To ask if you have sex when on a period

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My dh will not have sex with me when i am on a period, I respect that it make him feel grossed out, but I am on for 5-7 days which is IMO a long time with out sex :(

Aibu to think a grown man should not be freaked out by a bit of blood

Also, what numerica said...

Personally not in the initial first days of a period when it's most uncomfortable and flow is heaviest & could understand if a man didn't want to either. It feels and might even smell different. But it's not gross.

Well for me it's a long time

None of the partners I've had have ever even raised the topic.. Not been bothered at all. My dh wants sex all day every day regardless :) (not that we do much with 9 year old dd and 9 week old ds!!!) I don't see the problem... Its all natural but I suppose everyone's different. I couldn't do it straight after using a tampon though - its like trying to push a canal boat up the sahara desert after that!

it's not something that has posed a major problem over the years. Dp really doesn't care either way, so it's if I feel up to having sex or not. sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. same as at other times really.

I find the intensity heightened when on a period - it's nice!

Canal boat up the Sahara Desert

That's why you've just lubricated said canal boat with oral.

i think its up too the people involved.i never have or would as i would feel gross, but thats just my opinion

Sex is the last thing on my mind, making sure I can get a couple of hours decent sleep before I have to do a high speed sprint to the bathroom is my priority.
Doubled up sanitary wear, cramping, migraine and BIG knickers doesn't really put me or DH in the mood

agree with 50shades but DH not always keen

No. Grim.

I enjoy sex during my period and it doesnt bother dh either.

I have been with DH for about 5 years and we have but only recently - partly because a lot of the time I've been on the pill and didn't have periods! When we were first together and did nothing but shag I wore tampons and did hands & oral.

We still generally avoid it but recently I have been having long light periods - over a week - so we have done it and it's been fine.

With a previous partner I did but we always used condoms anyway so it wasn't that 'messy' when I was on - it was a long distance relationship so not much stopped us

I have but not until the pinky days IYSWIM. But then until I had a Mirena fitted my periods could last 2 - 3 weeks.

I don't mind and I have done - I have light periods though. My dp doesn't like it because he says blood reminds him of when he's had a fight(??)

No. Although I have in the past

At my behest more than his though.

No way. Its a blessed relief from being pestered so I pretend it lasts longer than it actually does!

I'm always hornier when on, pretty sure my DH is too. It's never bothered him or any previous partners, can be messy but it's quite natural. Some people are easily squicked by bodily functions, others aren't..c'est la vie, hopefully most of us are matched accordingly

Not for me or dh thankfully.

lol dementedma!

Never liked the idea. I am not at my most turned on when I am bloated, spotty and leaking blood out my fanny. And I have to be turned on to have sex, I think that's fair.

If your DH doesn't want to have sex while you are bleeding is that so bad? Would you actually enjoy sex if you knew that the person having sex with you actually wasn't enjoying themselves?

I'm the same OP! As a friend of mine once wisely opined 'It's cool to swim in Red Sea, just don't drink from it!' - that's the rule we tend to stick by :)

OH wouldn't be bothered either way. Heavy periods and v.low cervix make penetration out of the question for me though. (during periods that is, cervix disappears somewhere else the rest of the month )

No I haven't, just don't like the thought.

Also, it's not 'just a bit of blood' is it really?? Tends to be a bit on the clotted side I find so hardly a turn on eh?