To think it is beyond rude & disgusting to leave shit stains in the toilet

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I fear I am reacting particularly badly to this as am feverish & knackered, but...

My parents are visiting - my DC are 2 and 10 weeks.
All gone pretty smoothly until this morning, just before we went out. I went to the loo & discovered a delightful array of shit stains all over the pan.

I asked my dad - yes it was him, he tried to get them off... But what?! Couldn't be arsed so left them for me to deal with?! Wtf?!?!

I'm so pissed off its unreal. Before taking DD to bed for her nap just now I asked one of them to clean it. I seriously never thought I'd have to have that conversation with my dad.

I don't know why but I am laughing at the admin ladies floaters! Is your dh a mean boss

I would have asked him to clean it too.
I used to be a cleaner in a Care Home and cleaned shitty toilets daily. It never bothered me, the folks doing it couldn't help it.
I did refuse to clean the staff loo if it had pius/shit on it though, as the staff were perfectly capable of not making a mess/cleaning it themselves.
I actually refused to even go in there after finding a piece of shitty loo roll on the windowsill.

I'm with you OP, I'm amazed that a grown man would leave shit stains in the toilet.

But I suspect that he leaves shit stains in his own toilet and your mother cleans up after him, so he didn't know how to do clean it properly.

My teenage DS is a swine for this, and I am trying to train him to understand that adults wield the toilet brush after themselves and do not leave it for the toilet-cleaning-fairy me

Last week at our office a lovely woman left a mahoosssive turd in the bottom of the loo - that wouldn't flush despite several of us hopping in flushing and running away. No way was I loo brushing someone else's turd monster

The only acceptable response to a shit stained loo is to clean it.

You may just get away with mentioning 'would you mind cleaning the loo after you' to your partner but anyone else it's very non-U.

They are guests in your house, if they shite in the right place the person responsible for the home (the owner or designated cleaner) cleans it.

I would have just gone in and cleaned it up. He is my Dad. After everything he's done for me in my life it's not that big a deal

Quite!

I'm sending my DH to yours every time he needs a shite, Laurie!

Yes you are. It was a bit grim, I'm sure but there was no need to embarrass your dad like that.

And it's also perfectly fine to think privately that the person who does it is disgusting. Privately, mind.

There should be no discussions of someone else's shit with them.

I agree laurie

My Grandfather stayed with us last year - the loo ended up being blocked, it was NOT nice. I just donned the Marigolds and got on with it - wouldn't have dreamed of embarrassing him!

delightful array of shit stains hahaha love it! Sounds like they were rainbow coloured skid marks!

I think we should defer to Germany on this (and every other) matter.

The Germans frequently have a sign pointing at the toilet brush that says "use this after you've used the toilet".

Indeed. It is fucking disgusting to leave shit on someone else's (or your own) toilet.

Having said that, I would never confront someone with it. I would just quietly resent them forever.

I would never ever speak to my Dad like that

course I'd mutter imprecations under my breath while cleaning it up but...it's your Dad! Who loved you and gave you life and probably spent about 3 years cleaning up your shit!

I agree that I would not have a discussion about bodily functions with my Dad. Ever.

My dad had fecal incontinence a few months ago and I had to clean the bed sheets and toilet and his legs and feet. Wouldnt have dreamed of embarrassing him, BUT when he is nice and healthy, there is no reason for him to leave the toilet dirty, and he normally doesn't. OP's father is a healthy man, of course he should clean his pop sauna

POO STAINS *

I think he could have cleaned his 'pop sauna' too rainy.

"Poor Dad"????

Is he ill?

If not-why the bloody hell should a capable adult be leaving shit for someone else to clean?

I clean any toilet that I use if necessary-doesn´t everyone?

My dad wouldn't notice if he had, he's old, deaf and doddery so I would clean it up.

If it was an able bodied adult I would assume they didn't know and clean up, it only takes seconds with a loo brush.

Think u were rude and embarrassed yourself to he honest.

I don't really care about shit stains in the toilet. Doesn't everyone leave them sometimes? I clean them or DH does, I don't require anyone to take ownership of them. It's not like I have to clean them with my bare hands!

AND I have a toilet brush!

Sorry but "poo sauna".

YUCK. Get these images from my mind.

Eh? Since when do we have to be so grateful to our parents for giving us life that we have to clean up their poop in the loo? If they are ill, fine. If not, then they should be embarrassed.

Weird reverence stuff going on. Very strange.

I avoid this dilemma entirely by never pooing at someone else's house.

Ever :)

I never do it at work either, and very very rarely in public toilets.

Problem solved!

It's not like I have to clean them with my bare hands!

Exactly!