AIBU to be livid

[Yummymummyyobe1]

Today I went to baby clinic to have DS1 weighed as usual and over heard a conversation between the HV's and the woman who lives next door but one. The woman from next door was complaining about the number of delivery people that had been to our house this week (toy deliveries) and how is unfair how some children have everything given to them on a plate blah blah blah blah. The HV was agreeing and mentioned she knew which family she was talking about before stopping dead in her tracks, when she saw me standing there.

I was livid as this seems so unprofessional to gossip about another family and their goings on (she has been to the house and passed comment on the toys etc our DS1 has) and also livid with the person next door but one for being a nosiy parker just because she doesn't have doesn't mean she has a right to bitch. AIBU to be livid and would you report this?

I hope this doesnt contravene MN talk guidelines but does anyone know how they know whats going on the vast number of threads ?

Do they have 1000's of worker thread readers ?

Its very impressive though

I am not all that surprised tbh. Our community midwife gossiped about our NCT group leader to me and about me to a friend re our labours etc. very worrying. YANBU.

@gettingeasier

I hope this doesnt contravene MN talk guidelines but does anyone know how they know whats going on the vast number of threads ?

Do they have 1000's of worker thread readers ?

Its very impressive though

The secret service does not comment on procedure.

gettingeasier They have as many worker thread readers as the OP has delivery people coming to her house

I read somewhere that they cloned themselves, and that the clones all live/work in a two bedroom flat in Marrakesh.

OP considers baby names!!!!

I'm sorry Olivia

Kudos on lightning fast deletion

It's probably some complicated algorithm (or something like that), taking into account:

• number of replies to a thread in a certain time
• key words mentioned (troll, bridge, moo, total bollocks, etc)
• certain posters posting on a thread
• frequent use of and

Once a critical mass has been reached, an alarm goes off in MumsNetTowers and whoever is on duty springs into action.

Vermicious

And heres me thinking that me gettin 2 deliveries this week was too much.

Note to self 'must buy more things'

WhosPickleisThatOnion even so she should not be gossiping about it. xx

Oh sorry OP I never actually answered your AIBU caught up in the whole thing as I have been

I think perhaps if I were you I would focus on the fact that it sounds like you have a secure, happy set up in life and are loving being a Mum. A bit of chit chat about your doings is a bit out of order but not that big a deal and no way would I report it.

Let it go

Thanks lovebunny i shall adopt that tactic.

Graciescotland thanks.

My DP and I are in our early 30's happyhopefulmummy

EBDTeacher thanks we do go and play on the beach and in the local park.

The baby names are priceless.

Is it just me but is all the "posh" names, skanky neighbours and 100 toys meant to be screaming look at me, I'm rich, and wonderful but is actually screaming i want people to LOOK AT ME AND THINK how wonderful I am, when in actual fact, they are thinking the complete opposite

1. Having a tide of toys won't advantage your child, give them the 'edge' on other children. It won't make them super bright. There are activities and fun things you can do that encourage their cognitive ability but it isn't achieved by surrounding them in a home version of Hamleys.
2. Family and friends like to buy gifts too but you are going to have a lot of duplication or struggle to know what to buy your ds and of course gift give at birthdays and Christmas going to ever swell the plethora of 'stuff'
3. If you are only going to have the one child you may turn him into a Little Emperor with all the emphasis on material possessions as a way of showing love. If you plan to have any more dcs what are you going to give them? Well, if it's a girl I suppose you could start on the pink version of everything.
4. Dcs only get more expensive as they get older.
5. Do you really have nothing to do all day but sit on the Internet and shop? Are you lonely at home with dc?

I think it's sad really :(

The OP must feel very insecure about status and material possessions.

These things don't matter OP

The op says she and her husband both work.

I'm struggling to see where she finds time to buy all this stuff and be at home for the delivery man?

Maybe that's why she buys all these things?
Are you feeling guilty op (sorry can't bring myself to type your nn) for working?
If you are, then buying thousands of pounds worth of toys is not going to make you feel better.

oh come on...how many toy deliveries can you have in one week????
I used to lead a toddler group and had regular toy deliveries to my house to top up/replace my stock. OMG my neighbours must have thought we were spoiling our DCs rotten!

Thanks ladies. I have spoken with my Dp and he has suggested I have a word with the HV before I report her as she might be able to shed some light on the early part of the conversation.

We do spend time with DS1 singing and reading and playing but these items are for him to play with when hw needs them. I am currently on Mat leave so am in for items to be delivered if not the other neighbours take things in for us as we do for them.

I understand that this level of spending sounds crazy but it makes sense to us. We are going to ensure that DS doesn't become spoilt as this would be unacceptable. We arent doing anybody any harm at the end of the day and live well within our means. The family in question are in reicpt of Housing benifit and the house was the only one large enough to house them, other than this family the road is lovely and people are of a similar background to us.

Why do people who don't agree with the op decide that they are unhinged ? And so what if she spends an absurd amount of money on her ds ? It's her money and se can spend it on whatever the hell she likes !
What she spends her money on is not the issue here, but yet you've all jumped on it and took the opportunity to have a right old laugh at someone .

The point is the op is upset that her hv was clearly talking about her which is unprofessional .

Op if you can I would just ignore it . She will already be feeling sheepish and the nicer you are the guiltier she will feel .

I dont find it a large amount of money to spend

I do find it an odd thing to tell other people though, but then I was brought up not to discuss such things

Ok

Someone in one of the sea of your threads said you sound snooty and a couple of other adjectives that slip my mind. Your last sentence is vile.

exactly catgirl