Screaming toddler next door what can we do....

[Crouchendmumoftwo]

Hello,

We live on a road with Victorian terraced houses. Our lovely neighbours who had 5 children have moved and a new couple have moved in with a 1.5 year old.
We havent slept for over a week since they moved in as their child cries on and off through the night and screeches and it wakes both of us up so 12 and then 3 in the morning and 6 in the morning. We are both exhausted. We have a 3 and 4 year old and are just getting our sleep back into order!
For some reason he seems to be in their bedroom and crying and we think that he is not being responded to immediately as the crying goes on and on. Also his screams are high pitched and really loud. We have had 5 kids next door with the youngest being 3 and we really didnt hear much so this is really ironic!
We also work from home and both hear him crying and screeching with his piercing voice throughout the day. I don't mind this so much it's just the lack of sleep at the moment. What would you do. I can't use earplugs unfortunately. We are at our wits end and exhausted from tiredness....
Thanks very much.

Every post you make you sound even worse! Go on, go round and complain. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when they tell you to keep your beak out and f* off!

Careful now Crouch you're skating onto thinner ice. If you dont think he's being cared for you are moving into SS area. I know you're tired, And I really sympathise but you're likely to get a real flaming if you go down that road.

yes it doesnt doesnt it saintly the only time mine have screamed like that (iother than with night terrors) is when they have had an ear infection.

So what do you think they can hear?

Yes it must be highly frustrating for you, but what exactly do you expect them to do to fix it? You must know that going round there is going to achieve nothing except damage any possible vague relationship you might have with them in the future.

I'm still fuming from your torturing comment.

Hope the mice have a midnight party tonight.

"I cant be sure they arent ignoring him or tending to him as I cant see through the wall. All we can hear is constant screaming night and day"

FFS nothing you have said has indicated the child is neglected, you don't know he's NOT any more than you don't know your previous neighbours kids weren't!
there are no red flags in your story!

Narrowboat - thanks will try again and will get tmra!
It does sound like something is wrong Ive never heard a scream so bad.Empusa as I said I cant see through walls so how would i know what tactic they were taking with him - controlled crying, or hugging, i dont have x ray specs!

"They actually look quite ok and not frazzled - weird! We on the otherhand are exhausted, sleep deprived and at our wits end, totally."

Here's where you implied it was worse for you.

"they are not the friendliest of people. But that doesnt matter I popped over with their post to say hi and was very friendly. they guy is not friendly at all is v odd."

Maybe he's 'odd' because he's completely sleep-deprived?!

Look, I know how awful sleep deprivation is - it is 100% the reason we're stopping at 2 and not having any more children. And it's worse when it's somebody else's child.

But the picture you're painting of this being so much worse for you, and that your neighbours should just fix it is unreasonable.

So because most of the posters have children who wake at night you should just suck it up !

What a load of crap !
I would be very pissed off if i were woken ALL night by someone elses child
I have never heard my neighbours children - happy,lively DC
A child screaming in distress all night is not the norm - If their DC have SN - they should explain it to you, if not then its a concern.
I would leave it a couple of weeks to allow for settling in and then mention it.

"A child screaming in distress all night is not the norm"

who says its the norm for this kid either? they've just moved in! could be molars comming through, could be an ear infection, could be stress about the move.... I think its pretty normal for small toddlers to have EPISODES where they are in distress for a week or so

"If their DC have SN - they should explain it to you." - Really? Perhaps thy should paint a red cross on their door?

Thanks MrsBaggins, it doesn't feel normal. Appreciate your sympathy!

ear defenders

grip

Our neighbours felt like that about us, they moved house!

I'd be pissed off too. It's not acceptable to allow your child to scream so much. Episodes of screaming, yes, but not constant disturbance. If it was my child, at the very least I'd go round to apologise to neighbours.

I am recognising that it might take a while for DC to settle.
I have been there ,worn the tshirt as regards teething,ear infections etc mine are now teenagers.
If their Dc are routinely awake at night or distressed for long periods due to SN - I would expect its often easier to explain than have a neighbour calling SS or getting angry.

Have yet to try the, 'Small child, I no longer allow you to cry' technique

"So because most of the posters have children who wake at night you should just suck it up !"

So what do yo think she can do? What do you think going round there would achieve?

"It's not acceptable to allow your child to scream so much. "

Hahahaha! Allow?? You think you get a choice??

Toadspornfrogspwan yes thanks, If it was my child I would in fact ive done so in the past with episodes of sickness.

Can you move big heavy furniture to the party wall. We've done this and noise is much more muted. Also, wall hangings, rugs/carpets. Anything to absorb noise. White noise machine may also be very effective.

Are your DC not waking up with the boy's screeching?

Dd1 has night terrors, usually bought on by being woken up...by our neighbours tv in the middle of the night.

Are you sure there isnt some small noise you might be making to wake him up?

Offer to babysit so they can have a break!? Are you serious? I'm with you op but I've no idea what you can do about it.

I would definitely mention it to them and ask if there's any way he can be kept in a different room.

Yes its louder for them but he's not the op's child, he's their child, their responsibility.

Just tried telling DS he didn't have permission to scream, it may come as a surprise, but he's still screaming. Should I return him as faulty?

All you saying it's not on and it should stop

What's the magic solution? you can explain it's not on and it's disturbing the neighbours and they need to stop, the toddler won't know or care what you're on about and carry on screaming.

Come round mine and tell me to make it stop and I would hand you my toddler andsay if it's so easy you do it

Have you tried asking him to stop PureMorning?

HTH