.to wonder if the vast majority of parents on this web site are perfect?

[amck5700]

Not been here too long, but it seems that almost everyone here is a perfect parent who look down on the mere mortals who come on here for help and support - maybe i have just been unlucky in the threads I have picked to look at or comment on, but surely not everyone here has an ass so tight it squeaks when they walk??!!

If someone judged the entire site by Expat's thread, or by the MNer who needed milk for someone else's baby, or Cupoftea's Bea threads, it would be a beautiful, warm, compassionate place.

If they judged it by the more heated AIBU threads it would be scary.

If they judged it by the Sharon threads it would be.... Um, well....

You can't judge any site by one thread. It's like the blind men feeling the elephant.

Actually, mumsnet makes me realise I'm more perfect than I think I am.
I must have seen different threads to you OP.
I've seen lots of - AIBU, can I leave my 2 year old while I go out to the shops threads.

SDT - maybe I am hanging out with the wrong crowd completely.

Yup - the only one who enjoys that is the elephant.

I would say the MN is the opposite of Stepford and tbh, i think there are some quite miserable fuckers on here, who are joyless and wouldn't know how to enjoy themselves, even if you gave them the money to have a good piss up and got them a babysitter.

A good few have very polite relationships with their other halves, but don't seem to get that it's nice to do something special for each other once in a while.

Rant over.

How can you judge the vast majority of parents (your words) unless you have read the postings of a vast majority of posters - something I doubt you have done?

eh, this is Scotland, sainsburys open til 10pm - and if i travel a wee bit further away, I can shop in 24hr Tesco :)

RubyFakeNails has explained it well imo.

Problems or situations are much easier to answer when written down in a short post by someone you don't know. On paper there may be one correct solution, a sensible one which is hard to argue with.

However, thankfully most posters on here are able to see beyond this and realise that nobody's life is straightforward and that a black and white reply isn't always the answer.

It's the knee-jerk YABU/go-by-the-book reactions that make it hard to post, but if you are prepared to deal with these and notice the good ones, then MN can be a positive place.

They joy of mumsnet is people say it like it is. People post here and appreciate the honesty. Yes they say things they may not in real lie, but many do act this way in real life. I do. It not rude, it's just their opinion and since the population are not(thankfully) all the same, not everyone agrees.

I have read many threads full of inspiration and humour. There is the odd bitchy one but that happens all over.

Maybe come out of your shelter and experience MN a bit more....or lurk longer and read.

SDTG

The Netmummers have nicked Hully's goat. Do you think she'd like an elephant instead?

You have to shop in Waitrose to be truly perfect.

Not at all perfect, as above if I said why I'd be hounded for 10 pages!! Got 2 great kids who seem to be doing ok with it, must remember to feed them!! No such thing as a perfect parent. Just do your best, sometimes!!

That wasn't tired.

That was bored of the same shit all the fucking time.

At least find something new to bitch about, eh?

I am the perfect mother best human and all round good egg.
S'true.

I gave DS last night's cold leftover pizza for lunch today because he loves cold pizza even more than he loves The Gruffallo or poking his finger in the Playstation. I caught the friend who was over for a cuppa making this face .

I do not think she thinks I am perfect.

I hope this helps you Op.

It is easy to be perfect on the Internet-no one sees you in RL!
I pity the DC with the 'perfect' mother anyway-she must be hell to live with and it is much better all round to relax and have with fun with the 'good enough' mother.

Squeeky and tight as a fish's arsehole

I think it's a load of bollocks about this 'MN says it like it is'. Some people are just arse holes on here and seem to revel in being fucking rude. Lots of nice people too but am getting increasingly bored of people being cunts for the sake of it on threads where people are looking for a bit of support or proper advice or shock horror just expressing their not particularly contenbtious point of view.

Actually my 2 yr old called a family who were strangers fuckers once. I went from shocked and embarrassed to thinking it funny, obviously I'm not perfect. I've always wondered if he meant to say 'suckers' (not that that's much better).

Tee - if it's that boring then go and do something else of create a much more interesting thread.

WhyAndBother I wouldn't change my name - isn't that just hiding? That's probably why some people feel that it's okay to be mean, then they can change their name and it doesn't matter any more.

Actually, I apologise for saying "almost everyone" that's clearly a exaggeration, there are however quite a lot of people with a "holier than thou" vibe about them, I shall do my best to avoid them.

I was just trying to make a small point that blowing someone else's candle out doesn't make your shine any brighter.

I am glad to see that there are more people willing to own up to being imperfect........although clearly when we finally get our Waitrose I will no longer be part of that group

And to those of you who play nice (or nice enough)

Expressing an opinion about an aspect of parenting doesn't equate to you asserting yourself as the Queen of Parenting. But it would be odd to say "I think piercing your toddler's nose is wrong but by the way, on a totally unrelated note I feed my toddler nothing but Haribo." No?

I am. I have both a medal and a T-shirt to prove it. And I only made one of them myself.