're universally popular either,or at least I dislike half of them,no matter how 'naice' they're supposed to be,but some names certainly take a regular beating on here e.g Jayden.

pee my son as a Irish name but I changed the spelling as I didn't know the original. My step dad is Irish and I have been told that as I am not why am I using Irish names?!

My son is a Caelum. I have only just found out that that is the proper spelling and made a mistake and spelt it the first way I saw.

I won't put the spelling back here as people will react

Enema sorry that made me laugh

If i dont like a name I will say and if it does sound really silly then I will say oh no dont , but the chavvy comments or the snooty comments are just mean,

I guess names come and go. My name is a popular name from the 70s every 2nd girl (almost) had my name when I was at school , you never hear a baby being called it now,

I think my personal pet hate is the "she sounds like a prostitute/porn star/pole dancer" responses which some pretty darn normal names get. Girl's names only, of course.

And I agree with whoever said there is a cultural element - some of the "approved" names would probably not be too popular in Scotland.

I sort of agree with you OP.

But if you post for opinions about a name, you take the rough with the smooth.

And frankly, some people do need to hear it bluntly. Think what baby Papaya Coco could've been saved from if Alicia Douvall had just posted here.

its not that a kid won't get a good career because of their name, not at all. It's the fact that names, like everything else are tied to class and money and possibilities and all that. The name you use can and does indicate something about you, whether we like it or not.
Its not that little M'kenzie-Princess won't be a high court judge because of her name. It's that the background of people who would give her that name means that she is unlikely to be able to attain such a thing. And it is true that even if she did manage to get on her way, people will assume things about her background that may well be detrimental. It's the way of the world, unfortunately, fair or not.

eeek callum is 1 of 'those' names SPs

Caelum, not Callum. Irish, not Scottish.

I heard a name on holiday and if the mum hadn't said it again in her 'angry' voice i couldve sworn it was calmydia

No callum, pronounced Kay-lum.

It is.not spelt Caelum though. People will.not forgive me for the spelling and I am.not ready to be told how wrong I was

I liked callum for a boy when i was pregnant didnt get a callum though

Thanks Von Connor is 17 now and managed to go through school without any problems.

I'm not sure I'd choose his name now though, but I think that's probably because the names you like sometimes change as you get older.

Maybe there are no High Court Judges called Maken-zay-Princess 'cos these types of names are a few generations behind the Stevens and Jennifers.

Someone said in a recent thread that Harry/Alfie/Jack would be the Ian/Steven/David of this generation - so who knows what HCJs will be called in 20 years....

Just think!

SP Caelum is lovely! Never heard it before.
The thing I really get annoyed with is when people take baby name websites/books as gospel. I am a Welsh speaker and I've seen some shockers. People seem to pluck random words from the Welsh dictionary and stick them as names on the net. Then someone with a Welsh grandparent or something decide to honour their Welsh ancestry... But they don't think to check that it's a proper name. On one name site, I found the name Artaith for a girl... That is the Welsh word for torture. Imagine of someone has actually used that! Imagine a little girl in Arkansas or somewhere, saying "yeah, I'm called Artaith 'cos my forefathers were from Llandudno..."

Also people giving their children Welsh names and pronouncing them how they like instead of how they are actually pronounced. I imagine that's going to be embarrassing for the child should they ever visit Wales...

I'm still willing to bet on it. You might get some Daisys and Poppys and undoubtedly a Persephone or two, but not a Heaven-Leigh or a Destinee-M'kenzie.

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