AIBU re: Nursery and Food

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I'm a bit pissed off with nursery but not sure whether I am BU and a bit PSB.

I went back to work on Monday from maternity leave. DD2 is 9.5 months and BF. She is weaning well and will eat most food but still loves her milk, however, she is a bottle refuser. She loves yoghurt though, and when I have not been there to feed her before I went back to work, she has been fine with food, greek yoghurt and water.

The nursery she is in is the same one DD1 went to for four years and is generally very good. It is a small nursery (35 places across 4 rooms), has excellent facilities and a low staff turnover amongst the room leaders (3 of the 4 room leaders have been there since DD1 started.

I took DD2 there for an hour a couple of weeks before I started back to work to discuss things with the room leader. I asked her to remind me what sort of puddings they gave the kids - she said yoghurt and fruit, ice cream, fruit pies and custard. I was a bit and said I would prefer it if DD didn't have ice cream or custard until she was over 1.

She went for her first day on Monday. They had sausages, potatoes and veg for lunch and ham sandwiches for afternoon snack.

Today they had chicken pie but then her day sheet said ice cream.

Now as it is she is having a bit of a tough time of it - major separation anxiety plus she is a bit under the weather so she refused all food today and the ham sandwich on Monday. However, I am more than a bit that they are offering ham to babies under 12 months at all given the salt content, especially after a meal containing sausages which are also likely to be salty. I am also surprised that they think ice cream and custard are appropriate for under 12 months but am really pissed off they ignored my instructions that I didn't want DD2 to have them.

Would I be unreasonable to enquire with the manager on Monday whether they are using low salt ham and sausages and low sugar / baby ice cream and custard and if not WTF they are thinking giving them to babies? And also raising the fact that I specifically did not want DD having ice cream?

Tracy that is very gracious, much appreciated, thank you

YANBU. It doesn't sound like a great diet. Can you provide your own food?

OP - I'd not be happy with a 9month old being fed that diet. In fact I moved my then 9 month old dd from one childminder to another just because she was feeding them processed food like nuggets and chips (there were other issues too). 9 months is too young for that type of processed food due to its salt content.

My 9mo has had most of a taste of my ice cream at the park twice now... And a sausage once, as its what we were eating.

TraceyWasADegenerate I try to stay away from AIBU when wine has been taken. Chat is much safer. Too easy to get carried away when tipsy. Love the name change

I love that word. I haven't used it for ages!

Just to re-iterate. I don't have a problem with sausages (have given some to DD myself when it is what we've been having). Also, I should probably point out that it was sausage pasta, so not like they pureed up three of them with chips and beans.

It was more the ham which I don't agree with due to the salt content. I only mentioned the sausages because while ham is not good, the fact that it followed a meal that contained sausage made it a whole lot worse in terms of salt content.

Honestly - the food at the nursery is really very good. It is on a four weekly rota , has good variety and is by and large cooked from scratch. It's not like they serve up tinned spaghetti on toast or processed chicken nuggets every day. The day she had ice cream, the meal had been home made chicken pie, new potatoes and vegetables, which sounds quite yummy actually.

For an older child I would have no problem at all with ham sandwiches and ice cream just not for a baby under1

ooops - name change fail oh well.

YANBU to fret about PFB going into nursery. I had a total freak out when my PFB went in and when I went to pick her up she was wearing a different top because she had been a bit sicky. For the first time she was wearing something I hadn't chosen for her!
But I still think you are going to have to get over it. She's going to want to eat what the others have. Sorry.

Wow, do you think they'd send me their Rota?! I run out of ideas for 9mo DS, he has omlettes for lunch 5x a week...

Thanks, MrsTP Wise words indeed!

seems weird they gave your dc food you asked not to - but maybe was a genieune mistake -though still bad

surprised a nursery is giving sausages and ice cream to under 1's anyway - but if you have seen the 4 week rota and rest of menu plan is ok tbh i would let it lie