To think there's nothing wrong with having a toyboy?

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Name changed for this, just in case.

I'm 33, 2 DDs (7 and 3), single, and recently had a 19 year old in my bed.

Already heard I'm being talked about unfavourabley by friends, peers etc who have found out (although I haven't broadcasted it to the world!)

AIBU?

Why can't you understand that? if he is just a fuck buddy then make him wait until the kids go to bed then fill yer boots.

Im not sure what you are trying to achieve with this thread though, shock factor?

I dont understand your 'drip feed' to get reaction TBH - I'm not sure what responses you want; you've had all the slaps on the back and the encouragement you need.

I'm 33, 2 DDs (7 and 3), single, and recently had a 19 year old in my bed.

It's just sex really

he is the son of a the mother of a child in my daughters class

"I don't understand it"

What don't you understand about it? It isn't good for children to have people come and go in their lives.

Most parents wouldn't introduce their children to someone until they were in an established relationship.

Having said that i had lots of sex, none of them were around my children.

My current DP wasn't introduced to them until we had been dating for months, but i already knew him and his family for years before.

Sorry, couldnt be bothered to type a lot, not meaning to drip feed for attention seeking, just thought was worth a mention after not putting it in the op

OP You lucky bugger. If only I was a bit younger.......

Pickles77 Me as well love.

Oh god, well, I think it's inappropriate. My son's 20 now and is still really young. The idea of some woman with kids shagging him like that is really horrible. And yes I think the same is true if the roles were reversed.

OP, so he's the brother of a child in your daughter's class. Ugh.

if you are both having a good time and having fun what is the problem

if it moves on and all are happy again what is the problem

ignore those who are uptight and judgemental and go and have fun

though myself i wait until ds is away but i have that option (and i prefer to get taken out too but that is what i want now)

I really don't see what a big deal it is having him around the kids.

As far as they're concerned he's just a "friend" of mine - just like any other friend/colleague or whatever. It's hardly like I tell them he rags me senseless, when they're not there (not that they'd know what that means )

So what you are actually asking is: Is it ok to shag my primary daughters mates brother. I bet your convo's at the school gates are brilliant to over hear!

fantastic hook OP, you got everyone suckered in on it {grin]

This isn't going to end well is it?

Does he have some sort of special needs or is he a normal adult? If he is YANBU - enjoy the shagging. Also feel free to have him spending time with your children - no reason not to.

You should make him provide the "bit of food" sometimes - seems only fair.

Na my sons are older than 19 so doesn't do it for me.. Like older rich men like dh.... Ha ha

Each to own tho and u preen yourself.

The school thing would bother me. Does his mum know?

A few months ago I was having a bit of a text flirt with a 22 year old. We discussed meeting up for sex but various reasons it never happened. I then found out his brother was in my DS2s class (they are half brothers, different surnames which is why I didn't catch on earlier).

I couldnt have brought myself to meet him after that, just felt a bit ewwww.

I'd like my children to learn how to form real, loving relationships with a partner they loved and respected. Not just shag themselves senseless with whatever is offered to them.
That may be uptight, but I don't care.

yeah right Fred - otherwise his mother would be worrying he isn't eating properly, but then she could send him with a packed lunch.

OP, you are painting a very poor picture of yourself to be honest

OP Has he got any mates?

I am in West London....

I had a fling with a 22 year old (I'm 33). He NEVER spent time with my DD. Why would I have wanted him to. Not like he was a partner or it was going anywhere. It would have felt so inappropriate having him around my child but then I would feel like that about any man I was just shagging regardless of their age. Would only bring someone into my DDs life that I was serious about.

And I'm near Brighton

Yes he's the half bro of a kid in my DSs class

No his mum doesn't know - although no doubt she will find out eventually, probably soon

I like being able to dominate him in the bedroom to an extent and teach him stuff, just having fun

He has a sibling in your child's primary school class??

That has got to be the best bit of drip feeding I have EVER read!

Perhaps you could work with your local Youth Employment services, there's obviously a market for it.
NEETS could have an alternative choice to jobseekers.

I was just a little bit sick in my mouth. Seedy.

Does meeting the dc's not show that he's making some level of commitment though? that he's not being flippant about this? Surely If he just wanted sex he
Could come around when they are already sleeping?

this is going to get deleted soon but i don't care, ive just tripped over the OP's trap! Soon you'll be telling us you like to give him "bitty" FFS