to think sitting in a pub, drinking alone is quite a sad thing to do

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Me and DH went out to a pub yesterday afternoon and in the pub there were at least 8 men sat at tables on their own drinking. I've noticed this before and you never see women doing this and I think its quite sad to just be sat there drinking on your own. DH disagrees though and says that maybe they just enjoy a quiet Pint or two. AIBU?

PS, I'm glad that the classic British pub is there for those 'sad old geezers', though, for it was probably the highlight of their day. Where else would they go?! So it's not all that sad, maybe they lived alone with no prospect of finding love, but they had a home-from-home in the Old Fox & Hounds where the bar staff where always polite to them because they were regulars, and where they had their own stool, and could catch up on local gossip.

(Feeling a bit nostalgic now for days gone by working as a young barmaid in oaky boozers with patterned red carpets... might go re-read Graham Swift's Last Orders).

I enjoy sitting in the pub on my own, with a book. It's always nice to be out of the house!

god, the notion of sitting in a pub with a drink and no baby, toddler, child or husband to pester me!!

sweet joy.

i'd probably only stay for one though.

I love to go to a pub of coffee place alone. In fact I prefer it to going out with a group of people. This is the order I like:

1. Going out with 1 or 2 very close friends or family members - maximum of 3 of us altogether. Nice, relaxing intimate conversations.
2. Going out alone - very PEACEFUL can do what I want and don't have to accommodate others.
3. Going out with a group of people - I hate this. Very stressful, trying to keep up with conversations. Normally 1 person hogging the limelight, people competing with each other - horrible. Except if a common interest.

YABU. My partner likes to have a quiet pint in a pub and read the paper. What's wrong with that? He just sees the pub as an extension of his living room.

I sit in a cafe bar with a glass of wine on my own occasionally. I love the quiet time.

When I'm away with work I go to a pub ALONE and have a meal and glass (or two) of wine.

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One of my closest friends owns my local pub. I'm known to pop up a couple of times a week on my own, chat to all the old boys, come back, have dinner without DH and then go to bed. It's really quite lovely but then I live in a tiny village and I know everyone here.

I’m literally on my way to the pub with dog and newspaper. Duly noted that I am ‘sad’. I think it’s sad when people cannot do anything alone but each to their own.

I often pop into a pub and have a glass of wine alone. It’s lovely to relax and people watch.

I love it.
Just as well as I might be doing it a lot more soon

I know this is a zombie. But when I was a bar maid these chaps were often widows. It was next door to a fishmongers and there was one man who had always gone out and bought fish for him and his wife’s dinner as the last job on the way home so it was fresh. He started coming in the pub because he didn’t want to go back to the empty house after she died.

It was heartbreaking.

This thread is nearly six years old - I'm guessing the OP isn't still sad.

ZOMBIE THREAD

One of my most favourite activities is to go sit in a pub with a good book and a pint of cider

I go to the pub on my own every other Friday. I have two large wines and people watch. I love it.

And I fell for a zombie. Dammit.

I love sitting in the pub with my book and a nice drink.

Christalexi
Going out with a group of people - I hate this. Very stressful, trying to keep up with conversations. Normally 1 person hogging the limelight, people competing with each other - horrible. Except if a common interest.

Geez, You have no idea how real that is...ugh!!
It's exactly the reason why I stopped going out years ago
The alpha male with the fake tan, tats and designer labels, strutting and talking the loudest saying "look at the tit's on 'er"! whilst the other one laughs boosting alpha male's ego even further.

We met up last night for a meal with all our patners and wives and it was exactly the same routine...hated every single second of it.

Male macho bullshit...detest it with a passion

.....sorry for the rant

Quite envious of them

Oh no op!
I have often popped to pub alone in town.. It's great when you have no one to go out with but desperate to be around people.. I did this alot after close relative died what's sad about it!! Being out around people.. Friend may turn up etc.. I Think its far far sadder in our country there isn't more you can do alone.

I know what you mean OP, I used to work in a (dive) pub where men would arrive as the doors were being unlocked and sit drinking pint after pint alone until closing time, every day. It did seem a very lonely existence and not a life I’d want for myself.

YABU. I admire people who drink and eat alone and not caring what sheep like OP thinks.

Oh dear. I do this frequently. I must be sad and alone. There are many reasons for this, some of mine:

• in another city having completed meetings for the day and awaiting train home. Pop into local pub for a drink
• shopping on a Saturday. Fancy a break. Pop into pub for a drink. Same if the suns out, go to a place with a nice terrace and relax in the sun with a glass of wine
• was once in between a yoga class and meeting a friend. I nipped into the Dorchester bar and had a cocktail

My Dad and DP often go to pubs alone. Dad because he likes the atmos of a pub and a quiet beer. Mum prefers to stay home. DP same and might see someone he knows from football and they chat briefly.

Not sad. Not alone.

One of the saddest things about reading this zombie thread is the fact that LadyBeagelEyes has sadly died since this was posted.