Screaming toddler next door what can we do....

[Crouchendmumoftwo]

Hello,

We live on a road with Victorian terraced houses. Our lovely neighbours who had 5 children have moved and a new couple have moved in with a 1.5 year old.
We havent slept for over a week since they moved in as their child cries on and off through the night and screeches and it wakes both of us up so 12 and then 3 in the morning and 6 in the morning. We are both exhausted. We have a 3 and 4 year old and are just getting our sleep back into order!
For some reason he seems to be in their bedroom and crying and we think that he is not being responded to immediately as the crying goes on and on. Also his screams are high pitched and really loud. We have had 5 kids next door with the youngest being 3 and we really didnt hear much so this is really ironic!
We also work from home and both hear him crying and screeching with his piercing voice throughout the day. I don't mind this so much it's just the lack of sleep at the moment. What would you do. I can't use earplugs unfortunately. We are at our wits end and exhausted from tiredness....
Thanks very much.

Its just all about you then isn't it? You sound awful OP - worse with each post.

Are you sure you have children?

they are not obligated to "work through the options with you" by the by. so you may have to adjust yourself and your expectations

Yup, why can't you or your husband move bedroom? Its not their problem you work from home during the day. I live in a row of terraced houses, the crying of babies/toddlers doesn't bother me at all, the constant running up and down stairs by the teenagers next door does - I suck it up. My children cry and listen to One Direction a bit loudly and jump on their beds. My next door neighbours boys are like thundering elephants on the stairs and my other neighbour revs his motorbike engine at various times of the day [shrugs]

I can't imagine why they don't seem friendly. You sound lovely.

Sounds terrible and you have my sympathy but I don't think there's much you can do :(

I dont mind children crying at all, I have two, It's the incessant shrieking and screaming through the night and early hours which is keeping us awake Im finding it hard to deal with. I dont mind crying now and then - there are lots of children around here. Im just shattered.

Pod - those are the ones I meant. I found them good. I don't like earplugs but they are the one thing you can do that's in your own power with noisy neighbours. And that sort are much more comfy.

YABVU. That's it really.

Wow some of you are so bitchy and angry on here!

Haven't read whole thread I hasten to add perennial mistake

I listen to music or audiobooks on earphones to help me sleep - might be an idea?

Or give it a try sleeping on the sofa? Or in with your kids?

Are your neighbours mid terrace? If so the other bedroom would disturb the other side! Also if they have just moved in not all r

... Rooms might be ready yet.

OP we GET why you don't enjoy hearing it!

what we don't get is what possible positive outcome you think can come from you going round there to complain/suggest things they've probably already tried!

Ive tried sleeping in with my son in his cot bed! Not a great! Id sleep on the sofa but we get the odd mouse and I tried and I lie there awake with my heart pumping away!

If you live in a terraced house then you do have to put up with normal household noise, and I think a baby being at night falls into this.Why don't you move to a different part of the house to sleep?Otherwise go to a builders merchants and get a few sheets of soundboard to improve the soundproofing.

Hmm, it's not a good situation to be in. I would imagine the family would be very upset if you asked them to deal with the crying;

but to all the people being harsh to the OP - if she's sleep-deprived, no wonder she's coming across as a bit intolerant. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture.

you don't seem open to the genuine suggestion of you two sleeping downstairs!? I didn't put it to you in order to be mean. You could make it quite cosy/romantic, especially if you have a fire place.

Yes OP, we're the bitchy ones, when you are the one suggestions you patronize the hell out of your new neighbors.

Can you get the mouse thing sorted and then be more relaxed on the sofa?

Is there room for a camping mat or cushions on the kids' floors?

Something from the chemist to help you sleep better?

At this stage you're looking for any improvement you can get!

How's your bedroom set up? If your head is next to the wall move it as far away as possible and put your wardrobe or maybe bookcase on the party wall. It might go some way to blocking out the noise. It's cheeky but if you get chance to talk with your neighbours perhaps suggest they do the same.

Could you play some sort of white noise when he kicks off? Run a fan or something?

It just sounds as if you see it as their problem alone and that only they should come up with a solution to this. Do they wake up your children? I agree there is no way you would get a good nights sleep in your kid's cot bed. Use a blow up bed or something similar.

Gosh I'm feeling really sorry for your neighbours.

It must be horrendous to have a baby cry like that during the night and not be able to comfort him and now you plan on insinuating that they're not doing "enough" to placate their baby.

Ooh, I have another one. Can you go to friends or family tonight, and your DH tomorrow night? If you get even one full night you might feel better able to cope. You could go after the kids are in bed and be back for breakfast and still get 8 hours!

If you have mice, get rentokill! If you try sleeping downstairs at least you'll know whether moving rooms would help.

BTW, I have a 17 month old and she is definitely still a baby emotionally, but with the loudness of a child. I can't believe having kids of your own that you'd really expect your own child to have listened to the voice of reason at 3am.

Maybe your neighbour was unfriendly because he's shattered and stressed.

I don't know what the answer is but I think you need to give them time, understand the situation before jumping in, and definitely try to make some adjustments in your own life before you break any chance of getting on with your neighbours forever by suggesting they don't know what they are doing.

Blimey a week of broken sleep and you are that frazzled? Good job you didn't have my 2 dds. 6 years of it and people tell me I look quite good considering!

Tbh, I am not sure what you are expecting them to do about it. But feel free to go and work through "options".