I hate my mother in law

[bubalou]

Hate is a strong word. This is a vent - apologies for length.

If I never saw my mother in law again would I care - not at all.

My DH is golden boy - at 36 he is still the apple of her eye and his 39 year old sister is oh so aware of this (poor her).

I don't want to ramble too much but she is just a horrible person. His dad is nice but I don't know how she managed to raise such a nice, well rounded man like my DH - that however is the only compliment she will get from me.

She has never liked me. I don't know why - I think I'm nice. I'm a good wife - we have been married over 5 years now & our DS just turned 4 & he is her only grandchild. I have never cheated, never broken up with him even, never done anything wrong. I think I'm a great mum - I didn't work for 2 years so I could dedicate my time to DS, Now he is older I work 36 hours a week, look after him, my husband and run the family home. Lots of love to all my fellow working mums - my god it's hard!!!!

Bottom line. She is horrible. Any excuse to have a dig at me. I work Mondays - Thursdays. My DS goes to nursery Mon, Wed, Thurs. She has him at my house on a Tuesday. Don't get me wrong I appreciate it - but it is a nightmare! I have to see her every week!

She does sooooo many things to annoy me on purpose. I found out about 9 months ago when they had taken DS out for a meal they let him have a whole glass of coke. 'But it was diet' they said. I went mental and told them under no circumstances was he to have coke. The next week they took him out and he came back and told me he had lemonade!!!! I asked her if he was joking - she looked at me, smiled & said 'well you said no coke'. This is just 1% of the shit I have to put up with.

This isn't me being size-ist - she is fat. Not 'I'm trying to lose weight fat' but - I eat what I wan't don't care and hate everybody that is smaller than me fat. His sister is fat and DH was too as a child due to what she fed him - he resents her for this as he now lives a very healthy lifestyle.

She is always trying to feed my son crap!!! They don't bring him round 1 chocolate bar a week - they will bring 3 big bags of smarties, jelly babies etc, a cake from gregs and feed him what he wants. I have to lay out all his food and give her times to give it to him or she just feeds him crisps. She has even put the healthy snacks in the bin before and I found them. I came home one day to find his lunch still in the fridge - when I asked her why she said 'he just wanted crisps'!!!! WTF!!!!!

I have heard her say horrible things about me - in my own house, she is rude to my family and has openly slagged off my mum (not being biased but she is wonderful) My husbands nan (his dads mum) died a few months back, another person who hated my MIL. My FIL got a little drunk at the wake - as some people do when dealing with grief and when I drove him home he said to me 'I don't care what horrible things 'MIL' says about your mum and dad, I think they're lovely'!!!

I can't talk to DH about this because after all the years as soon as I mention his mum he knows it will be bad. Thank god my DS starts school in 1 month and I won't have to see her every week but she will still be having him over half terms etc.

I have tried dealing with her but don't know how to handle things without hurting DH feelings.

Sorry for the REALLY long message - honestly I could moan about this woman for hours on the things she does!

Hi not sure where to start really , Looking for some advice , I can’t stand my mother in law!! My partner treats her like the fucking queen and I can’t understand why ?? She was a terrible mother she was never around always out gambling or getting drunk she never took care of him , neighbours fed him and clothed him as she was a disgusting mother , I’ve had a baby and from the minute he was born I couldn’t stand the thought of her holding him , her house is disgusting it’s filthy and makes me feel sick , she spends 3/5 days in the pub drinking and says it’s only to keep her mother company which is bull as my mother grew up with her and said she’s been in the pub for years and always will be , she’s raised my partner to think it’s normal to be out drinking all the time and that it’s ok for kids to be in pubs which will be over my dead body !!!! We let her babysit every so often but I’ll only allow it at my house and I only allow it cause my partner gives me crap about it , I ask my mother to look after him but keep it a secret from my partner as he will get jealous that his mum doesn’t have him , I’ve told my partner the truth as I’m sick of the arguments , told him his mothers a piss head and only cares about drinking and that his mums house is filthy and don’t want my son going there and we just row over it , here’s an example ... she hadn’t seen my son for nearly a month and decided to pop over weekend and she stayed half hour if that , and then said right I’ll be off and toddled off to the pub !!! And when I said wtf to my partner he said at least she came round like I’m supposed to be grateful or something!!! My family all can’t stand his mother but get on with her for mine and my sons sake , she’s no grandmother at all , and my partner had told my stories of his upbringing and it makes me angry at what a total disgrace his mother was but when I say this to my partner it falls on deaf ears he thinks the sun shines out of her butt !! And before anyone thinks it I’ve bent over backwards for his mother when she comes round I make a fuss of her ect and now he knows how I feel he said it was all fake and I never liked his mother in the first place There’s so much more to all of this but I’ve already rambled on and on ,

The thread that keeps on giving.

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Gembobalina82 start a thread of your own maybe?

I've noticed that so many women who hate their MILs don't use paragraphs too. Weird.

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So many frothing single paragraph rants on here - it's almost as if posters search specifically for threads called 'I hate my MIL' just so they can let rip. Oh wait...

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