To think buying big rewards for school reports is unnecessary?

[Molehillmountain]

Friend of ours has bought year one child a trampoline as a reward for a good end of year report. Didn't occur to me to do anything other than read report with child and say well done. Am I a meanie?

I never had rewards
Dd just got an iPad as a reward
Nuff said

DS is in reception, I made him his favourite dinner to say well done.

GCSE's he'll get something, not sure what though!

My two sisters both got given shares when they passed their GCSE's. I declined the offer of shares and instead had tickets for entry to the nightclub Progress (I loved my hardhouse at the time...) and a new outfit bought, if I remember correctly The Matrix was very big then and I had a long black rubbery coat, knee high boots and a black mini skirt.

Reward both effort and performance!

I did the same bought 2 books I would of got them to be read over the holidays anyway cost 9 pound cheaper than computer game promised to Ds classmate by parent

I wonder if the mum in the op was going to get a trampoline anyway, and just saw it as an opportunity to encourage good behaviour.

What do you think the child might get at end of year 2? year 3? etc. I reckon she'd have a flat in Belgravia by the end of year 6.

I'm considering swapping for my parents for ones which will reward me properly, in future

I didn't get rewards as a child but I remember my Dad being so proud of my GCSE results he nailed them to the wall for all to see. His pride at my achievement was a great reward.
It's down to each parent to do what they like. Trampoline does sound a little extravagant to me though but each to their own.

We didn't get rewards as kids - everyone just had a meltdown if you didn't get A's. Not fun and not particularly motivating either.

I'm not fussed about the grades so much as the effort, if they've tried their best that's all you can ask. I dish out £1 for an A and 50p for a B so they can buy themselves a little pressie ... A whole trampoline seems a bit over the top though!

My dgs aged 3 and 5 are being taken to Manchester's legoland as a treat because they have lovely reports about behaviour and helpfulness.

A trampoline is a bit much, but every family is different. I have to say I do reward mine and at times bribe them to do well in school. I know some dc have a great work ethic but mine don't. They take after me. They have brains but would rather have a bit of fun in school. So if I have to cajole, bribe, reward the to their graduation I will do it. My dad did the same with us, it worked.
I have 3 sheets stuck to the fridge at the minute, they get a star for each piece of work they do while they'r off school (holidays here already) when the sheets filled, they get a tenner. Probably not uber parenting but....

we are about to go our for dinner as a family - to say well done for excellent reports, consistently excellent attitudes to learning, ballet exam and music exam, and enthusiasm for school life. (no stealth boast at all me! ;) )

we want to celebrate with the DC, rather than reward or bribe.

we are about to go our for dinner as a family - to say well done for excellent reports, consistently excellent attitudes to learning, ballet exam and music exam, and enthusiasm for school life. (no stealth boast at all me! ;) )

we want to celebrate with the DC, rather than reward or bribe.

It's more about effort and progress than grades to me. DS is only six and he's a bright little boy but I doubt he'll be particularly academic in later years, but as long as he tries his best, that'll be good enough for me. I, on the other hand, was a lazy little sod who still managed to get very good GCSE grades with minimal effort. I wasn't rewarded and I didn't deserve it. If DS comes out with grades half as good as mine, but has worked his little socks off, there'll be a reward.