AIBU re: Nursery and Food

[thisismyAIBUname]

I'm a bit pissed off with nursery but not sure whether I am BU and a bit PSB.

I went back to work on Monday from maternity leave. DD2 is 9.5 months and BF. She is weaning well and will eat most food but still loves her milk, however, she is a bottle refuser. She loves yoghurt though, and when I have not been there to feed her before I went back to work, she has been fine with food, greek yoghurt and water.

The nursery she is in is the same one DD1 went to for four years and is generally very good. It is a small nursery (35 places across 4 rooms), has excellent facilities and a low staff turnover amongst the room leaders (3 of the 4 room leaders have been there since DD1 started.

I took DD2 there for an hour a couple of weeks before I started back to work to discuss things with the room leader. I asked her to remind me what sort of puddings they gave the kids - she said yoghurt and fruit, ice cream, fruit pies and custard. I was a bit and said I would prefer it if DD didn't have ice cream or custard until she was over 1.

She went for her first day on Monday. They had sausages, potatoes and veg for lunch and ham sandwiches for afternoon snack.

Today they had chicken pie but then her day sheet said ice cream.

Now as it is she is having a bit of a tough time of it - major separation anxiety plus she is a bit under the weather so she refused all food today and the ham sandwich on Monday. However, I am more than a bit that they are offering ham to babies under 12 months at all given the salt content, especially after a meal containing sausages which are also likely to be salty. I am also surprised that they think ice cream and custard are appropriate for under 12 months but am really pissed off they ignored my instructions that I didn't want DD2 to have them.

Would I be unreasonable to enquire with the manager on Monday whether they are using low salt ham and sausages and low sugar / baby ice cream and custard and if not WTF they are thinking giving them to babies? And also raising the fact that I specifically did not want DD having ice cream?

have a (low sugar)

thanks squeaky

Am happy to acknowledge that I may be suffering from a bit of separation anxiety myself which may be making me a little PSB .

I am however, normally pretty laid back about most things DC related, but for some reason this is really bugging me.

Id be annoyed if I specifically asked that she be given no ice cream, but then if she was fed it anyway. Just remind them politely! YADNBU about that. My 9 month old was given two digestive biscuits the other day- I didn't say anything but will keep a close eye on his daily diary!

It seems a bit silly for them to completely ignore your specific instructions - perhaps they need it to be written down on a dietary requirements sheet or something? They could've just substituted the ice cream for yoghurt, no?

I hope it was breast milk ice cream.

Sorry yabu. The ham is really a non issue. The icecream is slightly more irritating but you can't expect your child not to have the same pudding as everyone else.

Realise it's hard but yabu

YANBU
I would be fuming if my under one DS was given sausages and ice cream. Even more do because you told them not to. Complain!

YANBU at all, that food for a baby sounds awful. Sausages and ham, not meant to be good for anyone, can cause cancers. You are paying a lot of money I would expect decent healthy food. That food is ok as a one off but not regularly

Fuming because your under 1 was given sausages? Seriously Olimipa?

They shouldn't have given ice cream when you had specifically said not but both otherwise it sounds fine to me.

there is no evidence that sausages can cause cancer. Down with DailyFail science!

there is no evidence that sausages can cause cancer. Down with DailyFail science!

I wouldn't be happy with sausages because of the salt content, the fact that pork is hard to digest even for adults and for all the additives and extra ingredients they put in sausages. Deffo not baby food IMO.

I dread to think what 'low sugar' ice-cream and custard are sweetened with.

Sausages and ham can cause cancer???? Explain how please

No not daily fail science at all. You don't know what those sausages are bulked out with? I would not be happy with that food for a baby or toddler on a daily basis

But nothing that the OP has said has suggested its a daily basis.

I never understand on this sort of threads why people dont scrutinise the menus before they send the child to the nursery if they are so fussy about what the child is fed.

The baby is 9.5 months FGS! Who would feed a diet of sausages and ice cream to such a young baby?

It does increase the risk of colorectal cancer, look it up in medica journals such as The British Medical Journal and lancet. I am on my I pad so don't know how to link. Anyway it's a pretty rubbish diet for a baby

You know exactly what sausages are bulked out with. Thats why we have ingredients list on every packet. Cancer isn't written on any of them.
I repeat, there is no evidence that sausages cause cancer.

You know exactly what sausages are bulked out with. Thats why we have ingredients list on every packet. Cancer isn't written on any of them.
I repeat, there is no evidence that sausages cause cancer.

"The baby is 9.5 months FGS! Who would feed a diet of sausages and ice cream to such a young baby?"

Hardly being fed it every day though, so an occasional taste is not going to do any harm.

How do you know penis are you a doctor, or work in a related field . When the baby is given sausages do they give the parents the packet to read, no they just give it to the baby

why can't your baby have ice cream? Did I miss something, I mean obviously if you say no that is that but I am just wondering.

You know exactly what sausages are bulked out with. Thats why we have ingredients list on every packet. Cancer isn't written on any of them.
I repeat, there is no evidence that sausages cause cancer.