Screaming toddler next door what can we do....

[Crouchendmumoftwo]

Hello,

We live on a road with Victorian terraced houses. Our lovely neighbours who had 5 children have moved and a new couple have moved in with a 1.5 year old.
We havent slept for over a week since they moved in as their child cries on and off through the night and screeches and it wakes both of us up so 12 and then 3 in the morning and 6 in the morning. We are both exhausted. We have a 3 and 4 year old and are just getting our sleep back into order!
For some reason he seems to be in their bedroom and crying and we think that he is not being responded to immediately as the crying goes on and on. Also his screams are high pitched and really loud. We have had 5 kids next door with the youngest being 3 and we really didnt hear much so this is really ironic!
We also work from home and both hear him crying and screeching with his piercing voice throughout the day. I don't mind this so much it's just the lack of sleep at the moment. What would you do. I can't use earplugs unfortunately. We are at our wits end and exhausted from tiredness....
Thanks very much.

Thanks some great ideas - loud fan might be good, we tried to do the mouse thing and have had the experts in twice! White noise seems the best option really. Doesn't seem like saying anything to them at all is really an option by the sound of your feedback!

You poor thing. Noisy neighbours and odd mice?

My DS went through a phase of waking and being inconsolable no matter what we did, hysterically crying sometimes for hours.

This was no fun for any of us.

Luckily my neighbour has a sense of humour and now refers to him affectionately as 'Lungs'. when I profusely apologised he laughed and said it was us he felt sorry for, having no walls to muffle it.

If you have kids have some empathy, and get a sense of humour while you're at it.

It is a phase and it will pass, but unless you move, you'll have to put your big girl pants on and just DEAL with it.

Give the silicone plugs a go, they don't do brain poking at all.

Just came to check if we knew you as live in the same area....discover children are same age,I bet we do!
Yabu,don't be surprised when your neighbour tells you to fuck off

Maybe cram a mouse in each ear?

That should say family i work for live in the same area

Thanks fififrog, think that is what we have to do, white noise and gritting of teeth!

Can't you play some soothing gentle music to drown out the noise?

You can't expect too much sympathy when you're basically implying it's worse for you and your DH, than it is for the family itself...!

The reason you're not getting much sympathy is down to the way you're coming across. Think about it. This is a horrible situation - there's little more torturous than relentless sleep-deprivation, and yet you're coming in for a hard time here.

Put 2 and 2 together and have a bit of self-awareness. :)

You have my sympathy OP. Could you buy them a copy of the "No Cry Sleep Solution?!" Or introduce yourself and work up to lending them your old copy?

It must be awful for you as you are powerless to stop the child crying. I feel guilty about the neighbours if DS cries incessantly at bedtime and during the night I would feel worse! Good luck, hopefully it is a phase. They must be v tired too. DS is a non sleeper and I am broken at the moment but appear to function to the outside world.

It's oversentimental to think an 18 month-old is still a baby? And you just how babies/children should act by how they look? Right. I understand about sleep deprivation and about inconsiderate neighbours (having had experience), but you are either not very nice or too sleep deprived to make reasonable decisions.

hazeyjane

Could you buy them a copy of the "No Cry Sleep Solution?!"

I think this would be a bad idea.

I read the title of this thread and thought "Holy shit it's MY neighbours!" My 3 all scream, screech and shout and it feels like 24/7!

Maybe your neighbour looks old and tested but the reason he seemed a bit unfriendly and 'odd' because he is exhausted from no sleep and having to move house
As others have said its just a phase what I tell myself everyday I hope it's true
Also re the mice, are they only downstairs? I know a few people who have had mice(myself included) and they are usually everywhere not just downstairs

Oh for gods sake good and rested not old and tested really need to turn autocorrect off

NuresBernard Im not here to help them with their sleep issues though am I? I didnt think I way implying it was worse for us, Im sure its horrible and relentless for them of course it is. Its not just a little crying at night ive said it before it really isnt it is full on shrieking at 11, 12, 2, 3, 6 - all through the night all through out the day. I can understand if you are not going through it you don't understand and are feeling you are the neighbours and feeling angry like ive even complained which I havent.

lalaloopylou - aaaaaagh ! yes have been in denial about that!

YABVU, and there is nothing you can do. You said you might go round to talk through some options with them. My ds is 20 months and if he was going through a tough time and you came to my door to work through 'some options' i would have though you were a patronizing bitch and depending on lack of sleep would probably tell you to fuck off. Do you actually believe your neighbours are not doing everything possible to get their little one to sleep/stop crying. And 1.5 is still a baby imo. You live in a terrace, these are the perils, suck it up or move.

LOL hazeyjane

Aren't they still cutting teeth at that age? Could be he's teething and unsettled by the move combined.

I second those saying you need to bed down on the kids floors just to get some sleep. If you reorganised your own room would it help?

If you do go round heed the reaction of people on this thread. Offer to have him for a few hours so the parents can sleep. This will make you a good guy and if he cries will also enable the neighbours to hear how the sound travels.

Try really, really hard not to get into a row about this with your neighbours, yourecheaded for a whole new world of aggro that way.

IMHO yes YABVU... this poor little mite has been taken from familiar surroundings, into a strange environment, there are most probably strange noises that wake him that he is not used to yet......
If you want to address the situation maybe a nice friendly visit to your neighbours to welcome them and apologize if they ever get disturbed by any noise that comes from your house especially from your little ones..... that could open up a discussion on the matter and if it doesn't it will definitely make them think about any disruption you may be experiencing.
Please do not assume that they are just ignoring him that is completely out of order

Thanks Enjoy Responsibly our bedroom v big and the bed is really far away from their room. Think will try white noise option. Don't think Ill go around, my husband however is ready to go round he is so tired. Couldn't think of anything worse offering to have him screaming around her in the room.
Who knows - maybe they are torturing him at night!

Im sure they are not ignoring him it just sounds like it as its so relentless and goes on and on and gets louder and louder.