to not ask my DD to quieten down

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This has happened on a few occasions now.
My DD can be quite noisy when we are at soft play/activity centre, she is very vocal in her playing, squeals and screeches when she's excited etc
However my friend who I usually attend the places with (with her DS) always makes comments on how loud she is, sometimes she says it in a jokey way 'oh your so loud haha' and other times she makes comments on how she's got a headache
AIBU to not tell my DD, we are at play centres surely this is the place where she should be allowed to let off some steam and have fun without a bossy adult commenting about it
Her DS is just under a year younger and isn't talking much so not much noise from him

Cassette I think rehashing old posts is going a bit OTT, but fine, I'll play along. She basically stated that her child shouldn't have to leave because other children can just stop shrieking. But it's just not that simple... because 1-there are lots of children at soft play, and occasionally they shriek - that adds up to a fair bit of shrieking - it's pretty much expected IMO. and 2-some children with SNs cannot simply "stop shrieking" as they just occasionally do shriek here and there. So it's a bit silly to say that all the other children can just stop shrieking. Because anyone with common sense knows it just isn't going to happen.

It's not like I expect anyone to do anything we wouldn't do as well. If DS2 has trouble coping with noise somewhere, we leave (and we have done so on occasion). Why would we demand or expect everyone else be quiet just for him? It's a place that is generally expected to be fairly noisy. If you can't deal with noise, that's just not the place to be.

Just looked at your posts (in a non stalkery way of course) just to check and we're not near enough for a softplay meetup but I'll think of you the next time I go. Actually I don't think there were any cakes at all the last time I went, the only choices were Freddos or mini buttons

marquesas at "in a non stalkery way"

Well this is a couple of hours out of life than no-one will ever get back

Loving the angst, sarcasm and indignation Lol.....

I'm with you worra yet i keep returning

LOL Worra Who needs telly, eh?

"You obviously have an irritating child, OP, but you love her so just don't notice it." @ Melindaaaaaaaaaaaa

SCRRRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEECCCCCCCCHHHHHHHH!!!!

That feels better

No who's opening the ??

See im not that lucky quint it is clear as day to me how annoying my DD is

I got beer in the freezer?

Yes, we've amused ourselves all afternoon and the OP hasn't even had the decency to return and get the benefit of our wisdom

Now remind me which camp you're in...screechy or non screechy?

I agree with your either way if you have cold beer

I have just been out into the garden to tell dd2 to stop screeching as it was getting excessive and I don't want the neighbours complaining

As soon as I had told her I thought I just had to post that here

op is at the soft play

Cassette As I very much doubt that most people can unerringly pick out which children in a crowded play place have SNs, I imagine it's impossible to know which of the occasional screamers are children with SNs and which are not.

I again am finding it very interesting (and amusing) that people assume that because I don't mind noise in the soft play that I blithely let my children run screaming endlessly through it.

And yes she is till in the garden playing but that's another thread

Here you go besty

I'm in the dont give a crap anymore, lets get drunk camp. You in?

I'd love a drink but can't. I was going to a soft play place next week but dont think I'll bother now.

Worre as ever lol,, wine allready partaken.

How about this, if child is having a blast and this involves a bit of screeching and screaming at soft play or park that's fine.?

If child is screeching and screaming in temper or brattishness that's a pita and needs stopping.

If screeching and screaming occurs in the garden, house or elsewhere it's again a pita and needs stopping!!??

Headfirst LOL at the screeching from the garden. My Dad made a comment once at my house when he heard a bunch of screeching and screaming from the back garden. He was all agitated and said "My God, listen to that noise! What are the neighbours going to say??"

I was calm. I replied "They're probably going to be thankful most of their kids are in MY back garden screaming, as they don't have to deal with them."

I have so I'm all set. Thank goodness DH popped out to get some earlier. (and chocolate too, I think! Lovely man!)

puds, me too....

Yes, bring out the karaoke! I shall floor you with my rendition of bat out of hell.