to think our neighbour is spying on me through a wall?

[gnocci]

We live in a semi but a semi that backs onto another house, so our entire back wall is another house's entire back wall IYSWIM. So upstairs we share a wall on our bedroom, the landing and our bathroom.

The only noise I ever hear from their house is that noise of a pull switch light cord. And the only time I ever hear it is just after I go to the bathroom at night before I go to bed. Whatever the time. I never hear it before or after. Without fail it is just after I leave the bathroom. I go to bed at very random times (DH works away...). it could be 8pm, it could be 1am. Whatever time it is, I always hear that cord go within 20 seconds of me leaving the bathroom...

Uuummmmmm AIBU to think I might be being spied on..??!!! How do I find out for sure?!!

Heh, I said at the beginning I'd just live with it
But, really, building at night isn't on. You are entitled. I was thinking more along the lines of DH going, not little ol' you!

... might be best he takes a jam sandwich with him, just in case ...

Maybe you could wear a stab-proof vest and take a penknife with you for protection

This is not good enough Gnocci. We want MORE satisfaction.

We need you to go for a wee....and then pause...and look all around the room...then bend out of sight and say "I see you peeper!"

If yu hear a scuffle or a gasp then you'll know.

You will be so pissed off when the occupant turns out to be a single mum.

Probably just as well you won't go round there then, it'd make your bedtimes so much more boring if you knew!!

... Forget I said that It's definitely a family of hungry poltergeists with weak bladders and a webcam.

thespokennerd that did make laugh

Aaahhh I need sleep, but hooked on gnoccis light twitching neighbour and poltiguists in the converted attic thread. Stayed awake last night waiting for her to wee for an update. i need help

gnocci, did you let your son go to the loo than and listen ? Intrigued ...

My son is 20 months... he wees in his nappies in his cot I will however be sending DH in in a short while :)

Just had a break,- delighted this is still a mystery!
If no-one's living in your loft, and it sounds lovely, you could easily set up some kind of covert operation of your own. Just a few wires and a tiny little hole...

What does your dh say about all of this? Coincidence and Paranoia? Or does he agree that it's too weird?

What happened gnocci?

So it was a poltyguist then? Oh gnocci where are you??????

Love how interest has dropped to one person haha.

Well DH went round (after hearing the light cord himself)! Found the house and complained about the drilling. They apologised. He chickened out of asking to use the bathroom.......!!

Anyway he said it was a man, early 60s... Said he seemed "alright"

Thing is, even if you went in their bathroom you would not easily be able to find spying devices would you? As they would likely be hidden?

What I want to know is whether the guy looked like he recognised your DH when he called round???? Maybe not with his trouser on I suppose...

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So it is a dirty old man?

Ohhhh it's a man!!

Why don't you drill a small hole and spy on him ? That way you can see if he is spying on you...

Ooooh gnocci, so what next then??

I guess DH doesn't think you're being paranoid and over-anxious either then??

How long is DH home for?? Will he have more opportunity to check things out??

What about the room in the loft?? Certainly warrants further investigation surely????

Did DH offer a jam sandwich?

There are still a few of us intrigued gnocci. What does DH make of the 20 second switch, does the same thing happen to him? If it is something to do with your plumbing or electrics it will do the same to him as you.

More research is needed!

oooooh OP not that I'm one to gossip but there was a cue near me a couple of years ago where a very respectable man in his late 50s, was arrested for spying on his neighbour. He had installed a camera in her bathroom whilst he was visiting or something :-S Not sure whether I'll get told off for putting too much info on here, but those who look respectable, aren't always what they seem!!

That said, I'm sure your neighbour is watching you poo a weirdo. I;m sure its a coincidence or perhaps the noise isn't a pull cord, perhaps its a sound coming from the pipes after the toilet has been flushed??

case not cue

and isn't a weirdo, not is....damn you Apple!!