So just because you're mum now you can't look nice and make an effort?

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I don't understand (bar finances and even then not really an excuse) why some women when they become parents, out goes the stylish clothes, in comes Tesco mummy jeans!

Out goes the decent hair cut/colour, in comes uncombed hair.

There is NO excuse (apart from depression before the righteous mafia comes for my neck, haha.

Seriously it really bugs me.

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Maybe I should flounce? I did get told to fuck off.

Blue corner looks a bit like my grandmother. Granny are YOU the OP?

I am wearing a full face of make up AND I've spent an hour having fun with my DD. This is because my DD was given washable markers for her birthday and she has used them to colour my face in like a (blue and orange) lion. So effort HAS been expended on my looks today, and I look stunning although probably not in the way the OP intended.

Woo hoo!

I'm off to blow up a paddling pool. Reluctantly leaves the bunfight debate about make up and badly fitting jeans.

Hexagonal of course they aren't mutually exclusive, but that doesn't change the fact that 20 mins spend doing hair/make up or whatever is 20 minutes I am not spending with my DC, and to me, one is more important than the other (considerably!) and it's not how I look.

I don't see why it matters one bit how I look when I am doing the school run, supermarket shop or playing with my children, so why would I waste time on it?

As long as you're happy with how you are then all is fine, midori :) I personally feel more confident and happier when I've done my hair and make up and am dressed well. We're all different.

My work, and going out wardrobe is decidedly fab. Net-a-porter is my saviour. I am always well turned out when I am not on child-duty.

Playing with DD at home, in the garden, in the park does not call for a Michael Kors dress or Miu Miu heels. I wear my topshop baxter jeans and washing machine friendly tops. I do not straighten my hair or wear makeup with DD. I am dedicated to getting messy and silly. If you want to wear makeup and designer clothes for that, go ahead, it makes you no better than anyone else...just keeps the dry-cleaner happy!

It's kind of funny that the martyr mummies are saying they don't have time to spend on their appearance because they'd rather spend every precious minute with their children - doesn't the same apply to the amount of time you spend on MN?

Seriously you can spend your time however you want, dress however you want etc. I'm hardly the most groomed or stylish type myself. But being overweight and badly dressed does NOT make you morally superior or a more devoted parent as some seem to be suggesting.

Oh my god - I spend 15 minutes on myself - every day!!!! How fucking dare I!

Because I want to. Trust me, my DS doesn't suffer. The fact that it is that I am a much happier person bcoz I do go to the gym, get my hair cut & get a pamper every now & again (Most of which I add are done when he is at nursery or with DH). Im not saying its for everybody - but it is for me.

If I was in a situation where I had to choose for financial reasons obviously I would wear pj's in public b4 I let DS go without. I am lucky to be in the situation that this is not the case.

I also do not wear crocs - personal taste.

Ephiny - I love u. Exactly how I feel!

Well you know OP, there are those amongst us who think that Life is bit more important than the clothes you put on or the amount of money you spend on your hair.

Have my first ever to put on your plate.

I don't wear make up very often, don't brush my hair. Tend to wear whatever, shave when I can plait the hair and I don't spend a lot of time with kids ( they at the age where they can entertain themselves) and I couldn't give a shit about what others think about it .
My dad would frequently tell me I had let myself go not because he felt he was acting in my best interests but because he was a nasty bully, who got off on knocking his 'loved' ones down.
I am happy and comfortable and that is all that matters to me and all that matters to my family.

It depends on what you are doing your hair and make up first, for.

I sometimes do a shop early,when i am taking my dog out laterand it is expected to rain.

I wouldn't bother doing hair and make up. I wear different clothes and footwear, but the same can apply to on the way home, which means that i shop in walking boots and badly fitting jeans .

I wear tracky b's most days. Simply because im too fat for anything else. Even if i make an effort i still look like a sack of potatoes. If i dont make an effort, i dont care, if i do make an effort and still look like shit, i get depressed.....therefore, i dont make an effort.

Has op bitch plopped and left?

I couldn't give a shit tbh. More important things to worry about. I'd sooner spend my money on experiences than mascara. Won't lie in my death bed saying "oh remember that top I wore in 2012"

Haha another one here who immediately thought Samantha Brick

Op - read my lips - Looks. Are. Not. Important.

Op what a sad sad world you live in. So superficial.

Ephinay said what I tried to say, pages back, in about 400 more words, much better than I did.

Wow this moved fast, how long was I gone?

See this is just what the OP wanted, women having to justify to eachother how good a mother they are in relation to how much time they spend on their appearance.

OP, please come back so you can tell us how your bridesmaids like being told they're too fat to be in your wedding photos

How long until this goes the way of the theme park thread?

I'm against breast feeding, I think all fat people are lazy & I believe in locking children in cupboards as punishment.

Anything else we can all argue about. Lol.

(above is obviously a joke, a cage is much better than a cupboard)

Pombear theme park thread?

• where has OP disappeared to?

Me thinks OP probably looks like Cruella D'evil and is sitting on her computer watching this with amusement.

this is one of those priorities in life that is optional and tends to move up and down the list of things to do.

personally, i wouldn't make any presumptions about anyones parenting technique, self esteem or day to day commitment to making an effort based purely on their wardrobe.