To ask if you have sex when on a period

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My dh will not have sex with me when i am on a period, I respect that it make him feel grossed out, but I am on for 5-7 days which is IMO a long time with out sex :(

Aibu to think a grown man should not be freaked out by a bit of blood

We do boyfriend doesn't seem to care, my ex and I used to too.

Agree with you op 5 days is a long time to go without sex

And I'm going to make the most of my high sex drive while I've got it.

I am hornier than ever at the time of the month. I use a contraceptive sponge and DP is none the wiser.

My bf also does oral while I'm on as long as I'm not heavy got to love him.

I would (and have done) but my boyfriend doesn't like it so don't now. I always preferred it in the first few days rather than the smellier and more stringy later days, even though it's often heavier to begin with.

This is one of the things that MN taught me. I thought nobody would but am always v surprised that the majority seem to continue having sex whilst on.

But then I think sex for anything other than procreation is morally wrong.

But then I think sex for anything other than procreation is morally wrong.

Are you serious?

No, I never have, and can't imagine I'd want to. Sounds messy to me, and 'whipping out' a tampon just before doesn't appeal, surely the dryness would make it very uncomfortable? There are plenty of other days in the month.

I am also that 5 days is a long time to go without sex, but I guess we're all different!

My DH doesn't have have a problem with it. I used to whip out my tampon out and now I use a moon cup he begs me to take it out.... First couple of days of period I say no because it's too heavy but after that it's fine.

I really prefer men who don't have a problem with it. My DH is absolutely fine with it. I do sometimes use a diaphragm though, which contains everything for the duration. You can get dispoable cups that do the same thing.

Yes. My period stop on the third day of the cycle and is very light for the remaining 2 days. My body probably does this to compensate me (and my Husband!) for the horrendous PMS the week before it!

We have done, he isn't likely to turn down sex, and I actually find that an orgasm helps period pain. Got to be in the mood though, whether it's he time of the month or not.
I think 5 days is a long time to go without sex ask well, although currently its been about 15 weeks as DH is working away gagging for it so if I am on my period when he gets back, I expect we shall still jump on each other!

i sometimes do, but am lucky enough to have light and pain-free periods

It is ok to like or dislike sexual acts. If your husband doesn't like it, you should respect that, rather then trying to talk him into it. To use the old M N cliche "imagine if the OP was a man saying this..."

I agree if it was the other way round and you were saying 'aibu to not want to have sex while on' people would side with you.

It's personal preference although personally I sympathise with you.

I get a very sore stomach in the first few days so no then, but after that I don't mind it.

I don't think men should have to like it though. My xp did, and a bloke i was recently seeing didn't mind either, but i'd not be fussed if they said 'no way'.

A shag does stop the cramps better then a paracetamol

No, it's my time off and I cramp like hell so am not interested

Nope. I think its disgusting. So does OH.

Inneedofbrandy You're not wrong! I cottoned on in my teens that an orgasm is the best painkiller there is. It totally eliminates it. Unfortunately only for as long as the orgasm lasts

Dh isn't keen, but occasionally we have sex towards the end and its not so bad. Not at the beginning though, I'm crampy and cross.

I used to agree 5-7 days was ages OP. Throw in a 3 year old, an 18 month old and a DH that works every hour that god sends (and when he's not he's asleep on the sofa) and actually once a week would be fucking marvelous!

Aeryn I find it stops it for the rest of the night, but your right totally eliminated.

I do. Neither me nor dh care at all about a bit of blood and it is a good time to avoid pregnancy although we still use contraception. Put a dark coloured towel underneath if think leakage will occur!

I have 2 dc and work pt :) I must just have a high sex drive.

I would never treat dh different or try to bribe him ect NO is no and I would not pressure the man I love into sex, my relationship is worth alot more.

I can understand that people might avoid it due to pain or mess but why do people actually think it's disgusting?

Why on earth would you think that your periods are disgusting?