to lock DH out tonight and consider asking him to move out permanently

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This afternoon me and the dds and my brother who is visiting because he is on holiday from university were in the garden just playing football. DH came home early from work and he was clearly already in a bad mood and joined in. My brother then started teasing him whilst they were playing football against each other and he started doing these twists and turns with the ball whilst goading him. He then gave the ball to dd, the next time he got the ball DH charged towards him and leapt off the ground before tackling him. DH's feet went into my brothers leg just above the ankle and my brother's ankle bent in a horrible looking way.

My brother's was in agony on the floor and DH got up and shouted there you go you little twat before storming off into the car and away. I had to call an ambulance as my brother was in so much pain, the dds were also very distressed (they adore my brother). He got taken to hospital and he has suffered partial tear to his ankle ligaments. It's going to take 2-3 months for him to recover. I'm so furious with him for what he has done and the way that he charged over to him with such malice and viscousness, it was obviously not an accident. He went without his house keys I feel like locking the door so he can't come in tonight and I'm really questioning our relationship after this. He has deliberately hurt my brother who I love and so do the dds and they were both hysterical after it. Also we can't afford to go on holiday this year I thought having him stay for 10 days would at least give them something to look forward to this summer and he's done this.

Sorry cant understand how it was your brothers fault?

He's 19 presumably dh is older? Mature? A father moreover with his children watching?

I have lads who tease and goad as do all their mates, no one behaves in this thuggish way,,, disgusting.

So awful for you op.. Still wonder how you will tell your parents and brothers girlfriend.

I wouldn't forgive anyone who did this to my sons, expect your mom would feel the same...

Have you heard from your dh??

Both your brother and husband sound like dicks, your brother thinks its a good idea to goad someone already in a bad mood and your husband responds by trying to break his leg/ankle. The person I feel sorry for is the OP and her dds.

i think taking side like this is childish, your brother is also at fault here aswell My brother then started teasing him whilst they were playing football against each other and he started doing these twists and turns with the ball whilst goading him**

From what the OP hs said, her brother is quite young. Her husband was entirely at fault.

Still no excuses though. Theres relatives i don't particularly like, who come and stay with us. Fortunately I'm grown up enough not to cause them harm, even if i do find them despairingly annoying.

Why are people referring to the brother as being a kid, he's 19 FFS.

Hmmm...I'm not buying the innocent, playful little brother routine tbh. he sounds like a wind up merchant.

OP - did your dc see all this going on? What a nightmare!
I sympathise with you greatly - in your shoes I'd be sickened and disgusted with my dh.

To be honest with you, I'd probably never invite someone my dh didn't like, to stay for 10 days...and I'd be pissed off if he did it to me....but then, I'd never invite anyone to stay for 10 days, beloved or not. 3 days is the maximum I can bear of any guest.

I think this is a case of build up and temper lost. I reckon your dh dislikes your brother...I think your brother knows it, and relishes winding him up as only a 19 yr old lad can, and I think your dh has made a complete and utter arse of himself over it. Oh fucking dear.

I don't think the police are required - I agree with worra on that score. They scant be interested in this carry on.

I think your dh is going to be feeling pretty fucking horrible and stupid right now, because what he did was horrible and stupid. I am not surprised you are re-evaluating your marriage right now. Are you happy with him generally?

I think your brother might think twice about taking the piss out of his sister's husband again too.

On the whole I think this will blow over, but leave a very sour taste in everyone's mouth.
You might want to think about your dh's temper. That's pretty dreadful.

I must live in a parallel universe to some of these posters. Everytime I've seen 2 men/boys having a casual kick about they do the twisty turny, 'come on then', type of stuff. It's NORMAL, I wouldn't even consider it goading to be honest. Funnily enough, all the times I've seen it, I've never noticed anyone going apeshit and stamping on someone's ankle so hard that they were hospitalised. Frankly, if a premiership footballer 'tackled' someone that violently there'd be condemnation and serious repercussions.

I'm genuinely staggered that people think the brother's mucking about with a football like that deserved being attacked.

There is so many people on this site who get a lot more 'goading' off their mils and who have to stay with them or have them in their homes.

How would we react if one of them said 'mil was goading me so I jumped on her ankle'?

DH at fault completely

has your dh text/called you back yet?

Ryten - I haven't said he's a child, But he is young. 19 year old boys tend to enjoy winding up their mates and family, They don't deserve to be put in hospital for it.

The husband was totally wrong.

Although if I had a brother behaving like that I´d tell them to stop being such a twat.

He´s 19ffs-why would he goad another adult?

nobody knows the age of her husband either. I was 25 and was married with 2 children.

by the age of 19 i was a mother, his age is no defence about goading a winding up someone.

i agree your husband should not has lost his temper and hurt someone, but you both need to sit down and talk like adults locking him out of the house will not solve anything.

LingDiLong totally agree

No he hasn't texted back, I didn't realise before but he has left his phone here.

I must live in a parallel universe to some of these posters. Everytime I've seen 2 men/boys having a casual kick about they do the twisty turny, 'come on then', type of stuff. It's NORMAL, I wouldn't even consider it goading to be honest. Funnily enough, all the times I've seen it, I've never noticed anyone going apeshit and stamping on someone's ankle so hard that they were hospitalised.

^^This!

I agree the dh is totally at fault.

He's a 19 year old adult, not a boy, ffs.

where is he likely to have gone to OP?

Heath - So he deserves a kicking for doing something near enough every other 19 year old does during a football game/kick about.. FFS my OH does that and he's 25!

He's probably gone to one of his friends houses

no dont lock dh out his own home.its too provocative
ignore advice to change locks its illegal and provocative.this needs to be resolved calmly and however you and/or brother feel is appropriate
regardless of how nasty and unprovoked the kick was you need to stay on the right side of legal