To think there's nothing wrong with having a toyboy?

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Name changed for this, just in case.

I'm 33, 2 DDs (7 and 3), single, and recently had a 19 year old in my bed.

Already heard I'm being talked about unfavourabley by friends, peers etc who have found out (although I haven't broadcasted it to the world!)

AIBU?

Tellybug the word used was most.

The op is shagging a 19 year old who pops around had a bit of tea then waits for the kids to go to be to have a shag.
Hardly a great love affair.

Definitely no jealousy here either, DP has also added "that's wrong, she's too old for him". Pretty sure he isn't jealous either.

dryness & lack of lubrication won't be an issue for any woman who isn't menopausal

That isn't actually true. I am not menopausal, but since having children I am drier & on occasion need some help with things. It happens! But that is no reason to be rude about it, although I expect the lads doing so really aren't very polite specimens anyway!

queen I haven't called the op anything, thank you!

For goodness sakes Tellybug, don't be so sensitive. I never said ALL 19yr old guys talk like that, I was referencing ONE group of guys in my school of at least 10,000 I constantly run into in the library.

And as someone who is around that age, I can only go off my own experiences, which is 19yr olds are not good in bed. I certainly won't be rushing out to get with one again, just MY experience..As I repeatedly stated in that post.

I also said she was free to do what she wants, congrats, just warning her how I hear these guys talk.

IME re: men discussing women they have sex with; some men of all ages are pretty offensive & disrespectful about women.
But they are less likely, even at age 19, to discuss their sex life with a woman who they either: like very much; respect; or even are in love with.

I did have a 19yr old boyfriend at age 22; & remember his mates teasing us because i was an 'older woman'.
Considering he was over 6ft tall & i still got ID'd until i was 32 then that is quite funny.

I've known girls in the 18 - 20 age group who married men aged 30 or older & it worked. The men were quite immature, so not suitable for a woman the same age, & the girls were mature for their age.
Also knew a man age 23 who married a divorcee aged 31 (with 3 kids) - i saw them together recently, 12 years later. The age gap never looked obvious & still doesn't. He actually was more mature than she was.
A male friend age 36 is married to a woman of 46 (both have children) - they've been together for 6 years. They are both very similar in personality; although i would say that again, he is more mature than her.

All these couples were deeply in love so they respected each other & never gossiped about their sex loves, or tbh really thought much of the age gap.

But boasting about 'a 19 yr old' who is in your bed; well at 19 i'd have been a bit upset to hear a man talk about me in that way - like i was only worth boasting about because of my age.

It doesnt say anything about your sexual prowess or attractiveness. Im sure a single 19 year old is going to be just as desperate and willing as any other age.

I dont have an issue with the age gap, but I think its a bit weird youre bragging about it.

"Calling them slappers achieves nothing. The OP isn't going to sit and think "OMGEEEE She thinks I'm a slapper I must change my ways imediately" is she? No, she, and others who support her actions, are just going to think "HA jealous old boot is calling me a slapper because she's not getting any"

But i'm getting LOADS thanks all the same! From a loving and caring DP who knows how to make me feel good without me having to show him, err, because hes a MAN!

most 19 year olds would fuck anything with a pulse given half the chance.

Pahahaha I know a lad who fucked his hoover at that age!

Differentnameforthis - Then my first comment clearly wasn't aimed at you RE what the OP and others like will think!

TheQueen

Is..Is..His thing okay?!

Was it a Henry?

Husband is 12.5 years yonger than me, we have 3 lovely children and are together 8 years, happily married and tra lala! :-)

Carry on.

Aw shit. I just saw the rest of this. Yeah, my husband and i were all in lurcpve and stuff though...I wasnt doing disrespectful stuff (well not that much!) and then trolling about it!

Lurve that was, goddang ipad.

Pfff, my DH is 12 years younger than me, we have been living together for 11 years. When we met he was 23 and I was 35 :))
He's such an old fart now, worse than me!

The couple who drive me to TAFE, she's eleven years older than him. I vaguely remember her before they were together. AKA coming to our house drunk and falling asleep in our laundry.

Since they married she's calmed down so much, personally can't 'see' the age difference (even if I could, so what?) and he is the old soul. Their marriage is actually one of the ones I hold up as 'I want that for me.' The way they love each other is so tender.

Granted, I doubt she came on here bragging about how she is/was banging a twenty something.

I’m looking for an older/mature woman myself but have no luck in my area 🙄

This is gross.

I'd be a hypocrite if i was against age gaps as my BF is 9 years older than me but he is closer to your daughters age than yours.

He is a sibling of your child's school friend.

It sounds like you purposefully got a young kid so you could dominate him- that sounds so perverted.

YOU DO NOT INTRODUCE A FUCK BUDDY TO YOUR CHILDREN.

what the fuck is wrong with you!

Zombie 🧟‍♀️

This is an ancient thread 🧟‍♀️

do u read him a story ?....joke lol...my husband was 22 when i met him.....i was 30...married nearly 30 years now

Nothing wrong with this imo. Just as long as you realise that he is unlikely to commit to LTR.

FFS just realised this thread was started nearly 7 years ago!

Will end in tears, not sure who’s.