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piercing a young childs ears........

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charllie · 26/07/2012 18:43

I really don't understand why a parent would want to take their young child out and get their ears pierced!! Having a stranger, or even someone you know, either using a piercing gun to pierce their ears, or using a needle (not sure which one is used for young children) I personally think it should be illegal for a parent to make this decision. Or maybe not that strong, but at least an age limit. Why can't the child make that decision for themselves when they are older. Why take a baby, or even a toddler out to get their ears pierced!!?? In my eyes, its a form of child abuse. Its no different to hitting your child, etc. You are causing them pain, quite often making them bleed, all so they 'look nice' well i think it looks horrible! I've not seen one child/baby that i think awww cute. I have piercings myself and i will not be getting my DD's ears pierced until i feel she is old enough to make that decision for herself and only then, will it be after she has been talking about it for a little while.

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cassgate · 26/07/2012 21:53

Claires do duel piecings. Two staff do both ears at the same time but you have to make an appointment to so this as they need to ensure they have two trained staff available. The local jewelers to us also does duel piecings with an appointment. My dd age 8 wants hers done. She has been asking for about a year now. We went into claires a couple of weeks ago and the manager sat down and explained the procedure itself and the aftercare that would be needed. Also said that she couldnt go swimming for a few days after and then would need to ensure that you sterilise ears after swimming for at least 6 weeks. To be honest I thought it would put her off but no she still wants it done. So I have agreed that if she she still wants them done she can have them done when we get back from holiday.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 26/07/2012 21:54

Grin at duel piercing.

Pistols at dawn?

usualsuspect · 26/07/2012 21:55

My DD had her nose pierced at 14

Would you really not allow them until they were 18?

usualsuspect · 26/07/2012 21:56

We all pierced our own ears back in the day, non of this wussy claires malarkey then.

GoldWithADragonTattoo · 26/07/2012 21:56

I had mine done for my 5th birthday and do remember it but more because I was excited about getting it more than anything else. My 4 year old has started saying already she'd like earrings I probably won't get them done yet but I doubt we'll wait until secondary school if she would like it. Saying it's like having a tattoo is ludicrous.

rhondajean · 26/07/2012 21:57

No.

Kayano · 26/07/2012 21:58

So if they do duel piercing how can there be so many 'they were screaming that they didn't want the other one done' stories? confused

rhondajean · 26/07/2012 22:01

you have to make an appointment

People are obviously walking in off street and getting it done,

Which makes me wonder why the rush, are they scared the child will go off the idea if they wait??

Kayano · 26/07/2012 22:05

How do you even know that, people could be obviously walking in off the street... For their appointment?

wigglesrock · 26/07/2012 22:05

I didn't have to make an appointment at my local Claires. They do dual piercings and always have two/three qualified staff on. They did stipulate that a parent had to accompany the child ie not a granny/aunt etc.

It took me about 10 mins to do the accompanying paperwork and they asked my daughter about five separate times was she sure she wanted it done.

Krumbum · 26/07/2012 22:06

It DOES hurt.
Why would leaving her with one ear pierced be mental?!
Just because you don't regret it doesn't mean that it should be done, that is completely irrelavant.

Kayano · 26/07/2012 22:07

And also how do you know people rush? They might have had their children asking for years, explained what will happen and they still want it... So they go?

You seem to be projecting onto everyone you see in these places

rhondajean · 26/07/2012 22:11

As do you.

The poster up there said that you had to make an appointment in Claire's to get a dual piercing. Do read.

I was using tht as the basis for a what if, as I have no personal experience, having chosen not to unecessarily torture and disfigure my children.

Kayano · 26/07/2012 22:13

But how is it torture to take a consenting child (say 8 or 9)?

You aren't doing it against their will

Hardly torture. Unless you have a different definition of torture?

FreudianSlipper · 26/07/2012 22:13

torture and disfigure

lord can you get anymore dramatic

scarlettsmummy2 · 26/07/2012 22:15

I think anything under ten just looks tacky.

Krumbum · 26/07/2012 22:16

Somebody answer about other piercings. If your 8 year old was hassling (because that is the explaination posters are giving) you for years about having their lip or eyebrow or belly button pierced would you do that? What is the actual difference?

FrankWippery · 26/07/2012 22:18

FreudianSlipper i had my ears pierced when i was 4 i can remember it was in wandsworth shopping centre (oh how it's changed) and i sat on a stool.....

Ha! And I know exactly where you would have been sitting as had my second holes done there too. Oh yes it's changed alright. It's still the Arndale to me. Damn shame Water Scene went from King George's Park though. Oh the summers I spent there

rhondajean · 26/07/2012 22:21

So the child I saw on Saturday who didn't consent to the second piercing - where does that fit in then?

FreudianSlipper · 26/07/2012 22:25

my niece had her nose done at 8, looks lovely she lives in la they are more laid back and not so worried about conforming, also we are partly asian so its not unusual

can not see whyi would say no i try not to worry about conforming too much or others judgement though at school here it probably would be a problem

belly button, lip or brow no that can do that if they choose when they get older

Stardust01 · 26/07/2012 22:27

Depends how young, I suppose.

When I was about three-and-a-half to four, I apparently told my parents I wanted them to take me to Selfridge's to have my ears pierced (other girls at nursery had had them done).

My parents figured that since I'd have them done eventually, it might as well be then. They did tell me it would hurt, and I actually remember it stinging for about two seconds before they slapped some blue lotion on to stop the stinging. It really wasn't a big deal.

FreudianSlipper · 26/07/2012 22:31

yes thats the place :) it was in the indoor market that sold lots of sari material

oh yes Water Scene was great the best chip butties ever, we were often one of the last families to leave great days loved it slides were great

Southside Hmm its called The Arndale !!!

Willowisp · 26/07/2012 22:32

I understood that as well as Claire's offering duel piercings, they can offer a local anaesthetic cream to numb child's ears ? Perhaps that's a booking option too ?

For the record, 2 Dd's, no piercings or interest yet. Mine were pierced at age 9 because I was desperate. I can still remember the heat/pinch of the gun.

Ref the blog linked earlier, they've pierced the baby's ears differently...

FutTheShuckUp · 26/07/2012 22:44

Wtf an 8 year old with a nose piercing? Shock

Krumbum · 26/07/2012 22:45

Ok why does belly, lip have to wait? What's the difference?