To think it is beyond rude & disgusting to leave shit stains in the toilet

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I fear I am reacting particularly badly to this as am feverish & knackered, but...

My parents are visiting - my DC are 2 and 10 weeks.
All gone pretty smoothly until this morning, just before we went out. I went to the loo & discovered a delightful array of shit stains all over the pan.

I asked my dad - yes it was him, he tried to get them off... But what?! Couldn't be arsed so left them for me to deal with?! Wtf?!?!

I'm so pissed off its unreal. Before taking DD to bed for her nap just now I asked one of them to clean it. I seriously never thought I'd have to have that conversation with my dad.

My mum was upstairs. There was no way she would leave it like that.

That is disgusting, and annoys me too. But in his defence, he probably just assumed they would go away after a few flushes and didn't actually expect you to clean it up.

(Do you have a toilet brush BTW? I know they aren't popular on MN...)

I don't understand why some think it is unreasonable for the OP to have asked her father to clean his own shit off her toilet. If I shit in someone else's toilet and left it there I would expect to be asked to clean it up.

This. Seriously, wtf is WRONG with some people?!

I'd be mortified if I'd left shit skids over the toilet - mine or anyone else's!
I'd definitely scrub them off, I wouldn't expect someone else to clean up my skids! I don't think YWBU to ask him to clean the toilet.

YANBU!! He should have cleaned it before you noticed it. It is not ok to leave shit stains on a toilet.

I am fairly sure that if he were unwell, or had any other problems thagt made him unable to do it, the OP would have just cleaned it herself.

Dp does this sometimes in a morn then rushes off to work! I hate it! I have threatened to take a pic next time and shame him on facebook. If my daddy dearest did it though as a house guest I'd be polite and clean it and not mention it. I'd probably panic it was a sign of bowel problems and insist he see a doctor!

I would have just gone in and cleaned it up. He is my Dad. After everything he's done for me in my life it's not that big a deal.

Plus if he gets unwell when he's elderly I will clear up whatever is necessary.

Urgh, we used to have this with BIL and FIL when they used to stay at our house. I don't see it as my job to clean up the shit of an able bodied adult. YANBU OP

I would expect people to clean up after themselves, but there is no way I would be so rude as to ask them to.

He's your Dad ffs, I'm sure he has wiped your arse enough times.

most people I know wouldn't leave shit stains all over the toilet

Do you mean because they would use your loo brush? Some people (maybe not your dad, admittedly) are really phobic of germs and hence loo brushes.

Plus if he gets unwell when he's elderly I will clear up whatever is necessary.

What has this got to do with the OP?

I'm sure we'd all clean up after sick parents!

It's horrible - but I would never shame a guest , let alone my dad

If its not a big deal why can't he clear it up himself? Am seriously at some of these responses.

Sparklingbrook I keep spotting you everywhere, you talk an enormous amount of sense and I like your cat

I hope we would cuntflap.

Thanks Gobblers, Sparkling Cat talks lots of sense too.

I don't see why the OP should have cleared it up at all. My father would leave skid marks in my loo and think nothing of it, because my mother just cleans up after him.

In my house, I do not clean DPs shit and he does not clean mine, assuming we are all healthy. I'll be buggered if I'm cleaning up for my father just because it's that way for him at home!

YANBU. It's also a lot easier to wipes skids off if they are fresh and not solidified. Wodge of bog roll, wipe your arse. Wodge of bog roll, wipe toilet. Not hard.

God I am laughing at the poor dad stuff.

I re-read the OP and can't see where on earth she has been rude. Her dad was the rude one leaving her loo in a state.

I would certainly ask. It doesn't say in the OP 'oi dad you have left shit all over the loo' - for all we know she could have been politeness itself.

Why should a woman with a newborn baby and a toddler to look after clean shite stains off a toilet when the person who left the stains is perfectly capable?

OP I bet your mum went and cleaned up for him.

I'm with you OP, but I am a woos so probably wouldn't say anything. My DH runs his business from home and employs a lady to do his admin. She leaves floaters in the loo or shit stains and doesn't flush properly. Neither of us has ever said anything to her though - but I make DH deal with it.....

Is there a loo brush and bleach in there?, if not then what was he to do-it is kind of embarrising to have to tell someone you have stained their loo.
Yabu as embarresed your dad, which isn't nice, loo's are for poo, these things happen the world will not end!
Of course if he has done it more than once yanbu

Then I think we need to ask OP her exact words and tone of voice when asking her Father if he pebble dashed the loo.

Perhaps she barged into the room and shouted in stentorian tones in manner of Brian Blessed 'whooooo has done the wild shites?'

Or 'Dad I am going to call you Mr Whirlysplat' from now on after what you did to my toilet'. Perhaps.