AIBU to be livid

[Yummymummyyobe1]

Today I went to baby clinic to have DS1 weighed as usual and over heard a conversation between the HV's and the woman who lives next door but one. The woman from next door was complaining about the number of delivery people that had been to our house this week (toy deliveries) and how is unfair how some children have everything given to them on a plate blah blah blah blah. The HV was agreeing and mentioned she knew which family she was talking about before stopping dead in her tracks, when she saw me standing there.

I was livid as this seems so unprofessional to gossip about another family and their goings on (she has been to the house and passed comment on the toys etc our DS1 has) and also livid with the person next door but one for being a nosiy parker just because she doesn't have doesn't mean she has a right to bitch. AIBU to be livid and would you report this?

Hurrah for ebdteacher!!! What she said.

Stop showing off, flashing your cash and expecting us to ooh and ahh. Clearly we aren't. Do what ebd said to truly stimulate your baby. Also look at him, talk, make faces etc. This is much more beneficial.

"I will try to stop as I do not want to have to be a mean mummy when I say no."

A mummy that says no is not mean. She's a good mother that understands balance. If you think saying no makes you mean then you are on a slippery slope to raising a spolit cretin that no-one will want to know. Or, a poor little sod that will be used and milked purely for his material stuff.

Seriously OP, reading your profile you're all about child development and its importance yet you're missing the basics. Your baby wants nothing but you! And you should be demonstrating all the values that you want to instill in a child, generosity (not materialism), grace, gratitude. You're coming across as a snobby, snooty condescending cow across your threads.

Seriously, download a copy of the eyfs, get thinking about ways you can play with him not chucking plastic tat his way. You made a glib comment about becoming a childminder on another thread, forget that, kids need stimulating play from an all encompassing non judgemental caregiver.

Oh and i hope to christ that when your ds is 5, he chooses the 'less salubrious' neighbours child as his bestest ever friend.

Look, you should have just opened your mouth there and then and said it's really none of your business what I choose to buy my child.

Speak up!

re the actual buying, you're going to get a lot of stick, this bunch of buggers will tell you that a child should have a grand total of 3 toys at any one time in their entire life and have no more than £20 spent on them at Christmas (you know I love all you meaniepants anyway though )

I understand where you're coming from. When I had my first - I went nuts. Every toy known to man. Hundreds of them. Every time I went out, I'd come back with a toy or an outfit or both. He had piles of clothes that he never even got to wear!

His first christmas (7mths old) many hundreds of pounds spent on him and a pile of gifts half as high as the christmas tree!

I get where you're coming from. I had the madness too.

(He spent christmas morning eating the wrapping paper, btw! )

It's not a big deal. If you have the money and you want to spend the money, then that's got nothing to do with anyone else. It doesn't affect them in any way.

You'll probably get over it. I did. And if you don't, it still doesn't affect anyone else so don't bother if they comment. The only person you need to guard against it affecting is your child, because you need to ensure that they don't grow up into a grabby, materialistic I Want I Want I Want person.

I am confused. The OP seems to be constantly talking about how affluent she is and yet a close neighbour is as described. How do they afford to live there?
OP we get it, you want everyone to think you have money. Yay some people you don't know think you have money. I think you have a serious problem. Not the spend btw.
I don't believe the hv story either sorry. You happened to take your as to the hv at the exact same time as neighbour who happened to be talking about you. I think you hope they have seen your deliveries, if you had them, and hope they are talking about it.
Truth is, they don't give a shit about you or precious dcs.

So the skanky neighbours to the left who tried to borrow a nappy after seeing your delivery has now been gossiping to HV after seeing 10 toy deliveries.

Can I give you a bit of advice?

Stop getting things delivered.
Go to the shop like everyone else.

And if your neighbours are so skanky, you clearly are living in the wrong area.
Pack up all your money, which you clearly want us to think you have coming out of your ears, and live somewhere where no one cares that delivery vans are outside your house morning noon and night

HTH

although...quick question.
If you both work, who on earth is letting all your delivery people in?

God my neighbours must think I'm awful, I order toilet rolls, washing powder, nappies, coffee etc all off amazon to save carrying them with the pushchair so always getting deliveries. The drivers/postman sometimes comment which annoys me its their job to deliver so what does it matter how many times they come to mine!

Yanbu I would report her.

Haven't read the whooole thread, but i will just look forward to your posts when you have a spoilt tantrumming 2 year old that has never had to want or share with a sibling who you can't 'say no' to because you think you're being mean. Ha! Ever looked after toddlers for a substantial length of time OP?
Do you really think that never having to want for something will make a balanced happy child who knows the value of hard work and money?

Curiouser and curiouser

One day you might wish you had made friends with your neighbour, both for your sake and your childs.

I don't care how many toys your kid has. There again it is people like you who make life difficult for parents like me, when we try and instil a work ethic into our children.
It is not good for children to get everything they want in life without any effort. Having to explain to children why they cannot have x when spoilt little shit y down the road only has to snap their fingers and there mummydear gets them one is very annoying.

Oh I miss ALL the best threads

Start a new one yummy. Something must not have happened to you at allhappened to you today that's worthy of another thread.

If it helps, I saw one of my neighbours drinking a can of larger in their front garden yesterday. The front. Terrible. I will be sure never to give their children any food or nappies. Can't be too careful I say.

Catgirl. Did you not go complain to your other neighbours while you were having your annual meeting for your street trip away?

Strange. Must be an issue with the networks or summat.

I'm off now to buy a pony for my 8 month old.I notice op doesn't have one [smug]

I'm lying of course, like most who casually drop in the Richer Than You Bombs into posts I actually don't have two shits to rub together

Ahem.

Well I did 5inthebed

We decided they could still come on the Summer run to Cornwall, but NOT the ski trip in March. And that's only because they were drinking a trendy Eastern European larger. If it had been Fosters or something, I think we would have tried to get them evicted.

I am not sure the OP is very good at boasting. I understood that it was actually considered rather common to buy lots of toys and to be really MC, you need to be going down the "oh we don't want to get little Jasper involved in consumerism and certainly wouldn't buy an plastic tat from ToysRUs....no, he makes do with a fair trade, wooden spoon....it's so much more stimulating and it's teaching him about free trade and fair labout policies"

Or something

it's the fuzz, scramble!

I'm intrigued what creations a 7 week old can rattle off with a megabloks table set...

Morning Olivia

OP have you ever read 'Shopaholic'?

I love MN , the insights into how other people choose to live , the kinds of things they are prepared to openly ask a public forum.

That list of toys ? I mean who would actually do that ?

Great entertainment though