to have left after 15 minutes

[MrsKeithRichards]

Dh took 6 year old ds camping today. Ds2 is 14 weeks and we won't really think about going camping with him for another year.

They were planning on going to a site ten minutes from the house but it was full so he decided to go to our usual place, about an hour and a bit away. I was a bit gutted to be missing out, I love that site, stunning setting and we've been going there for years. Anyway I helped them get the gear together and waved them of.

I was sitting feeding the baby about an hour later and decided to go down for the rest of the afternoon and evening. So set of. Dh had suggested this before leaving.

So after a lovely drive I was looking forward to chilling out for a bit at the campsite. Get there and they are all pitched up with a fire going. Sat in the porch bit with both ds's whilst dh was posting

Doh!!

Dh was sorting out wood outside the tent. I commented on the smoke in relation to the baby. Not moaning just thinking out loud so to speak, as in we'll have to watch where we're sitting.

Next thing dh pipes up 'well fuck of then'.

So I just stood up, got baby and stuff together, told ds1 to have a great night and walked back over the field, back to the car and drove of. No drama, no fights.

I was so hurt.

I think part of your op has gone missing! :)

Oops, see it now.

That's pretty horrible. Has he contacted you since to apologise?

:( Did he not even try and stop you...

oh dear, he said that to you when you have a 14 week old baby? Cut off his testicles and wear them as earrings...

Am I meant to give him a medal for setting some bits of wood alight?

Not heard from him, you don't get reception there.

No he didn't try to stop me really, he did ask where I was going so I said I was fucking off as per his request.

I'm gutted at myself though, it would have been nice to sit in the run and have dinner in the pub. I feel a bit like I've cut my nose of to spite my face but why should I be spoken to like that?

He told you to fuck off?What a total pig and a very nasty man.Euphemia WTF are you on about?

That was a shitty thing for him to say, I don't blame you for going, but wasn't that taking it out on your DS1 a bit?

It must have left him a bit confused and perhaps thinking he'd done something to make you go (if he hadn't heard your DH say what he did?)

'Euphemia WTF are you on about?'

She was probably wondering about the backstory because it seems an odd thing to say out of the blue.

I was sitting chatting with ds1 when I heard him say it. I don't think ds heard but he knew I was just popping down and not staying. I did give him a hug and said have a good time so hopefully he wasn't left thinking something was up. If he was his dad can explain.

i'm sorry you were treated so rudely when you were showing willing and taking part. i hope he phones to apologise for being unpleasant.

does he have problems with plans changing? i know a few people who are really thrown when that happens, and would be off-track if you said you weren't going and then went along anyway.

It's a crap thing to say, but seems like you overreacted a bit; it would have been better to quickly sort things out rather than storming off. Your DS will probably be upset that you came and went so quickly.

I don't think I would of left tbh. Horrid thing fur him to say but was thre stuff going on for him that you aren't aware of? Work stuff. I only say this because with a new baby it's very easy to become so focused (rightly so) on baby, we forget there is more going on.

Also I wouldn't have left my elder dc esp as only 6 . Poor boy

Yes Euph. I'd have wanted to know exactly why he'd said that? And expect an apology.

So - I'm going to come at this from a different angle.

Why did you not plan to go on the camping trip from the start?

Seems an extreme reaction - but clearly he took your comment as a criticism. Does your dh usually have a quick temper? What else was going on that could have contributed to his outburst?

I feel sorry for your ds. Instead of having a lovely time camping with his dad, things have been ruined by squabbling parents.

To be fair I think being told to fuck off out of the blue might provoke any number of reactions in someone, and the OP has already said that she regrets leaving. Sometimes you just act in the moment, especially when feeling upset.

I wouldn't have wanted to stay if what he said was a predictor of the kind of mood he'd be in all night.

I loathe atmospheres, and more than that I loathed being a child having to live with atmospheres you could cut with a knife.

Not good for children to have to endure.