To think it is beyond rude & disgusting to leave shit stains in the toilet

[BobbysBeardOfWonder]

I fear I am reacting particularly badly to this as am feverish & knackered, but...

My parents are visiting - my DC are 2 and 10 weeks.
All gone pretty smoothly until this morning, just before we went out. I went to the loo & discovered a delightful array of shit stains all over the pan.

I asked my dad - yes it was him, he tried to get them off... But what?! Couldn't be arsed so left them for me to deal with?! Wtf?!?!

I'm so pissed off its unreal. Before taking DD to bed for her nap just now I asked one of them to clean it. I seriously never thought I'd have to have that conversation with my dad.

Maybe your dad was just covering for someone else?

Weird relationships some have with their Dad if they can´t tell them to clean up the mess they´ve left in the toilet!

It's not reverence, it's respect! Different innit.

Also - it's not wanting to embarrass people.

Making someone feel uncomfortable and embarrassed would be a far worse experience for me than cleaning a bog-stain with, as someone has pointed out, not my bare hands!

Respect???

I´d lose respect for my Dad if he thought it was OK to do that.

And it would be obvious that he had none for me.

Yep. Respect Jodie exactly. I would never tell my Dad to do anything.

Also, it's IN the toilet. Now if it was all over the bathroom floor and the seat then that's a whole different ball game.

I just don't want to see other people's shit. I don't think that's so odd.

diddl respect for your father rests on an adequate perusal of the lavatory bowl after each bowel evacuation?

It's quite probably the poor bloke never even noticed.

People do get het up about a bit of poo

Then respect should be shown by not making another person clean up after in this way when you are at their home.

It's foul, loo brush or not.

Only on AIBU

I'm with celtic but now thinking maybe I need a rethink as there seems to be quite strong views on this

"It's quite probably the poor bloke never even noticed."

Ah, bless-coz he´s a man, eh?

I can understand others are not as freaked out by poo as some. That's fine.

But someone at some point is going to have to clear the poo up.

You wouldn't go to someone's house and leave, I don't know, used hankies all over their kitchen counters, would you? Or something more innocuous, used cups? No. You'd pick them up and put them where they should be. Anything less is considered rude.

Resepct?

What about the dad respecting the fact his daughter has got enough to deal with wothout having to clean up an able-bodied man's shit stains.

I'm with the OP - nasty nasty nasty. You're a guest in someone's house and you leave shit stains anywhere, you clean them up.

That said, I did have to deal with a much nastier situation once. Was at PILs' house and went to the loo to find that one of them had managed to wipe a big lump of poo across the seat somehow and (presumably) not notice. I couldn't leave it in case they thought it was me, so I had to clean it up myself. Still get a chill occasionally thinking of it... WWYD though?

God grief, its a couple of skid marks down the toilet, not a turd on the carpet.

Good not god obviously

Diddl er no. Why would it be because he's a man?

I for one rarely remember to check the impact (potentially calamitous, given that I am a Martyr to my Bowels etc. etc.) of my effluvium upon the porcelein.

(I'm not a man. To clarify.)

Anyway, what a mountain out of a craphill!

"diddl respect for your father rests on an adequate perusal of the lavatory bowl after each bowel evacuation? "

I check that I´ve left other people´s toilets clean-don´t see why I shouldn´t be extended the same courtesy.

Anyway, OPs Dad had noticed, hadn´t he-just couldn´t be bothered to clean it?

Ew Dances crap on the seat is a whole nother category of grim

How DO the mumsnetters who have no bog brush clean the loo? I presume they DO clean it with their hands.

I used to be a cleaner. Every day, at the same time, without fail, the same woman would go into the office toilet and leave a massive shit mark down the toilet for me to clean up.

AND this was in Germany. Rude rude rude.

Once, someone managed to leave a bloody tampon mark on the wall. THE WALL.

YANBU.

People should clean up their own skooters. I wouldn't dream of leaving shit stains on anyone's toilet and NOR should men.

I've often wondered that GerOrf

Marigolds and kitchen roll I imagine.

^ Clearly I have given this too much thought.