To not know what to do when ill & pregnant

[worriedwretch]

I feel terrible
Am write this with eyes nearly closed hurts so much my head feels horrific
I have flu like ache and the bottom of my back is so tender as aches
Ive had a fever and nausea stomach pains feel totally wiped out

Dp taking care of kids but wants to phone MW

I taken sone paracetamol

I'm 36 + 3

Just seen last page - sort this now. you will end up being even worse. Doctors immediately. Please.

If you're not sure what to do, you could phone NHS direct (0845 4647). They would advise you what to do and where to get seen by a doctor. I've always fond them really helpful. But really, I think you'd be better off seeing somebody sooner or later.

And have a serious chat with your partner his evening - he is being very irresponsible.

'sooner rather than later', not 'sooner or later' ...

I'm stuck in bed with flu, otherwise I'd offer to give you a lift!

Get a taxi if your DP won't leave work. Your DC can stay with your mum until he picks them up, right? Just get yourself and baby some medical attention urgently.

Your DP is a prick of the highest order, my ex was the same, he wouldn't take a day off work for anything he should be there looking after the kids and/or getting you I a hospital.
I hope you're getting yourself sorted, kidney infections can turn nasty very quickly and I speak from someone who "soldiered on" with an infection and ended up in hospital with blood infection within a few days, luckily I wasn't pregnant.

I'm hoping the lack of posting means op is getting medical attention

Me too storm really worried about her :(

Honestly, why are you even posting the question? Tell 'D'P that there is no way you can look after the children, and he needs to stay home and/or be the one to organise some alternative care because you feel like you are about to pass out!

dp home, guess what, he said he would take tomorrow off earlier when I asked him - now he says hes going in at lunch, i ask, what time exactly, he says "about 10"

urgh

I feel slightly better, not so achey, my friend is here and is cooking me dinner and has fed children. "d"P home and is pottering about, i gives up :(

So have you seen a medic of any sort? I'm so sorry your DP is such a prick. Why on earth isn't he cooking dinner?

Have u managed to go to
Bathroom yet?

You really need to see somebody! If it is a kidney infection (if! it might not be) you need to get treatment as soon as possible.

Oh FFS, have you seen a doctor yet?

Sorry to be harsh, but if you're as ill as you say then you must see someone. It's not just your health, but your unborn child's health that matters.

Stand up to DP, go to the maternity ward and demand attention. Please.

This is going to sound harsh, but forget your DP and his 'I'll take you tomorrow' and get yourself to a doctors, whether is by taxi or whatever. You are an adult and you don't seem to be acting like one. Yours and your babies health is at risk.

If heaven knows how many people on this thread are worried enough to say to see some one medical then I'm at a loss as to why you aren't bothered enough yourself.

I honestly thought you had gone.

If it's as bad as you said up thread then I'm sorry but you are being unreasonable and irresponsible

Why won't you go and see a dr or mw? You are putting your baby at risk and would never forgive yourself if something happened.

you are begining to sound like a martyr, if you are as ill as you say you need medical attention

Oh for heavens sake grow a backbone and either go and see a Dr or stopping moaning about how hard done by you are.

Sorry but if you are so able to sit on here moaning about him, you can get yourself off to the hospital. Leave the kids there with him, and go get yourself checked out.

Im sorry but I'm a bit appalled at your treatment here from all angles.

Your partner needs to take some responsibility here, FFS what would happen if you went into labour? Following on from that, please read below.

The GP should have palmed you off like that, most GPs I know are over cautious with pregnant women and refer them into us stat!

Labour ward - busy maybe but not returning a call is unacceptable. You now need to call them back. Labour ward isn't just for labouring women.

Your SIL thinks it maybe a kidney infection? Well seeing as she's a midwife I'm suprised she hasn't pushed for you to seek medical treatment! She should know a kidney infection is not good in pregnancy, not only is it painful but can bring on labour too. Also I'm concerned you haven't been able to pee and could end up with urine retention. If you don't get this sorted then you'll end up with a raging infection and a catheter.

So all in all I'm saying you need to call labour ward now. Kick your partners ass another day but for now sort you out, he can sort the kids out. Not your problem.

Community MW has finally responded to my answer phone messages and is coming to see me some time between 8-9

Hopefully she will turn up soon or shall go to labour ward

Sorry ive pissed so many of you off. Genuinely feel very vulnerable and poorly :(

Is that 8 or nine tonight or tomorrow mowning? :(

You havent pissed anyone off.. people are a bit concerned about you, and wondering why you are not doing more to help yourself.

You are not pissing anyone off, but when someone posts how terribly ill they are feeling and how they are not coping etc, are then given 30 odd posts about all the ways they could get help and that is ignored then it is rather frustrating.

Between 8/9 tonight i assumed! But she's not here yet!!

I've drunk loads of water - and have had a weeeee :)

Still ache like mad this is crapilla

So basically when your ill and PG you end up gettin sign posted to different HCP all day