So just because you're mum now you can't look nice and make an effort?

[sostressedsostressed]

I don't understand (bar finances and even then not really an excuse) why some women when they become parents, out goes the stylish clothes, in comes Tesco mummy jeans!

Out goes the decent hair cut/colour, in comes uncombed hair.

There is NO excuse (apart from depression before the righteous mafia comes for my neck, haha.

Seriously it really bugs me.

What prompted that, FutTheShuckUp?

Is your wedding gown Dior Haute Couture? No? Then it probably looks shit, right?? Each to their own style within their own budget & in their own time - as much or as little of it they want to spend on themselves or their kids. There's always someone a rung further up or down whichever particular ladder you're clinging to .

So, 400 replies on and the troll is still being fed.

What prompted that? Oh maybe just the lovely comment about some women need to look in the mirror.
Nice isn't it- how us women use things about other women to beat them with a stick all the time

" Wearing make up does not make someone 'cleaner' than someone else."

Damn right, Megatron.

@ tethers

Back from the park & now the C bomb is being dropped! Wow

3 days on mumsnet have been very enlightening.

Blame the troll - but we are all enjoying having a discussion / argument / slagging match about this.

It's all good fun. I think the consensus is - unless I'm mistaken that most of us don't give a fuck what other mums wear nor what they think of us.

I'm new so I'm just gonna send some love out there & say that I'm sure u r all fabulous no matter what your wearing on your body or face.

"QoD you look fantastic but now you dismiss women who do not have your values, just as once you were dismissed by others for not having theirs."

Thankyou lol.

I don't dismiss them, I would just like people to see how damaging tearing into others (like the OP has done) can be damaging. I don't care what other people dress like, if you wouldn't dress the same as another person, or you would put more effort into your appearence that's fair enough, its when people start belittling others over it that it starts causing problems.

Aye, the only views I take objection to on this thread are that ones where people who do not do the same as you are unacceptable, and the rather unkind attack on women who don't wear make up needing to look in the mirror.

Some people have pointed this out a little more vociferously than I, but I agree with the concept that we do ourselves a disfavour by being so catty with each other about something so insignificant as make up and style.

It's an issue of personal choice and I will only call out anyone who speaks in a manner that is opposed to such.

I used to work for clinique and then chanel as one of those ladies who try and talk you into spending £50 on a face cream :) ... I basically looked near enough orange with make up every day...

8 years and 2 kids later and I still wear a bit of make up but I genuinely care a lot less about what other people think now. I care about my kids and that's it. Its actually very liberating :)

I do enjoy straightening my hair if I have a spare ten mins and ds hasn't manage to dribble all over it....

I agree with everything you've said Rabbits.

Is everyone still slinging buns?

I'd love a bun.

Thanks Megatron although, as a Decepticon, I am not sure if having your approval is meant to be a good thing or like an evil super villanous thing designed to cause more dissent and chaos, as is often their wont - [geekalert]

If you look orange from foundation it's not the foundations fault, it's yours for buying the wrong colour!

Warm toned/ cool toned. Wearing makeup, even (shock!) lots of it... Does not = orange

shit stirs

fans flames

op, so you only look good if you dont buy stuff from tesco's?.

get over yourself, some people prefer not to look like fashion victims or clothes horses.

to anybody who wears tesco jeans, if they fit you comfortably and you like them wear them as much as you bloody well like i dont give a shiney shit where you bought them and anybody who does is a shallow cunt with extreamly bad prioritys and has far to much time on there hands

I have no fucking clue why I have bothered to read all of the above.

I think I need to get a life - or perhaps I'll go and finish clearing up....

I've never 'made much of an effort' because I can't be arsed. I'm not interested in fashion and have no sense of style whatsoever. I look like a man in drag when I wear make-up. I do keep clean and brush my hair and occasionally have it cut. In the hot weather, I have been mostly wearing charity shop shorts and Tesco vest tops. I look very ordinary, no doubt. If people on the street find it disappointing, then I'm sorry for that but it isn't my concern. My DD says she thinks I am beautiful, my DS says he wants to marry me and my OH seems to want to have sex with me rather a lot so it's obviously not an issue for my nearest and dearest.

I don't get my sense of worth from my appearance. There are ways to show
I value myself that don't involve all that maintenance.

I used to care and invest a lot of time and money in my appearance. Then I had a child. It changed my life like nothing I've known. Now I am clean, neat and comfortable. When DS is older (and I have more cash) then maybe I will spend more time on my appearance. In the meantime, I will continue to enjoy spending time with DS, instead of judging others.

I wish I had so little in my life to worry about.

I have been more comfortable in my own skin since having DS than ever before. Maybe I just don't give a toss what strangers think anymore .

Woah

Hiya all

The reason I have not posted is because I have been at work all day! (In Birmingham today although live in London) absolutely shattered.

I don't think I offended anyone - I didn't swear, I was not crude...I just asked a question regarding mothers who USED TO make the effort with their appearance/dress sense BEFORE children but who no longer do so AFTER children.

It is a discussion worth having...I like to learn things that ponder in my mind. I am not offended in the slightest and hope to continue posting as I don't think I have broken any guidelines?

Anyway I shall dip into this thread later as I am off to sort out my child (yes I have a kid HENCE why I am on here!)

Speak soon
Best
Yolanda

Lets all go to Tescos
where we all buy our best clothes.
All my clothes come from supermarkets, Primark or Peacocks. I don't give a fuck whether anyone else likes them, or in fact where anyone else buys their clothes from. Or if anyone else wears makeup, has a spray tan, hair extensions or boob implants [I don't, nothing to do with being a Mum, it's just not my style]
I can only assume the OP is a troll. Lol.

"I don't think I offended anyone - I didn't swear, I was not crude"

Totally the only ways to be offensive