To think it is beyond rude & disgusting to leave shit stains in the toilet

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I fear I am reacting particularly badly to this as am feverish & knackered, but...

My parents are visiting - my DC are 2 and 10 weeks.
All gone pretty smoothly until this morning, just before we went out. I went to the loo & discovered a delightful array of shit stains all over the pan.

I asked my dad - yes it was him, he tried to get them off... But what?! Couldn't be arsed so left them for me to deal with?! Wtf?!?!

I'm so pissed off its unreal. Before taking DD to bed for her nap just now I asked one of them to clean it. I seriously never thought I'd have to have that conversation with my dad.

Why Bunny? I don't get it. I clean mine after each use and, oddly enough, don't touch the end with the bristles.

Because I'm willing to bet that statistically it's unlikely that they're ever truly 'clean'.

They look rancid. The stands must get dribbled on. Bleurgh.

And in my experience they're just not necessary. Unless you shite like a water buffalo.

I don't understand people being horrified by "the way the OP spoke to her dad".

The OP asked one of them to clean up. She didn't say "clean your shit up you dirty bastarding motherfucker!" did she? Or did she and I've missed something?

There's a difference between cleaning up a child's nappy, a child you've chosen to bring into this world, and being expected to clean up an able bodied and minded adult's shit stains, that they KNOW are there and couldn't be bothered to clean up!

bunny I hate loo brushes, and I didn't have one until DP now DH moved in. He shits like a water buffalo. I have no idea how he can't manage to get it in the water without smearing it round the bowl.

I don't think it's anything to do with the quality of the shit, I think it's the shape of the toilet. Possibly some people also don't mind if there's a little bit of poo there. I really really mind.

So what if the toilet brush isn't 100% clean? You're not going to touch the unclean end. So it really doesn't matter.

I brush my teeth with mine yellow. Recession, innit?

Just to add, apologies if someone already has said this, but what is the ultimate is when you have tradesmen doing work at your house and they then proceed to skid the toilet. It is a pet hate of mine. My husband thinks it hilarious when I rant about it, why the fuck can't they shit in their own house before they come to work. Seriously, the most recent time the guy hadnt even started actual work before he deposited his shite - literally turned up, got made a cup of tea, deposited a shite, the skids of which I discovered at approx 9am.
Dirty bastard.

Hope your laughing boy hubby cleaned it up then Cream

MissFav - indeed he did, wasn't laughing so much then was he

'surely you don't want someone else seeing your poo?'

Eh? It's JUST POO. Everyone does it. I don't really care of anyone sees it. I don't get stressed if I see anyone else's. It's JUST POO. And its in the toilet, not on the dinner table!

I'm with *yellowraincoat' on the brush. I clean the toilet with it, and only the toilet. I don't chew it afterwards!

Whilst I would be mortified to be faced with someone else's skidders (and I am daily, thanks to not-so-D H and my eldest sons), I would much rather just clean it up myself and chunter privately than cause a fuss & embarrass anyone.

I gave up expecting everyone in the world to respect bathroom etiquette after working in an office which often had used sanitary towels stuck to the loo cubicle walls or left in the sink

Excellent Cream

Is it only me that is amazed that she asked 'one of them'?

I think you did the only reasonable thing. I get fed up with cleaning the bloody toilet after my husband. He claims he doesn't see it blah blah cannot be arsed.

Disgusting to expect other people to clean you stains off from the toilet. Unless you are under the age of 12 years.

Well bloody done.

Ken By you cleaning up your son's skidders you are creating a problem for the people they will live with in the future.

Too busy chundering at KenLeeee's post...

I had a great conversation with my Dad once when he was staying with us. It went something like this:

Dad: (shouting from bathroom) 'Dolly, I'm having a slight problem have you any bleach?'

Me: 'Yes, what's up'.

Dad: My jobby is refusing to leave the premises, I have flushed about 6 times and it's still there. Staring'.

Me: 'Christ dad, I don't really need to know'.

Dad: 'Well you kind of do as it looks like it may be a house guest long after I've gone at this rate'.

Me: (laughing so hard I nearly peed myself). 'OK, leave it a minute and try again'.

It took several more flushes before he came out, took the bleach, returned and sorted the 'residue' (his words). God I miss my dad.

My dad does this. We don't mention it and just clean it off. Yeah it's grim but I'd never see him again if I mentioned it (seriously). I'd rather have my dad in my life and have to clean up after him tbh.

Oh please My relationship with my dad will surely survive this conversation. I asked very politely, fwiw

Well those who think it´s respectful not to ask/tell your Dad to clean up after himself-is it really fear?

And why would he expect you to clean up his shit after him?

It seems to be uniquely British problem - a toiled brush is disgusting, but sticking your hand into the bowl to scrape shit off is totally fine

YANBU, OP, and nothing to do with dad changing her diapers at some point. I'm sure the OP would also change her dads diapers, if this was needed.
At the moment dad seems to be fine and healthy and there is no reason for him to leave his skid marks for someone else to clean - the OP, I assume, is not leaving hers for him to clean either when visiting.

CFWB - they're only 6 and 7 years old, so I don't trust them with the loo brush and bottle of bleach! When they're old enough to clean up, then I agree it will be better all round if they clean up after themselves.

I'm working on DH. I've almost got him clearing up breadcrumbs in the kitchen after he's made toast. Toilets are more advanced, I feel.

It was more than skid marks, it was thick pebbledash.
or depending on your point of view

I didn't have a toilet brush. DP would often leave skid marks and forget about them. I got sick of cleaning up his shit with my hands and toilet paper but he is horrified by toilet brushes and refused to buy one, promising to be more vigilant.

He was not vigilant.

I bought a toilet brush.

It lives out of splash range, in bleach. I have trained DP now and it is a beautiful, clean toileted paradise.

'and it's still there. Staring ... It may be a house guest long after I've gone at this rate'.

So if you do have a toilet brush, how do you make it acceptable and as clean as it can be? And if you don't have one, how do you ... manage?