Didn't come home

[CinnamonSal]

My partner went to the pub yesterday afternoon and as yet is still not home. His phone has been off since around 11pm. Am I being unreasonable to think this is a complete disregard for me and be absolutely livid?

Ditto to you frontline. I'm not really getting your point to be honest. Sal should expect to be disagreed with but not you?

Odd.

I was asking if I was BU about being mad about situation. At no time did I ask what he was doing. You have now told me twice that he is with another woman. You have no basis to tell me this. I've told you I'm pregnant and suffering badly with depression why you would want to twice make me feel like shit is beyond me. Well done now maybe you can go and laugh at some disabled people for an encore.

Oh my dear god frontline. That's so sad!

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Perhaps don't post if so tender to what seems so obvious.

It's only obvious to you. To everyone else it's a possibility out of a number of possibilities.

Tailing him are we dear?

It's a very valid possibility but not the only one. As I said this wasn't particularly the information I was asking for in this thread. Bitter much??

Frontline

There are many things in this life which are possible.

It may for example be possible that you aren't shit stirring. Let us all ponder that for a moment.

Sorry you're having a rough time OP.

OP, there are some posters who have only one answer to any sin committed by a parter and that is that they're cheating. I was told the same when I was upset that my partner was working til 10PM each night. "He's obviously cheating," I was told time and time again, even though, you know, he just wasn't.

Some men (and women) are just inconsiderate and immature and don't think beyond having fun at the pub sometimes.

I hope you get it sorted.

Sal
Hide the thread and keep well
Atb

Thanks for wishes

OP he will do it again. You need to get yourself some support to improve your self esteem and ensure you don't accept this sort of behaviour (which it seems you do currently ). You and your baby deserve better. Do you have RL friends you can talk to about this and get some support? If you are suffering from depression could you discuss how you are feeling with your GP?

Bisjo with all due respect he's only done it once and you have no way of knowing to say with such certainty he will do it again.

Yeh I have real life friends :)
I am going to the Docs on Friday enough is enough. I'm actually not a doormat contrary to some people on here's belief. I don't put up with all manner of crap. I just feel it isn't worth splitting up over when I have a baby on the way with him. He hasn't done this loads and loads. Only once all night. Maybe 4 or 5 times later than he says.

My partner has stayed out a couple of times without telling me, not for ages since I had a good go at him and is consistently a bit late home from the pub.

It's not ruining my life or anything and I'm not a doormat or suffering from low self esteem.

Let's not all get carried away here!!

Obviously there is a lot more to this story than the OP wants to tell a load of internet strangers. Top of my odd facts list is her dp lives with her but doesn't have his own set of keys to the house. I'm rather that someone can trust another to have a baby together but not allow them to have a set of keys to her house.

We only moved in on Friday and got ONE set of keys. Another set has now been cut. I have said this several times now.

Your obviously a bit too I think.

Seeing things that aren't there perhaps.

And bisjo what are the other 'odd facts'??

Sorry OP, I missed that. I thought it was your house in your name and your dp lived with you (at least that is what you posted but also posted you didn't want to explain why, which is fair enough).

Good luck with your pregnancy and fingers crossed your dp does improve his behaviour. Life is always easier with a supportive and helpful dp. However single parenthood is always preferable to life with a dp who isn't imho.

Oh good grief.

Sal - just tell them you're oh so unhappy and perhaps they'll go away.

Some of you are like vultures. I can only presume you're not getting laid enough.

Yip I own it. There is nothing particularly suspicious about it really. Just was irrelevant to thread and didn't/don't want to elaborate. I hope he is a good partner and even better father. He has the ability and often is the first. Only time will tell.

Ime the ones who are kind and thoughtful partners become kind and thoughtful partners. The ones that like to go out with their mates and get too drunk to make it home are the ones that rarely develop into good fathers (I suppose it can happen I just personally don't know of any relationship where that has happened). Those relationships only work if the woman is prepared to compromise and accept that sort of behaviour and, despite what is written on MN, some do choose this rather than the alternative of single parenthood and all that that entails.

Sorry that should be fathers not partners!

Cinnemon - i am not surprised you are feeling so low at the moment and you are right to go and see someone. being pgnt is a rollercoaster of emotions and those of us who have never been depressed have felt totally wretched. you have undergone 2 huge life changing events - getting pgnt and moving house. how incredibly stressful is that? dont make any rash decisions about life with your partner. he must realise that you were NBU and wont tolerate this again. I am certain that there is no one on MN whose partner hasnt done something completely crap to them. get your strength back and yourself on an even keel and then think about the future. one thing at a time - take care of yourself and congrats on your pregnancy.