to stay with a man who hates fat women?

[grips]

just that really. i have a partner and he is very vocal about his disgust for overweight people and women in particular. he says that hes sure they are nice people but he cant help but judge them for being overweight. i always pull him up on it but it really bothers me.

Oops, should have been written ..THEY were my first male role models..damn you rum and diet coke!

I feel sad for the OP's partner that he lives such a hollow, judgemental life. To be so negative and judgemental to be constantly commenting on the people around him, complete strangers at that? I couldn't be around that kind of negativity. In fact, I wouldn't even keep a friend or acquaintance who had those kinds of attitudes.

I have found men of all different weights attractive so don't agree. I meet people get to know them and have found people who are the complete opposite to eachother attractive.

A few weeks ago the film Arthur was on. (the original) While watching it i was struck by how lovely Dudley Moore was.
I have no problem with short men at all. id much rather have a short gentleman than a tall bastard.

Do you know that Christian bale particularly likes flat, muscular stomachs then? He might like soft rounded ones or big fleshy ones or gently curved ones.

Yes agree that opposites attract as me & DH are polar opposites apart from physical make up.........

Stuntgirl i dont have a choice. My mum has a similar attitude. Shes looks obsessed.

If I ever meet him I will be sure to ask & oblige... the same goes for Vin Diesel, Colin Farrell & Justin Trousersnake..........Now I'm getting hot & bothered ladies......

We all have physical traits we're attracted to and traits we aren't. I don't feel the need to apologise for not fancying short men, it's just a fact. I'm not particularly bothered about washboard stomachs.

Plenty of men won't fancy me for whatever reasons they have. And that's a-ok too.

Stuntgirl - I was thinking that too. But also I'd be worried about how he interacts with people who aren't strangers. Would he be rude and intolerant towards my family and friends?

As you mentioned her no I don't think Jessica ennis's stomach is perfect. It's just a belly! She's a fine looking woman and it doesn't matter what her stomach looks like but personally I like soft, round bellies on women, flat stomachs look like a teenage boy to me.
That's not to say i would never be attracted to someone with a flat stomach or that they are inferior though.

Op's partner is extreme in his views but I dont think he's wrong to find them unattractive.

I don't fine overweight people attractive, many are lovely people who I do not look at them and think its attractive.
Equally I do not look at fat women including myself and find it attractive. In my eyes I am very unattractive at the moment and trying my hardest to sort it out. Carrying some weight is one thing, overweight is another.

He's wrong to laugh at and deride every fat person who crosses his path.

Sorry Squoosh but maybe I mis-understood you-how is me not liking fat different to you not liking short?? (I don't like short either in case from my previous posts u didn't get that )

But people change so much over the course of time Novak, it's like saying 'you're not the person I married', well they won't be, it was 15 fucking years ago!

Someone saying they won't accept any changes in their DPs body is being very unrealistic and is going to be very disappointed, whoever they're with.

Krum that clearly defines our differences but neither mine or yours is wrong it's just a preference & as far as I'm concerned there is nothing wrong with voicing this.

Flat stomachs only look like boys to you krumbrum because you have internalised sex roles.

But the difference I don't write people off for being a certain way. I've dated a woman with a flat stomach. I don't judge people on a single attribute. I can't see why anyone would. People are all different. Fat people don't all look the same! You wouldn't say this about thin people.

It's different in that I keep my thoughts to myself. You asked her if she was a 'fat bird' and if that was the problem? He has chosen to be in a relationship with her so if she had a weight problem or not he sounds like an ignorant git. I don't look at short men and thing 'short arse, short arse, short arse' I don't even notice. But I do know that all the men I've been attracted to have been tall.

It's about respecting people's feelings.

How Novack? Women not liking short men is because of wanting to see men as the more powerful provider. What gender role do you think causes what I said?

No one thinks of looking for a more powerful provider. Not since the middle ages perhaps.

Don't be silly. Why do you think pretty much all women want a tall man? And the ideal man is described as tall? People bang on about it all the time.

The preference for a tall man is partly because of the provider thing. its ingrained.

Why is he an ignorant git for having a preference on figure???

& like I have now repeated A LOT-I don't walk round insulting people because they don't suit my makeup!!!!

I have preferences, I don't wish or need to compromise why is this a bad thing?

Don't forget dark and handsome. Your pop psychology is quite amusing at times.